To cancel this date?

You first date is dinner in a restaurant in the evening??!

noooo!

always go for a coffee first. Always.

Letterstoyou You owe this man nothing. If you don't want to go, then don't. But please do the decent thing & tell him beforehand.

That said, I'm sorry that you are feeling so low.

I hear you. I used to think like this about myself. I had a first date & I was full of this negativity in my head ('It's alright messaging but I have nothing to actually 'say', I have no interests & he won't like me anyway') once I got on the date though I realised that I had plenty to.say. including talking about things that I was exited about doing in the future, even if I wasn't doing them right now, etc.

Once I'd had that first date it became much easier.

(Edited to say, I see that this isn't your very first date, you've been burned before, & I hear you on this too. It's hard as it knocks your confidence doesn't it)

Also, just a thought but you mention sitting in a restaurant. If you don't want to do that for a first date (& you still want to go) then change it to something else.

I would be asking myself why, if I have such a negative attitude to dating, I’m even on the app and talking to people, let alone arranging a date.

If you don’t have friendships or a social life that you find fulfilling, I’d look at joining something not relationship focused and try to improve your options for getting out and enjoying yourself - something that doesn’t focus on you being attractive to another person. Then, once you’re actually enjoying being “you”, are comfortable in the company of others and not so negative about what you have to offer, consider dipping your toe back in the dating game.

Yep. You should definitely cancel with that attitude, don’t waste his time.

Third time lucky OP.
I'm sure you have plenty to offer. You see yourself in a negative light, it doesn't mean everyone sees you this way though. The previous two sounds like it with issues with them & not you.

Try not to overthink it and just go, otherwise you may regret not trying. Put some music on today, relax a bit and just try & enjoy yourself. If it doesn't work with him, it doesn't work, you've lost nothing by trying.

Also may I gently add, please get some support to build your self esteem.

I think you're fine to cancel if that's what you feel like doing.

You don't sound ready to date, because you're feeling very negative about yourself.

Can you put the energy into yourself instead?

Of course if I have misunderstood and you just don't want a new partner then of course you can cancel the date. "I'm really sorry i can't meet up. Sorry to mess you around." And block.

Can ypu change the date to a walk and coffee. Much shorter duration to start with so less pressure.
You went on the ap and chatted so sounds like you do want to meet someone but are scared he will reject you.
Just treat this as maybe making a new friend. You will either get on or not. If you don't get on then nothing lost. If you do get on maybe next time you could do something that takes a little longer you both enjoy - for me that would be going to an exhibition at an art gallery - what do you like to do?

Don’t go. You need to come off the apps if this is how you feel as pointless arranging dates, chatting to people and not wanting to go on said date.

I think its unfair on him if you're going in with such a negative mindset.