AIBU to insist on choosing my children's wedding outfits myself?

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PennyManyMaybe13 · 18/04/2026 22:12

BIL getting married next year. We do not get on and are low contact. MIL wants to buy my children’s clothes for wedding despite them not being in wedding party. This comes with them choosing what they wear as “needs to look good for photos”. AIBU to say no I will choose what they wear? All feels very for show and don’t want children used as probs.

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PennyManyMaybe13 · 18/04/2026 22:23

SadBoys · 18/04/2026 22:22

But are you or your DH attending the wedding of someone you don’t get on either and are low-contact either? If not, why are the children going?

Yes we are going. Believe me I wish we weren’t but don’t need the drama of that.

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NameChangeAgain48 · 18/04/2026 22:23

I'm sure that you are more than capable of buying an appropriate wedding outfit for the kids.

SadBoys · 18/04/2026 22:22

But are you or your DH attending the wedding of someone you don’t get on either and are low-contact either? If not, why are the children going?

MaybeToxic · 18/04/2026 22:20

I'd compromise by saying you'll be choosing and buying the outfits, but are there any colours or shades that are good to avoid x

Endofyear · 18/04/2026 22:18

Tell MIL thanks but you'll be choosing and buying the children's outfits. And leave it at that.

91millionstolencarz · 18/04/2026 22:15

Your kids - your choice - tell mil to F off : absolutely not her decision what they wear

weareallqueens · 18/04/2026 22:14

If your children are anything like mine they’ll be choosing their own wedding outfits. 😬

But no, you should have final say, not MIL. Maybe discuss with her.

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