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To think these house buyers are time wasters?

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Coolbeansjeans28 · 20/04/2026 09:10

Trying to keep this as clear as I can but it all seems a bit odd to me.

Context house on market for around a month, requires some work but this has been reflected in the price. Not looking to discuss this aspect.

Onto the real question. Had a viewing, was fairly brief and they have also got an offer in on another property but could pull out as they like our house, its location etc. In the end said house lovely but too large. Thanks but no thanks.

Later that day recieved an offer 100k under asking price due to work needed done etc. This offer was just declined as it is ridiculously below what we know the house is worth. This was later adjusted to 50k below stating they had made a mistake with the first offer (online EA). We countered with 25k below asking price as this is a low as we would like to go given the value of house and waht we need for onward purchase. They offered to meet in the middle of their offer and ours but we declined and they have said they need to consider if its affordable to them. We are happy to go a bit under with a stale market, lack of interest and just wanted to get the house sold!

But, the whole situation feels a bit off to me. The initial comment of it being too large so not for them, the purchase of another property which will be available sooner than ours (as they are currently in rented accommodation) and the messing about with wildly varied offers. My gut says avoid, but also if they come back woth an acceptable offer who am I to say no based on my own assumptions and imagining?

YABU - proceed with sale if offered.
YANBU - dont touch with a barge pole.

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Coolbeansjeans28 · 20/04/2026 19:04

ThatMauveMaker · 20/04/2026 18:39

A month isn't a very long time for a house to be on the market, especially if your agent is not great. £100k under the asking price is a cheeky offer. This early on the market I think stick to your guns and hold out for the price you are comfortable with.

If your house had been on the market 6 months to a year then reconsider what offer you would accept, but a month is nothing. Especislly if it hasn't got the 'wow factor'.

Also, does the online agent verify that a buyer has funding in place? That would be interesting with this first set of interest.

They do and it did say that the had not yet got a mortgage in principle... it doesnt stop them booking a viewing unfortunately

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Coolbeansjeans28 · 20/04/2026 18:59

YourKeenOpalMember · 20/04/2026 18:14

We had the same issues when we were selling our house. Buyers were coming in with ridiculous reasons to offer lower amount, one of them wanted to knock it down by 25K as there wasn’t an ofsted outstanding school in walking distance.

Our original buyer dragged his feet for a good month before instructing solicitors and then ghosted everyone for weeks before pulling out.

Our eventual buyer played games from the moment he looked at the property until we exchanged contracts…it was so much stress. He offered ridiculous under the value offers, tried to offer as cash in exchange for lowering the value, tried to make out the EA had told him we had originally sold it for less than we did and sat on the survey for months before suddenly having issues just as we were about to exchange. He eventually bought the property at the agreed price but only after the EA forwarded him a stern email from us basically saying we are more than happy to walk away from the sale and wish him well with upcoming wedding. Looking back I wish I went with my gut and gave him a swerve as he was still causing me grief months after he moved in. I think it all boils down to how much you want to move and how much you can afford to lose.

Wow that sounds awful! Sorry you had such a terrible experience, thats exactly what I'm worried about

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waterrat · 20/04/2026 18:50

This is why a real estate agent is worth the money.

They can be a conduit, negotiate, make sure there are no confusions and you don't ever have to speak to the buyer!

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 20/04/2026 18:48

I don't think it's necessarily off. I suppose some red flags are;
-They were viewing houses after getting an offer accepted on a different house. However, it could be they loved the look of yours, or that the original house they offered on had something flagged, or it just wasn't the one and they'd panicked and offered.

  • they did start their negotiations low, but don't let that cloud them for you, they came up fast and I do think project houses (sounds like yours is) attract a variety of offers because people hope they can get them cheaper, or the amount/cost of work varies depending on the buyer (e.g. do the bathrooms and kitchen NEED doing, unlikely, but they might want to cost them in for aesthetics)
-they said it was too big on viewing. Tbh I think this is classic "well don't say you love it or we aren't going to be able to negotiate" so they grabbed any old word to stop you thinking "they love it so don't knock the price down".

I'd test it out, say you're happy with the offer but it's staying on the market till survey is done and they'll have paid for that, plus your EA should check deposit and mortgage offer. You can't really lose doing this and if drama comes from the survey, or if they don't get one booked, then it stays on the market anyway.

Nocameltoeleggingsplease · 20/04/2026 18:44

NeveronSundays · 20/04/2026 13:50

Is it with Purple Bricks?

I was wondering this too. You can have different packages, one is you do communication yourself.
When we were selling we were using a family friend as our conveyancing solicitor. She said she would not work with Purple Bricks. That spoke volumes to us.

ThatMauveMaker · 20/04/2026 18:39

A month isn't a very long time for a house to be on the market, especially if your agent is not great. £100k under the asking price is a cheeky offer. This early on the market I think stick to your guns and hold out for the price you are comfortable with.

If your house had been on the market 6 months to a year then reconsider what offer you would accept, but a month is nothing. Especislly if it hasn't got the 'wow factor'.

Also, does the online agent verify that a buyer has funding in place? That would be interesting with this first set of interest.

YourKeenOpalMember · 20/04/2026 18:14

We had the same issues when we were selling our house. Buyers were coming in with ridiculous reasons to offer lower amount, one of them wanted to knock it down by 25K as there wasn’t an ofsted outstanding school in walking distance.

Our original buyer dragged his feet for a good month before instructing solicitors and then ghosted everyone for weeks before pulling out.

Our eventual buyer played games from the moment he looked at the property until we exchanged contracts…it was so much stress. He offered ridiculous under the value offers, tried to offer as cash in exchange for lowering the value, tried to make out the EA had told him we had originally sold it for less than we did and sat on the survey for months before suddenly having issues just as we were about to exchange. He eventually bought the property at the agreed price but only after the EA forwarded him a stern email from us basically saying we are more than happy to walk away from the sale and wish him well with upcoming wedding. Looking back I wish I went with my gut and gave him a swerve as he was still causing me grief months after he moved in. I think it all boils down to how much you want to move and how much you can afford to lose.

Iwaitedthenpounce · 20/04/2026 18:06

UpDownAllAround1 · 20/04/2026 18:05

Hard to know when you don’t have any other offers to
compare to I have assumed.

Did you even have any other viewings in the month it’s been on?

Twiglets1 · 20/04/2026 18:06

I don't know ... we sold a property a few years back to an idiot someone who started very low then kept increasing their offer until it got to a reasonable point that we could accept.

I had my doubts... but no other offers on the table.

I would probably accept it but be wary and watch carefully to see that they start spending money on solicitors and surveys quickly.

UpDownAllAround1 · 20/04/2026 18:05

Hard to know when you don’t have any other offers to
compare to I have assumed.

Iwaitedthenpounce · 20/04/2026 17:57

Did the online EA value the property @Coolbeansjeans28 ?

BuildbyNumbere · 20/04/2026 15:02

They are trying their luck and likely can’t afford your house, however, if they come back with a sensible offer that you are happy with then proceed but I would want proof the have a mortgage in place before taking it off the market!

CoastalCalm · 20/04/2026 14:21

They’ve tried to use the other house as an incentive for you to accept their low ball offer. Just tell them the house is priced considering the work that needs doing and you are looking for closer to asking price

GoldDuster · 20/04/2026 14:21

Coolbeansjeans28 · 20/04/2026 09:39

But yes, maybe looking to move to local EA with a better reputation

This is the way.

Coolbeansjeans28 · 20/04/2026 14:20

NeveronSundays · 20/04/2026 13:53

Have you decided on the offer you would accept?

You seem to be shifting that depending on the offer.

First you decline £100k below, then £50K below, then you appear to consider somewhere between £50k and £25k? or £13K?

I don't think you can market it successfully until you are clear in your own mind on the value and your bottom line.

A PP said something along these lines as well so I must have said something confusing at some point.

I am very clear what is the minimum I would take, its 25k below asking. The buyer is the one who has offered 3 different prices and my stance on my counter has not changed. Obviously in a world of rainbows and pixies I would take more!

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Upearlyaseva · 20/04/2026 14:18

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Voneska · 20/04/2026 14:17

Some agencies will engineer or invent a phantom buyer, to stall proceedings etc. In order to HOLD the property for one of their colleagues........ wtaf...

NeveronSundays · 20/04/2026 13:53

Have you decided on the offer you would accept?

You seem to be shifting that depending on the offer.

First you decline £100k below, then £50K below, then you appear to consider somewhere between £50k and £25k? or £13K?

I don't think you can market it successfully until you are clear in your own mind on the value and your bottom line.

NeveronSundays · 20/04/2026 13:50

Coolbeansjeans28 · 20/04/2026 11:21

Seems ive confused things with the EA. This house has only been listed a month with the one online EA. Various issues with them being slow and unresponsive to questions etc. Having to negotiate directly with buyer has put me off even more. Which is why im considering using a different firm.

Is it with Purple Bricks?

MeganM3 · 20/04/2026 13:37

Have you got other offers on the table? Has there been much interest? How long has it been on for? Just because you believe is worth a certain amount doesn’t mean it is. EA are not always right with their estimated selling prices. They can be wildly off. Building works are extortionate at the moment, it isn’t easy to sell a house where lots needs doing.

If no other offers and few viewings I would consider the offer while keeping it on the market for now. Until it’s firmed up. Keep your options open.

Upearlyaseva · 20/04/2026 13:23

Who valued it?

Upearlyaseva · 20/04/2026 13:22

Coolbeansjeans28 · 20/04/2026 11:40

Yes

no brainer then

wrap up things with the online company and get some recommendations for good local EAs

Gemtastic · 20/04/2026 11:59

Bringbackbuffy · 20/04/2026 10:51

I was selling a property, I accepted an offer from someone that I thought was a bit sketchy, the property was off the market for three months and then she pulled out. The market had completely changed in that time- it took me 8 months to then get another offer.

You always have something to lose

I agree. This is the best time of year to sell. Time for people with children to get them settled for the new school year. More buyers around. More houses on the market for you to buy. Don’t waste that precious time on time wasters.

I have come across these types before and they more than likely would try and talk you down at the last minute. If they pul out of another house they could do the same to you. Meanwhile you’re spending money on solicitors and maybe surveyors for the house you’re going to purchase next.

Goodadvice1980 · 20/04/2026 11:41

If you can OP give the agent notice and ask for a list of buyers they can legitimately claim to have introduced to the property.

Use a local agent, preferably a recommend one.

Don’t tell buyers their offer is rejected because you need X amount to move. It just makes buyers have a mindset of, “I’m not overpaying to fund your next purchase “.

Coolbeansjeans28 · 20/04/2026 11:40

Upearlyaseva · 20/04/2026 11:32

We have had such a bad experience with the EA so far.

Ok so you’re referring to the online company here?

Yes

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