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Should a wife tell her DH to avoid someone..?

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mujer1997 · 18/04/2026 13:36

….if it makes her feel happy or unthreatened? Even if her DH hasn’t technically done anything wrong, as in no inappropriate messages or meetings to another woman.

I’ve read threads where a woman has asked her DH to stop talking to a younger woman who he is chatty with, whose company he seems to enjoy, and who seems to be conventionally attractive, because the woman just didn’t like it… so she basically asks/tells/makes her DH feel guilty such that he ‘actively avoids’ the younger woman.

Do you think that wives should do this?
YANBU if yes, YABU if no.

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girljulian · 18/04/2026 13:51

Obviously not.

if my husband told me (or even suggested) he didn’t want me talking to someone for reasons of his own…well, he just wouldn’t, because it’s weird and controlling, and I’d never do that to him.

Hadalifeonce · 18/04/2026 13:51

When pregnant with DD, DH had a work colleague, who was actually really nice, but their relationship made me feel uncomfortable. I explained this to DH, and he stepped back from their personal relationship. As couples we all became good friends, but my DH respected me enough to listen to me.

PollyBell · 18/04/2026 13:50

That would be controlling

changeomymind · 18/04/2026 13:50

I don’t think anyone should ‘tell’ their partner to do anything but they should certainly say how it makes them feel.

If their partner is decent and loving, they would take that into consideration and do what’s necessary in order to put their relationship first.

MabelRoyds · 18/04/2026 13:49

“ tell”? Obviously not.

discuss like equals? Obviously.

Error404FucksNotFound · 18/04/2026 13:49

Anyone is free to say when they dont like something and what their preferences are.
The other person is under no obligation to comply.
The first person is under no obligation to remain in the relationship if they are unhappy.

A couple should be able to talk stuff like this over, share how they feel, and reach an agreement that they are both ok with. If they can't do that, that's a problem. And it can be resolved either by accepting its not going to change, or ending the relationship.

Shoxfordian · 18/04/2026 13:46

No because she should feel secure enough in herself that there's no need for this nonsense. Nobody can take someone from me if they don't want to go

AgnesX · 18/04/2026 13:44

Tell, no. Ask, yes.

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mujer1997 · 18/04/2026 13:44

ExtraOnions · 18/04/2026 13:39

Do you think a man should be able to tell his wife not to talk to someone, simply because they don’t like it?

I think it depends on the context.

I’m asking for opinions on this, I’m not decided either way.

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ExtraOnions · 18/04/2026 13:39

Do you think a man should be able to tell his wife not to talk to someone, simply because they don’t like it?

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