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To only invite one twin?

90 replies

orancing · 19/04/2026 17:38

I’m curious. Birthday girl (7) a party with a limited number of guests. One person she invited is a twin. Their twin sister is in a different class.

Invite is refused by twins parents because they say both should have been invited?

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ForPlumReader · 19/04/2026 17:51

Fair enough if it's not practical to attend with only one, but that is not birthday child's problem.

ohyesido · 19/04/2026 17:49

TheDenimPoet · 19/04/2026 17:43

I mean, if they're identical, they literally are clones.

However.

They are different people OP so yes you don't have to invite both.

It will be a miserable life for both of them if their parents only ever let them socialise together!

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They literally are not clones on account of being twins, one would have had to be spawned from the other…

crikey I’m boring myself now

toomuchfaff · 19/04/2026 17:48

definitely do not extend the invite to the other twin.

Jc2001 · 19/04/2026 17:47

TheDenimPoet · 19/04/2026 17:43

I mean, if they're identical, they literally are clones.

However.

They are different people OP so yes you don't have to invite both.

It will be a miserable life for both of them if their parents only ever let them socialise together!

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Twins are not clones at all.

Joobles · 19/04/2026 17:45

I made a point of saying that my twins did not come as a pair when they were younger, it is good for them to do different things and have different experiences.

Listlostlast · 19/04/2026 17:44

Rubbish. They’re separate people and they’re in different classes anyway! Silly behaviour from the parents and the only one to really suffer is their child.

Travelfairy · 19/04/2026 17:44

Both kids have twins as friends. There's only one 'set' we invite as ds is friends with both and all in same class. Thats silly carryon. Sure other siblings dont get to go to parties, a 3 year old doesn't get invited along with the 5 year old so no difference really

TheDenimPoet · 19/04/2026 17:43

ohyesido · 19/04/2026 17:40

Not if the birthday girl isn’t friends with the other twin. They’re sisters not clones

I mean, if they're identical, they literally are clones.

However.

They are different people OP so yes you don't have to invite both.

It will be a miserable life for both of them if their parents only ever let them socialise together!

LeopardPrintIsNeutral · 19/04/2026 17:43

Is it a case of not being able to practically attend with both children?

Arlanymor · 19/04/2026 17:42

Octavia64 · 19/04/2026 17:39

Bullshit

i had twins. They are separate people.

First post nails it as always.

gamerchick · 19/04/2026 17:41

Then one of their kid misses out. Resentment will grow eventually probably.

Bonbon21 · 19/04/2026 17:41

First reply nails it.

Didimum · 19/04/2026 17:41

I have twins, they’ve been going to separate birthday parties since they were 6yrs old

ohyesido · 19/04/2026 17:40

Not if the birthday girl isn’t friends with the other twin. They’re sisters not clones

Octavia64 · 19/04/2026 17:39

Bullshit

i had twins. They are separate people.

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