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MIL comment’s to DD

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Mrsupanddown · 19/04/2026 20:25

MIL & FIL live 45 minutes away. They have their other grandchildren quite regularly. BIL went through a divorce so naturally they stepped in and supported him and he’s always lived close to them for support.

MIL seen DD yesterday at a bbq and she said it’s so nice to see you. She also makes comments to DH that she hasn’t seen DD in a while.

There is absolutely nothing stopping her from spending time with the grandchildren. If she rang i would bring them over and pick them up. They know me and DH are going through a lot at the moment due to my health conditions and there is still no offer. But will take the other grandchildren football and they Usually stay over after.

Everytime I bring it up to DH that I think it’s a joke that she keeps making these comments he flips his lid. DH backs his mum 100% you can not say anything to him about it. It’s always oh you know mum doesn’t like to visit people blardy blah or we don’t know what’s going on her life.

AIBU? Or am I being snappy

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Mrsupanddown · 19/04/2026 20:38

LastHotel · 19/04/2026 20:36

What on earth is the problem? This makes no sense at all.

dont worry yourself 😊

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VeterinaryCareAssistant · 19/04/2026 20:38

Making a mental note that when I see my grandchildren tomorrow I won't say "it's nice to see you " or "I've not seen you in a while".

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Mrsupanddown · 19/04/2026 20:38

Vgbeat · 19/04/2026 20:36

I get what you are saying, I had family like thissl who would say things like I was beginning to forget what you looked like etc but they only dont see me often as the effort was always my side and I wouldn't see them unless I made the effort.

Yes!!!!! Spot on. Winds me right up.

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arethereanyleftatall · 19/04/2026 20:37

You haven’t written it op, but are we to take it that the tone was ‘its sooooooo nice to seeeeee you’ in a sarcastic way, rather than what could have been perfectly pleasant as per the actual words?

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Mrsupanddown · 19/04/2026 20:37

ArtemisNutella · 19/04/2026 20:34

She said “it’s so nice to see you”? What a terrible evil grandmother she is 🙄
You are being unreasonable and I’m not surprised your husband is annoyed with you complaining about his mother.

She says it like she’s a stranger to the children. She can have them whenever she wants too. She visits BIL who lives 5 minutes away from us and doesn’t visit us. I have a good relationship with her but recently I’m fed up.

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SpiceGirlsNeedAComeBack · 19/04/2026 20:37

Honestly? She said “it’s nice to see you.”
You’re making her into a villain for zero reason. Stop being miserable.

Vgbeat · 19/04/2026 20:36

I get what you are saying, I had family like thissl who would say things like I was beginning to forget what you looked like etc but they only dont see me often as the effort was always my side and I wouldn't see them unless I made the effort.

LastHotel · 19/04/2026 20:36

What on earth is the problem? This makes no sense at all.

ArtemisNutella · 19/04/2026 20:34

She said “it’s so nice to see you”? What a terrible evil grandmother she is 🙄
You are being unreasonable and I’m not surprised your husband is annoyed with you complaining about his mother.

MovedlikeHarlowinMonteCarlo · 19/04/2026 20:33

She only said its nice to see you. That's nothing.

Sunshineclouds11 · 19/04/2026 20:32

‘There is absolutely nothing stopping her from spending time with the grandchildren. If she rang i would bring them over and pick them up’

do you ring her to see if they want to come to you etc to see them?

kimbear87 · 19/04/2026 20:30

Sorry, she said “it’s nice to see you”? I don’t understand the problem…