To avoid colleague whose weight loss

I'm amazed at the mean girl comments. Then again, this is Mumsnet. The woman has lost a shed load of weight. Have you ever been obese? The comments you get, the dirty looks, the inability to find clothes to fit.. it destroys your self confidence. This woman has got her mojo back. Has everyone forgotten the #bekind mantra? Trying celebrating her success. You might find she's there for you when things fail for you...

Fair enough that you weren’t impressed with the boring diet chitchat, but is it really necessary to mention how effortlessly you maintain your healthy weight on a diet of crap? It makes you sound rather smug. And judgemental.

Fuck me I remember the “slimming world huns” in the workplace - boring and dull as hell.

“Oooo Shiela, how many syns are in that yogurt?”

“Ooooo Brenda, you’re not meant to eat a banana unless it’s mashed up!”

“Oooo Gertrude I lost 0.5lb last night at club! Not bad considering I had a McDonald’s salad on Friday!”

All the while I’m sat there with my pot noodle and monster munch weighing less than both of them 🙄

You're not being unreasonable to not want to hear about it, although I wouldn't tell her you find it boring either as it will cause unnecessary tension at work. Just say you have loads to do, or change the subject.
Any chance you can ask to work from home a few days a week?

YANBU I am going through very similar actually, a lot of us in work have all lost a fair amount we all went on a bit of a journey together to kind of support each other through it, i have lost 6 stone and so has my colleague and she looks amazing and she has not complimented me once on my weight loss despite others doing it which is fine hurts a bit as we were quite close but the weight loss and everything else that goes along with it has became her whole personality you cant have a chat with her about anything else and I find myself avoiding her and actually a few other people have too.

This is why I struggled to work in an office and now I work from home get double the amount of work done. No matter what the subject, someone banging on loudly is distracting and disrupting. YANBU because how the hell can you concentrate?

Its a constant talking point in my team too. I find it triggering and boring. I try to not engage or ill just say you all look lovely as you are and try and drop it. One day it was hours of the same chat and I kept being pulled into the conversation and I just said that I dont want to spend my whole life thinking about my weight and diets so I dont really care about it tbh I just want to be neutral about my body. Its exhausting talking about weight and food all day long.

By yapping I presume she means going on and on about a topic she doesnt care for. Which is the exact same issue the OP describes and yet you keep saying maybe its WLI or giving reasons why weight loss is a thrilling topic.

It's not for most people. Weight loss is not a topic anyone wants to discuss all day long unless you have an eating disorder

I mean, that's an incredible life changing amount of weight loss. It's nice she's gained some self esteem from it, she's done well.
However you're within your right to not have to listen. Try changing the topic next time or say you don't want to hear about it. She may not want to talk to you after that, but then you won't have to deal with it anymore.

I was replying to a poster who said "I just wish people would stop yapping in work spaces period". That means she doesn't want people to talk about any subject.

Start talking about how utterly boring and tedious people are who only have one topic of conversation, maybe she'll take the hint but I wouldn't hold my breath! Alternatively just tell her she's totally boring, she deserves it.

Yes, there is only one topic in the entire world- weight loss.

The alternative to that is not merely talking about another topic that the people might be interested in, it's becoming a hermit. 🙄

WTAF?

In on a weight loss " journey " ( put that tongue in cheek as have seen lots of dieting remarked as that ! )
I haven't told anyone except my dh and 1 friend who is also dieting .
I'm currently down 2 sizes but feel no need to announce anything to anyone .
I find it weird that people seem out the validation of others so much
The " journey " ( that word again ) is theirs alone .

Just keep it quiet, no one needs to know what you’re having for dinner

Nobody should chat ever about anything, ever?
Become a hermit then.

You know you can change your vote just by clicking on the other option
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Never been fat, don't care about anyone’s weight loss, I just wish people would stop yapping in work spaces period. Or anywhere really 😩

This. Are you overweight OP?

OP this is one of the few occasions when I would counsell less than complete honesty. She will say "oh dear did I touch a nerve?" then you will have to kill her which never looks good on a CV.

Member of my team, loud and outgoing, has lost 10 stone over the last 18 months +.

That is genuinely life-changing, I'm not surprised it's a big topic for her. She was presumably morbidly obese, so this will feel like a second chance at life.

I can be quite tolerant of other people boring on, I don't mind so long as it isn't negative or upsetting, so I'd probably just let her carry on. If she gave me unsolicited advice I'd mention that though.

We had a colleague at work, thankfully retired now that was incredibly into eating dust and exercising non stop. She’d comment on literally anything you had for lunch, whether it was soup or McDonald’s. She ate a box of salad leaves for lunch every day for the seven years I worked with her. Nothing else, ever.

My favourite quote being “oh my god I couldn’t eat all that bread” - to a colleague eating a meal deal tuna sandwich. You’d think the woman was eating a whole sourdough with a knife and fork 😭

She also exercised excessively, even after needing a hip replacement and being told not to run again.

Which is fiiiiine, if you can appreciate that not everyone wants to be like you 🤷

I have a family member that talks constantly about their dogs as they are a big part of her life - walking, training, agility. Boring as hell if you are not into it, so I listen for a bit, feign interest, then steer the topic elsewhere. Can you not just simply do the same?

Completely avoiding the women show a lack of basic social effort. You don’t have to be fascinated by every topic someone brings up, but there is a middle ground between fully engaging and total shutdown.

bores on any subject are so annoying

Op I would just be sarcastic when she says are you avoiding me just say no I’m just giving you a chance to tell others about your weight loss journey also they say a change is as good as a rest and your weight loss tips could help others whereas I’m happy as I am. If this doesn’t stop her boring you just say ok this is getting boring now you look amazing and I’m so happy for you but it’s all you talk about now.

If she’s bold enough to ask if you’re avoiding her then be bold back and say yes? I’m happy about your weight loss but talking about it all day every day is tedious. It’s up to her how she takes it.