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Having ‘a cuppa’

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:49

Why does this sentence infuriate me so? I already know I’m probably being unreasonable but it’s so grating. I can’t be the only one?

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FeelingALittleWoozyHere · 19/04/2026 13:43

I literally HATE it and can't explain why

ChocolateCinderToffee · 19/04/2026 13:43

It's slang and sort of precious. I also hate people who say they're having 'a wine', as though all wine were the same.

Top of the list though, is 'having a ciggie'. This grinds my gears because as a student I lived in a shared house and two of the other people were the only smokers and they chain-smoked every evening in the shared living room until the air was literally blue and it always started with one of them (who had a lisp) saying 'Thall we have a thiggie?'

I can hear her now, and she was unbelievably awful.

ruethewhirl · 19/04/2026 13:43

Auburndi · 19/04/2026 12:01

Many years ago there was an advertising slogan for milk that was "Drinka pinta milka day!" I clearly remember my great-aunt saying it was disgusting that "they" allowed it when it wasn’t "proper English". She was in her seventies at the time. Just saying…

Ugh yes, I remember that. 'Pinta' grates on me even more than 'cuppa' - I hate twee abbreviations generally.

'Nice cup of tea' grates on me as well - as if anyone would purposely make a horrible cup of tea. (Tbf I don't actually drink tea, which somehow ramps up the cringe factor for me with these expressions. 😄)

DSKong · 19/04/2026 13:43

viques · 19/04/2026 11:15

Eeek teeth on edge!

And veggies for vegetables and uni for university.

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Yes to these. My kids know never to refer to it as uni in front of me.

Andepeda · 19/04/2026 13:43

Brew sounds like 'you can stand your spoon up in it' sort of dark brown stuff.

CheddarCheeseAndCrispSandwich · 19/04/2026 13:34

Where I’m from we say ‘brew’…eg “I’m dying for a brew!”

Would that irritate you too?

I love regional differences. 🥰

ainsleysanob · 19/04/2026 13:33

BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 13:15

A succulent Chinese meal’. (If you know, you know 😁).

Hate the word meal too.

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Meal is my number two most hated word after succulent. My husband and son say them to me all the time!

My mother hates the word ‘spread’ instead of buffet!

BananaPeels · 19/04/2026 13:31

RanyaJerodung · 19/04/2026 12:38

No, jammies is better than jim jams!

I use Jimmie jams. … I’ll get my coat…

Freda69 · 19/04/2026 13:31

Seems perfectly normal to me. I can’t understand the obsession with 100 varieties of coffee.

isthismylifenow · 19/04/2026 13:31

BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 13:28

Are you in the US, where they seem to be able to say that word without shuddering? 😁

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South Africa.

Screenshot attached 🤭

Having ‘a cuppa’
Borborygmus · 19/04/2026 13:30

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 13:03

"Mic drop" has become overdone, as has "hill to die on."

I think the reason most of these words and phrases are annoying is because people have heard them about 100 million times.

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I just had to Google 'Mic drop' as I've never heard it before.

inickedthisname · 19/04/2026 13:30

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 13:27

I genuinely think there's a difference between holibobs and picky bits and words like cuppa and sarnie. The latter two are older, regional to a large extent and working class so there is some element of snobbery and regionalism about objections to cuppa.

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I agree - cuppa and sarnie are both abbreviations. But “holibobs” in particular isn’t.

Where I live, literally everyone says “cuppa”. It’s not twee or old fashioned, it’s just short hand for “do you want tea or coffee”

BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 13:28

isthismylifenow · 19/04/2026 13:24

I don't like gusset, but I sorry to all, but I use the term panties.

It is just what they are called here 😂
Even when buying online.
What does annoy me is the singular term, a full brief panty, a Brazilian panty ..

I think i might have to get my coat....

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Are you in the US, where they seem to be able to say that word without shuddering? 😁

DaisyMayBojangles · 19/04/2026 13:28

Oh god I hate ‘cuppa’ too!
Also see ‘cauli’, ‘baby pots’, ‘spuds’, ‘cherry toms’ …..🤯

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 13:27

I genuinely think there's a difference between holibobs and picky bits and words like cuppa and sarnie. The latter two are older, regional to a large extent and working class so there is some element of snobbery and regionalism about objections to cuppa.

DeftWasp · 19/04/2026 13:26

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:51

It’s right up there with ‘my hubby’.

I'm a chap and have always referred to my DW as "er indoors" - "I'll have to ask 'er indoor's opinion on that" - she loves it, I think, maybe not, don't know!!

BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 13:26

FunMustard · 19/04/2026 13:20

I'm gonna put the keckle on and 'av a cuppa right now!

A big mug or just an ickle cup?

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 13:24

That's ' a wee cup'.

isthismylifenow · 19/04/2026 13:24

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 13:09

I’ll see your panties and raise you a ‘gusset’

edited to say I’m so sorry!

Filth.

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I don't like gusset, but I sorry to all, but I use the term panties.

It is just what they are called here 😂
Even when buying online.
What does annoy me is the singular term, a full brief panty, a Brazilian panty ..

I think i might have to get my coat....

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 13:23

My Scottish mother used to insist on only having half a cup.

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Funnywonder · 19/04/2026 13:22

Cuppa doesn’t bother me. We don’t really say it in NI, although my auntie used to say it and I always noticed, specifically because it was unusual. Probably watching too many soaps😃 We just tend to say ‘cup of tea’ or just ‘tea’. Do you want a cup of tea? Do you want tea? Elderly people might say ‘a wee drap o’ tay’. My granny used to say that.

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 13:22

PhaedraTwo · 19/04/2026 13:22

I think you're out of order complaining about "cuppa" but happily using "hating on"

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I was waiting for this. I don’t usually say it, honest!

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PhaedraTwo · 19/04/2026 13:22

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 13:16

Actually, all slang can get in the bin.

/ waits for inevitable hating on getting in the bin.

I think you're out of order complaining about "cuppa" but happily using "hating on"

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 13:21

Oh my god. Lickle bockle.

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Andepeda · 19/04/2026 13:20

Someone said 'panties' on tv the other day, she was American.....

Moist.