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How often do you hear from your DP when they are away ??

56 replies

Happycherry39 · 19/04/2026 12:04

Just looking for a bit of a sense check really. When your DH/P goes away (with friends/work etc), how often would you normally expect to hear from them?

I don’t mean constant messaging, but just general contact – a good morning, goodnight, a quick check-in during the day?

Trying to work out what’s “normal” vs what’s just me having expectations that might be off.

Would be really helpful to hear what it’s like for others.

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Idontlikedogsandyesidostillhaveaheart · 19/04/2026 12:12

Once a day on the night

Tallyho15 · 19/04/2026 12:11

I’m away a lot - travel with work and holidays with friends. I will let my husband know I’ve arrived safely then might phone once in a week and text a few times (every other day). Definitely not every day

MaybeToxic · 19/04/2026 12:10

Meadowfinch · 19/04/2026 12:05

Once a day, in the evenings. Mornings are too busy to chat.

I agree with meadowfinch. And depending on the activity it may be anything from a 'got to hotel ok, shattered. Goodnight' to an actual conversation.

HangingStars · 19/04/2026 12:10

Yep usually once a day here too - sometimes maybe a photo or 2 during the day, some days maybe no contact if they’re having a busy one

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 19/04/2026 12:08

I agree once a day in the evening would be normal. I do the same if I’m away too.

Meadowfinch · 19/04/2026 12:05

Once a day, in the evenings. Mornings are too busy to chat.