AIBU to feel hurt our friendship group went away without us?

Where does the OP say this?

I am emotionally intelligent.

That's why I think it's absolutely fine for adults to choose to go away with who they want to go away with. You don't have to be joined at the hip with all of your friends.

Would you even want to be invited somewhere out of a weird sense of guilt?

Hold on, so there is already friction in the group with one person who doesn’t like another? So not quite as friendly as you suggest really?

Yes theres some reason behind this an affair or a fallout. What your husband's opinion?

Oh thank goodness not just me - thought I was going to get metaphorically egged

You're being deliberately obtuse. Or you have the emotional intelligence of a gnat.

They, up until recently, have done everything together, whether or not you think they should. Suddenly, four of the six have deviated, not only cancelling plans but purposely leaving the other two out of a trip and then specifically sending photos of the trip to those left out.

Regardless of your opinion on jealousy being an emotional only eight-year-olds are allowed to experience, pretending that the above is absolutely fine and nothing to even blink at is ridiculous.

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This did cross my mind as well.

Therefore you are in a different group with a different vibe - irrelevant

Not in my opinion. I don't think friends are rubbing it in my face when they send me photos of them on holiday, or at a concert, or spending time with anyone else. I think they are sharing photos of them doing something fun.

I'm an adult and totally get that sometimes people want to spend time with me and sometimes want to spend time with other people.

Getting jealous because friends are spending time with each other when you're over the age of about 8 is ridiculous.

You’d hope they would have the emotional intelligence to be upfront - we are talking about a sixume who always do things together

I was also thinking along lines OPs or OPs husband has done something they know about and feel uncomfortable or disprove - like affair

sorry OP 🙊

Why ask though, they’ll either give a woolly answer (the accommodation was only for four) or answer honestly with something like it’s more of a laugh with just the four of us. Neither answer will make the OP feel better.

Don't send this kind of message. So passive aggressive. Try to invite them to something in a while. If they pull out again, you'll have your answer.

Yes definitely use this question - there is only one way - being direct

OP said the photos were shared directly with them, presumably in a group chat or direct message. That is the very definition of rubbing it in their faces.

Something is up OP, if it’s like you say in your post - very odd

trust your instinct and get it out in the open

has anything happened between you recently?

Social media is for sharing pictures. It isn't rubbing it in anyone's face, it's using a platform for its intended purpose.

If someone chooses to take it personally then that's on them.

"It's always been the 6 of us when we've gone away. Why did you plan this w/o us? We would have loved to have come and are confused why you didn't involve us"

If you are such good friends and this is entirely out of the norm then an upfront question should be fine.

I couldn't be this passive about it. I don't know whether I find it frustrating or admirable!

Ha great minds!!!

Maybe it’s a bit of a partner swopping weekend and they’ve noticed a lack of pampas grass in your front garden. Put an upside down pineapple on your front door next time they come over and see what reaction you get.

if it’s not the above this is really shit of them - and this coming from someone who hates people living in each others pockets.

They definitely don’t want to be close friends anymore. I think sharing pics with you wasn’t innocent, it was deliberate.
Things like this usually encourage me to think about other past events and then the pattern evolves. I would probably come out with at least 10 reasons why it’s happened by now. However in reality it’s never just one reason - it’s a few here and there.
I wouldn’t be in a hurry to comment or to reply. It’s always better to take your time.

By the way they could be on MN.

Are the other 4 swingers? Joking aside I’m sure there’s a genuine reason you weren’t invited. Maybe they assumed you wouldn’t want to go. But yeah it would have been nice to have been asked.

Oh I’d be upset too OP, I’m sorry ☹️ it really stings to be left out, even as an adult it feels a bit like being picked last for PE!

My friends went to a festival a couple of years ago that I’d have loved to go to, we are a group of six and I was the only one not invited, then they sent all the photos to our bloody group chat. I just asked if they’d meant to share them to their other chat (as clearly there was a second chat 🫠) and left it at that. Never got an explanation as to why I was left out, but I assume it’s because I was about 14 weeks pregnant and they didn’t want me spoiling their fun.

Rarely see them now, turns out you really do find out who your friends are when you have a baby 🤪