To avoid colleague whose weight loss

PP asked whether it was triggering op, as if this would make it an op problem with jealousy or some such. But actually at work one ought to be mindful of other people, and banging on about weight and fitness endlessly can be insensitive to others in the office such as those struggling with health issues. Similarly banging on about pregnancy, money, politics etc etc. is not a good idea as they may evoke negative feelings in others. It's always better to err on the side of not ramming anything down the throats of colleagues about whom you know very little.

You don't. You need consistency, but it does not need to become your entire personality. You can quietly eat your whole food lunch in the same way you quietly ate your UPF sarnie before you started your weight loss plan.

No advice I'm afraid apart from avoiding her but I do sympathise as I too have had experience of a diet bore. She thought that everyone was absolutely fascinated by what she'd eaten the previous day,and her gym routine. Yawn!

YANBU. I remember working within a team of women and at one point, all ANY of them were talking about was weightloss and dieting etc. It was so boring. I must admit I did ask if we could change the subject as it seemed to be the only topic.

As someone who is struggling to lose weight it does make me wonder if you need that level of obsession to be successful. It sounds frustrating but no more than the woman at work that I don’t know that well who talks incessantly and in great detail about her divorce. I’d never be as rude as to tell her to stop but being honest I do avoid the kitchen when she’s in there.

But .....celebrating her success ALL the time?

Seems excessive

Well I can understand not keep wanting to hear about it. I lost 8 stone (bereavement stress) but I never talk about it. I weigh what weigh. No one needs to keep talking about it.

But, if it’s just envy, on your part, then I’d let it be and let her talk for a while,

Agree. This was OK for about 5 minutes when it came out in early 2020, but it's now used to silence women, and stop them having an opinion. It's NEVER said to men.

Fuck Be kind.

The idea that all you have to do to avoid obesity is eat less and move more, is pretty outdated. I agree about the syns though. Absolute twaddle. Even the stupid name.

Exactly. Everything in moderation.

I thought so! 😄😘

IMO it’s common sense that eating too much makes you put on weight. Eat less, weigh less 🤷‍♀️

No such thing as “syns” in this house, we just don’t over eat

Yes! Not sure if that was an autocorrect error or a brain error 😃

Do you mean inconspicuous?

You can get Loop earplugs which are quite conspicuous

I kind of get it OP I remember my mum losing a lot of weight when I was in my teens and it was great of course that she felt so good but also it did get really old when it was all she spoke about. She would wear a pedometer and always be updating everyone on how many steps she had taken and would give up a run down of every calorie she had eaten that day and would say how healthy she'd been by just having a slim fast shake and a cuppa soup then a frozen lean ready meal with a low fat snack bar for a treat. I was always like " you know that's not actually healthy right?"

Anyway all I can say is that it doesn't last forever eventually the fixation eases off and they start to talk about other things again.

It is a bit much when people go on and on about one thing. I daresay others feel the same way. Perhaps have a word with her, say everyone is delighted for her that she has done so well with her weight loss but as a topic of conversation it is now wearing a bit thin. If she starts again, change the subject.

I dont understand people like her. Ive lost a lot of weight too. I dont shout about it. It's nothing but embarrassing that I was so overweight in the first place! I wouldn't be shouting about it.

I wouldn't tell her though, i think that's pretty rude?

I would be annoyed by it.
My now ex friend did/has done really well losing a ton of weight.
Every message I used to get off her was basically of selfies of her wearing next to nothing, asking if I thought she had lost any.
I was a supportive and encouraging friend, but the whole thing had taken over her life, and she didn't think if anything else.
We fell out when we went away for my birthday. I was sick of being looked down on for eating and I had enough.

I’ve lost 5.7 stone as well. I cannot imagine talking about it all the time. I’d bore myself.

I also found it uncomfortable when I lost weight. To begin with, I was fine with it, but it soon became all anyone ever talked to me about, and the comments got quite personal and also bizarrely insistent and intrusive e.g

How did you do it?
Healthy eating, tracking calories, and walking, mostly
But what do you eat?
I don't know, whole foods mostly, and lean proteins like chicken.
But what exactly? What did you have for breakfast? What are you having for lunch and dinner? How long do you walk? Where do you walk? How fast do you walk? Really, that's all you had? Is that healthy? Oh, I could never. Don't you eat chocolate or crisps? I could never find time to walk that much. I bet you don't have a TV.
Leave. Me. Alone.

As long as it’s not unwarranted advice I don’t personally have a problem with people speaking about things they feel passionately about (as long as it’s not offensive in some way of course). I actually enjoy almost tuning out what they are saying and watching how they are saying it as their joy/passion I find improves my mood.
I wouldn’t burst her bubble as she has done so, so well for herself, but if it’s bothering you that much I think you just need to learn how to tactfully change the subject and lead it on to something else. With enough gentle redirection she’ll pick up on the fact you don’t enjoy talking to her about this subject without being unkind.
Remember that she has spent a long time overweight and has probably experienced a lot of bullying/unkindness in her life already. Kindness doesn’t cost you anything.

I find it odd only in that I’ve lost 8 stone in the last year and I find it so uncomfortable when anyone mentions it. Genuinely makes me want to drop through the floor.

I doubt it, she followed up with “no one cares what you’re having for dinner” - which is obviously common workplace chat. Sounded to me like she just didn’t want people chatting at work full stop 🤷‍♂️