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AIBU to feel hurt our friendship group went away without us?

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starships · 18/04/2026 19:45

Aibu to be hurt that the rest of our friendship group have gone away for 2 nights?

so friendship group of 3 couples, always all been there for each other, always invited all couples whenever we have arranged anything even if it wasn’t their cup of tea.

today we’ve been inundated by pictures from 2 of the couples who have gone away for an (expensive) city break to somewhere we love doing stuff that we love. Aibu to feel hurt that we were never asked? I’m genuinely shocked by this.. no issues with friendship at all but this has been planned for some time and no one told us..

just feel hurt that no one asked if we would like to come? a just a week ago they cancelled on us after having something booked for a number of months they all pulled out with various excuses.. seen them since with no issues so we’re a bit perplexed!

thanks all- just wondering if I’m being unreasonable to feel hurt or not?

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starships · 18/04/2026 19:59

Hadenough32 · 18/04/2026 19:49

You'll have to just ask them. I'd say;

aww lovely pics, did we accidentally miss the invite or was this just for you 4? Enjoy xx

Along those lines then it doesn't look like you're annoyed but gives them a chance to explain

Thank you, I said to them oh looks great, did we miss the invite and they said no they organised it just for themselves

just more hurt as they all cancelled on us last week for something else. 😂

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somanychristmaslights · 18/04/2026 19:59

Hadenough32 · 18/04/2026 19:49

You'll have to just ask them. I'd say;

aww lovely pics, did we accidentally miss the invite or was this just for you 4? Enjoy xx

Along those lines then it doesn't look like you're annoyed but gives them a chance to explain

That message clearly shows you’re annoyed with the passive aggressive question.

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starships · 18/04/2026 19:57

ACynicalDad · 18/04/2026 19:52

Much simpler to coordinate 4 than 6. Would leave it and maybe suggest an autumn break with one of the couples.

Sounds like a good idea- think I’m just more shocked than anything lol

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ACynicalDad · 18/04/2026 19:52

Much simpler to coordinate 4 than 6. Would leave it and maybe suggest an autumn break with one of the couples.

SimonWigglesBaratoneVoice · 18/04/2026 19:50

You can't help feeling hurt, but they haven't done anything wrong either.

It's totally fine for them to want to spend time together and not want to do everything as 3 couples.

Hadenough32 · 18/04/2026 19:49

You'll have to just ask them. I'd say;

aww lovely pics, did we accidentally miss the invite or was this just for you 4? Enjoy xx

Along those lines then it doesn't look like you're annoyed but gives them a chance to explain