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AIBU to think most women wouldn't recognise a decent man?

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sundaymornings · 19/04/2026 16:37

I've a few male friends (single) who are indifferent to women because they are decent blokes but most women are to sceptical. So much so it deters them from dating or getting serious.

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Beeswacks · 19/04/2026 16:49

Most women are sceptical for good reason though?
Men blaming women for being reluctant to approach/date them is surely red flag territory. Maybe they’re not as great as you think they are.

BIWI · 19/04/2026 16:45

Sounds like incel speak to me.

inkognitha · 19/04/2026 16:45

How we behave socially and how we act as romantic partners are 2 very different things.

DryIce · 19/04/2026 16:45

So given most people are partnered, do you think most men aren't decent? But the women in these partnerships are unaware?

I am also struggling to follow your OP a bit - if your male friends are indifferent to women, surely this is the factor causing issues in their relationships, not the women. What are you saying women are sceptical about?

SoScarletItWas · 19/04/2026 16:43

I’m not being a grammar snipe but are they indifferent to wanting a woman or (I think you mean) the women are indifferent to them?

If so I agree with PP. Mr Scarlet is a decent man / ‘nice guy’. I’ve worked in male dominated industries my whole life and I can spot the decent men vs the ones who for various reasons …are not.

FlatErica · 19/04/2026 16:39

All my straight female friends have found decent men, and so did I.

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