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Having ‘a cuppa’

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:49

Why does this sentence infuriate me so? I already know I’m probably being unreasonable but it’s so grating. I can’t be the only one?

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ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 14:11

PurplishGemstones · 19/04/2026 14:09

In my household growing up (North) it was 'let's have a cuppa cha"

I love the expression "cuppa cha"!

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 14:11

Auburndi · 19/04/2026 14:09

"Soz"! Aaargh!

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That reminds me: "My bad!"

And "No biggie!"

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 14:10

People who say "supper" to mean "dinner" or "tea" when they also mean "dinner."

Supper is a light snack before bed. Tea is sandwiches, cake, and cups of tea. Supper and tea are NOT hot evening meals!!!

Auburndi · 19/04/2026 14:09

Catwalking · 19/04/2026 14:05

It’s usually a mug anyway 😆

I cannot ….almost can’t even type… ‘other half’; soz if some1 has already mentioned this.

"Soz"! Aaargh!

PurplishGemstones · 19/04/2026 14:09

In my household growing up (North) it was 'let's have a cuppa cha"

ForCosyLion · 19/04/2026 14:08

ainsleysanob · 19/04/2026 13:33

Meal is my number two most hated word after succulent. My husband and son say them to me all the time!

My mother hates the word ‘spread’ instead of buffet!

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Meal!!!! What on earth is wrong with that?! We say "to go out for a meal" and "evening meal" all the time!

AuntChippy · 19/04/2026 14:08

Im pleased to say I don’t know anyone that’s ever said ‘cuppa’. It’s nauseating.

Catwalking · 19/04/2026 14:05

It’s usually a mug anyway 😆

I cannot ….almost can’t even type… ‘other half’; soz if some1 has already mentioned this.

TheDenimPoet · 19/04/2026 14:02

Shithotlawyer · 19/04/2026 11:02

I think in general its having tea all the time that annoys me! Nobody needs constant hot drinks.

My DP used to pretty much chain drink cups of tea. It was ridiculous! Every five minutes it was like "let's have a cuppa tea". Erm. No, I was happy with the first 6 thank you!

Hellohelga · 19/04/2026 13:56

Sorry folks I’ve got to stick up for the charming variety of shortened expressions in our language. Butty, footy, bevvy and cuppa are all fine upstanding traditional terms. However the only acceptable term for wine is vino and my four legged hairy pals are the doggos. Queens English begone.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 19/04/2026 13:55

BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 13:52

I am smoking a fag. (Waynetta Slob). 😂

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Yeah, this was way before Waynetta, she wouldn't get away with it now.

Actually she would, she was like Miss Piggy: all sweetness and light until she wasn't and then it was TOTAL RAGE so we tiptoed round her.

BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 13:53

HoppingPavlova · 19/04/2026 13:51

You’d hate my household. If asking others if they want tea, we say ‘cuppa char?’. Tea is very popular in our household.

I say that too!

BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 13:52

ChocolateCinderToffee · 19/04/2026 13:43

It's slang and sort of precious. I also hate people who say they're having 'a wine', as though all wine were the same.

Top of the list though, is 'having a ciggie'. This grinds my gears because as a student I lived in a shared house and two of the other people were the only smokers and they chain-smoked every evening in the shared living room until the air was literally blue and it always started with one of them (who had a lisp) saying 'Thall we have a thiggie?'

I can hear her now, and she was unbelievably awful.

I am smoking a fag. (Waynetta Slob). 😂

HoppingPavlova · 19/04/2026 13:51

You’d hate my household. If asking others if they want tea, we say ‘cuppa char?’. Tea is very popular in our household.

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 13:51

Hellohelga · 19/04/2026 13:50

How about hollybobs?

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Stop! Stop! My poor teeth...

pavillion1 · 19/04/2026 13:51

I hate the word cuppa

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ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 13:50

Oh god, the new one: ‘spenny’

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BunnyLake · 19/04/2026 13:50

ainsleysanob · 19/04/2026 13:33

Meal is my number two most hated word after succulent. My husband and son say them to me all the time!

My mother hates the word ‘spread’ instead of buffet!

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All very valid loathed words. Do your dh and ds say it on purpose 😁

Hellohelga · 19/04/2026 13:50

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 10:56

"Cuppa", "hubby", "PJs". All so twee they give me toothache.

How about hollybobs?

DSKong · 19/04/2026 13:49

3GoldenLamps · 19/04/2026 12:12

On this topic - I am not English and I detest 'spends' and 'bloods'.

Agree re ‘spends’; I think it is just the infantilisation of adult behaviour. I also cringe when I see adults saying that there are X number of sleeps till Christmas.

sallymonella · 19/04/2026 13:48

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:51

It’s right up there with ‘my hubby’.

No way! Hubby is completely unacceptable, whereas a cuppa is perfectly fine... who's got time to say cup of tea?!

HalzTangz · 19/04/2026 13:48

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:51

It’s right up there with ‘my hubby’.

Or Hun, babe, sweety, love said by complete strangers

TamarindCottage · 19/04/2026 13:47

KimberleyClark · 19/04/2026 10:55

Cuppa Is not as bad as sarnie.

It’s “sammich” in our house 😉

Romeiswheretheheartis · 19/04/2026 13:44

FrankSinatraonToast · 19/04/2026 13:02

Nothing is as bad as panties 😂

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This. I've just read a book by Shari Lapena, and I was already finding her writing style a bit annoying, but when she started talking about panties, and the pantie drawer, I was cringing so much.

AnotherName2025 · 19/04/2026 13:44

TittyGajillions · 19/04/2026 11:31

Is there a list somewhere of words that are acceptable to MNers?

Take out a blank sheet of A4, stare at it.

🤣🤣🤣

whatever words these threads are about it's best laughed at & ignored!!

I think we all have words that grate in us & words we can't see the issue with

I don't care what someone calls 'a cup of tea' or their 'hubby' but chillax raises my blood pressure very quickly!

I have never heard hollibobs other than on MN.

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