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To avoid colleague whose weight loss

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southcoastsammy · 18/04/2026 09:11

Is now her entire personality?
Member of my team, loud and outgoing, has lost 10 stone over the last 18 months +.
Good for her, she looks great, feels great etc BUT it’s all she talks about ALL the time.
Her motivation, how she changed her life, her gym routines - how many reps blah blah what she eats etc.how we can all be healthier.

I just find it really dull! We have a hot desk situation at work so I have started picking a desk away from where she is sitting, and some of the team, to get away from the constant talk about it.
AIBU? Should I tell her? She’s noticed and has started going - oI Sammy! Are you avoiding me??

YABU - be happy for her. Take some of her advice.
YANBU - that’s boring, tell her you’re not interested in hearing about kettle bells any more!

OP posts:
Thepeopleversuswork · 18/04/2026 09:17

Anyone who makes one subject their entire personality is tedious, the subject is almost irrelevant.

Whether you say something to her or not depends on how much you care about her. If you value her have a quiet word. Otherwise just ignore.

Positivepositron · 18/04/2026 09:17

I am not voting for either of your options as I don't think I agree with either. You can avoid someone for whatever reason you like, finding them dull is fine.
I don't think you should tell her you find her dull though that's unnecessary and mean. Talking about healthy food and fitness isn't inherently bad, just not interesting to you.

southcoastsammy · 18/04/2026 09:17

Zippidydoodah · 18/04/2026 09:14

Just change the subject really notably? Or put in your earphones and say you have loads of work to crack on with?

YANBU. Weight loss bores are so annoying.

we’ee not allowed headphones, I would love that in an open plan office! Considered a bit anti social and if you’re on an actual call where you need headphones we have these little areas and booths to do that in…

OP posts:
AllFours · 18/04/2026 09:16

D’oh - I accidentally voted the wrong way. You are NOT being unreasonable to avoid this at work!

Eenameenadeeka · 18/04/2026 09:16

Neither of the options. You don't have to take her advice, but you also don't have to tell her you aren't interested in what she's talking about. Just change the subject and sit somewhere else sometimes like you are doing.

Zippidydoodah · 18/04/2026 09:15

Meant to quote the post above about something else triggering her.

Don’t tell me. OP is just jealous, right?

Zippidydoodah · 18/04/2026 09:14

Just change the subject really notably? Or put in your earphones and say you have loads of work to crack on with?

YANBU. Weight loss bores are so annoying.

Gwenhwyfar · 18/04/2026 09:12

Is it really that you find it dull or is it triggering you in some other way?

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