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Been given a face to face appointment at my GP… AIBU to call and push back?

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tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 10:35

I have another ongoing issue which I am under the hospital for, but I’ve been told I need to approach my GP for pain relief at the moment.

I did this a couple of months ago and got a phone call and a prescription no problem. I’m running out and need some more. This time I filled out the new AI questionnaire and it’s given me an urgent appointment for tomorrow. I called up the surgery and they said it’s because the AI has flagged me as being at risk of arthritis (???) or a DVT!!! I asked the receptionist if this was right as a DVT is pretty serious and I’m sure I don’t have one, but apparently because I’ve ticked that I get swelling it’s a risk factor and I now need to come in.

I just think this is so silly and I’m taking up an appointment for something that’s really not that serious! I just feel like I’ll look such a knob tomorrow sat there. AIBU to call back and push back?

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WallaceinAnderland · 20/04/2026 16:16

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 15:03

That’s not what I said, is it?

What other reason could you have for thinking they will judge you for being emotional about your medical problems?

ilovesooty · 20/04/2026 15:59

When I was taking Naproxen for joint pain it was regularly reviewed face to face because it can cause fluid retention and kidney issues. Since you mention swelling it might be why they want to see you.

Incidentally I ended up on the day unit of the hospital with acute diverticulitis and have been told that I can't take it any more. I had to manage on paracetamol after that for a while.

I've now had a hip replacement.

GertieLawrence · 20/04/2026 15:21

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:01

To a degree, but I have a diagnosis. If there was space for me to add that it would be useful.

You don’t need to add it. It’s there on your record in existing conditions, you can see it in the App.

saraclara · 20/04/2026 15:05

He has to safeguard himself by seeing you

That.

The only bit about this that would annoy me is the time off work element. But in general I prefer my GPs to be cautious and thorough, given that as a family we lost someone to a casual misdiagnosis.

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 15:03

WallaceinAnderland · 20/04/2026 14:35

It's a bit worrying that you work for the NHS but would judge someone for being emotional about their medical problems.

That’s not what I said, is it?

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WallaceinAnderland · 20/04/2026 14:35

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:06

I just feel that they’ll judge me for that

It's a bit worrying that you work for the NHS but would judge someone for being emotional about their medical problems.

Whosthetabbynow · 20/04/2026 14:25

Just go. The appointments are like gold dust in some areas x

Everanewbie · 20/04/2026 14:18

Hi OP. In the nicest possible way. Stop arguing. You've asked the question and I've never seen a thread so unanimous. Even the contrarian trolls or absent on this one. I hope it goes well.

godmum56 · 20/04/2026 14:11

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 10:54

I just feel a bit of a knob going in person for this, it’s so minor in the grand scheme of things

just bloody go and see the GP

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:51

Scarlettpixie · 20/04/2026 13:45

Being in so much pain you think you might cry at the appointment (despite having been taking Naproxen) is a very good reason to go! Especially if AI says no without a face to face. This is on their system if not needed and not on you. For future ref, try sending an email rather than using e-consult. I find it can be a good way to avoid all the unnecessary questions.

I know you say you don't want opioids but codeine is absolutely the best thing for me for bad pain. I have shoulder pain (frozen shoulder/osteoarthritis/chronic pain) and it is the only thing that helps me when it is bad. I take them sparingly and take OTC co-codamol when I can manage with it as codeine makes me constipated! I can't take Naproxen however because of stomach issues so I guess it is swings and rountabouts.

I hope they can give you something to make you feel better.

Cocodamol is what I’ve had such an awful reaction to, it’s kind of crazy how different things work

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IAmBeaIDrinkTea · 20/04/2026 13:47

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 10:54

I just feel a bit of a knob going in person for this, it’s so minor in the grand scheme of things

Let them be the judge of that. They think it warrants being seen to in person, and want to check you out.
Better safe than sorry.
They can't win, can they?! On the one hand you have people moaning that they can never get an appointment, when they give appointments you get people complaining they don't really need one;
At least they're bothering and care.

Scarlettpixie · 20/04/2026 13:45

Being in so much pain you think you might cry at the appointment (despite having been taking Naproxen) is a very good reason to go! Especially if AI says no without a face to face. This is on their system if not needed and not on you. For future ref, try sending an email rather than using e-consult. I find it can be a good way to avoid all the unnecessary questions.

I know you say you don't want opioids but codeine is absolutely the best thing for me for bad pain. I have shoulder pain (frozen shoulder/osteoarthritis/chronic pain) and it is the only thing that helps me when it is bad. I take them sparingly and take OTC co-codamol when I can manage with it as codeine makes me constipated! I can't take Naproxen however because of stomach issues so I guess it is swings and rountabouts.

I hope they can give you something to make you feel better.

RomeWasVisitedInADay · 20/04/2026 13:37

I don't understand why you think you'd 'look like a knob' or be wasting their time when the AI system the GP themselves installed to assess you and the human being receptionist has told you you should come in to a face-to-face appointment? They've made that decision for you and are happy with you coming in.

From your updates it sounds like you are in an awful lot of pain and really need some help, assuming you are not a trained GP or chronic pain specialist or rheumatologist or whatever consultant you are under, I would, in your shoes assume they all know what is the best action rather than you. If it turns out you don't have a DVT or any additional issues on top of the pain, then great, one less thing to worry about. I'd be grateful they are making the time to see you so quickly and take the opportunity to explain how much pain you are in and please don't worry about crying, that's completely normal and will help them see how bad it is. Perhaps there is better medication for you? It's a pain in the neck having to take time off work for appointments but I really think you should take this appointment, with zero concerns about wasting anyone's time.

PinkArt · 20/04/2026 13:31

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 11:44

I’m young and healthy besides this issue so I definitely am not, it’s just frustrating that they’re wasting an appointment on something that’s not urgent.

I was young & healthy when I had my first pulmonary embolism. I was a bit less young and a bit less healthy when I had by second, but still far from an old lady. Clots might be more common in older people but they can strike at any age, so please don't assume age or fitness rules them out.
You're in so much pain you can't sleep and the situation is so bad you might cry at the appointment - this is in no way wasting NHS resources or your time. Keep the apointment as is and use it to discuss if there is anything more effecting they can offer instead of/ as well as the meds you're requesting.

Vallmo47 · 20/04/2026 13:29

I would personally go because they will add the note that you’re all clear for future prescriptions to be had. Surgeries are inundated with calls from people saying I don’t want X and Y when that’s really not the receptionists job to determine. Yes I understand what your point is but they have a system to follow and your words won’t change that they’ve been told to use this system so it’s a waste of time calling to cancel. The only thing that will happen is you won’t be seen and you won’t get your meds renewed.
I work in a pharmacy and hear this kind of thing day in and out. I can only listen - I cannot change the system.

OpakaSulan · 20/04/2026 13:29

ilovesooty · 20/04/2026 10:55

That's for the professional to judge.

This! ^

ForEdgyHare · 20/04/2026 13:28

In Covid times I had a recurring hip pain that needed naproxen and cocodamol. I ended up seeing my GP 3 times before getting it on repeat. Even now my GP sees me every 6 months for a check and blood test to make sure everything is okay to be on them. You just need to go to the appointment. At the appointment you can ask about it on repeat

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:21

NiceCupOfChai · 20/04/2026 13:15

Sorry I wasn’t suggesting drug dependency, the opposite actually.

No I know it’s just grating that so many people have jumped to such a nasty conclusion

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Sahara123 · 20/04/2026 13:18

Jeez give it a rest now, Ive cried at endless medical appointments over the years, no one has judged me, just been kind and helped me. Just go to the appointment will you.
As a pp said, NHS and teachers can’t win sometimes, damned if they do, damned if they don’t.

NiceCupOfChai · 20/04/2026 13:15

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:10

I’ve told them explicitly before I want to avoid opiates as I’ve had bad experiences before (post surgery, unrelated to this issue, before I get any accusations of somehow seeking them out). All I want is a resolution and maybe I’m turning to the wrong place but until you’re young with joint pain rivalling your elderly family members, that stops you enjoying any aspect of you life (I’m a very active person and this just ruins that for me), I don’t think it’s fair to make accusations of drug dependency. I will hold off on taking painkillers for headaches or period cramps, until it’s unbearable. I stopped taking painkillers one day post surgery because I hate taking them. But I really am at the end of my tether when it comes to this injury now.

Sorry I wasn’t suggesting drug dependency, the opposite actually.

Enrichetta · 20/04/2026 13:11

Laserwho · 20/04/2026 11:00

That's your issue, not the doctors. He has to safeguard himself by seeing you

This. It would be irresponsible of any physician to prescribe a drug long term without having seen and assessed the patient.

Especially cases involving pain meds.

Untailored · 20/04/2026 13:10

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:06

I just feel that they’ll judge me for that

But why would they judge you? They’re doctors, they see patients upset and in pain all day long I imagine. Do you know them professionally?

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:10

NiceCupOfChai · 20/04/2026 13:08

I don’t think you’ve read the OP correctly. She’s not been given an appointment to discuss her request for painkillers, she’s been given the appointment because AI thinks she might have a DVT or arthritis. OP is not concerned about this as it’s a long term
problem that she’s been seen about before and has already been referred to secondary care.

Nothing about this thread suggests dependency/drug seeking, she’s just wants some anti-inflammatory for her inflammation!

I’ve told them explicitly before I want to avoid opiates as I’ve had bad experiences before (post surgery, unrelated to this issue, before I get any accusations of somehow seeking them out). All I want is a resolution and maybe I’m turning to the wrong place but until you’re young with joint pain rivalling your elderly family members, that stops you enjoying any aspect of you life (I’m a very active person and this just ruins that for me), I don’t think it’s fair to make accusations of drug dependency. I will hold off on taking painkillers for headaches or period cramps, until it’s unbearable. I stopped taking painkillers one day post surgery because I hate taking them. But I really am at the end of my tether when it comes to this injury now.

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NiceCupOfChai · 20/04/2026 13:08

Leavelingeringbreath · 20/04/2026 11:31

I'm guessing the reason you are cross is because you have to wait until tomorrow and you were hoping for just a prescription you could collect today and go and get filled.

Tbh OP making such a fuss over wanting to be seen by the doctor before prescribing prescription painkillers is a bit of a red flag that you have some dependency on the painkillers.

I don’t think you’ve read the OP correctly. She’s not been given an appointment to discuss her request for painkillers, she’s been given the appointment because AI thinks she might have a DVT or arthritis. OP is not concerned about this as it’s a long term
problem that she’s been seen about before and has already been referred to secondary care.

Nothing about this thread suggests dependency/drug seeking, she’s just wants some anti-inflammatory for her inflammation!

tulipsinbloomnow · 20/04/2026 13:06

Wendy83 · 20/04/2026 13:03

If you go the appt and then you do get emotional that’s not a bad thing, the GP will then be witness to your worry/pain and then maybe will be able to write to the hospital to expedite your referral

I just feel that they’ll judge me for that

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