To be enraged at my DH’s WFH laziness

Rubbish!

My local government dept has sacked someone for disappearing 2/3 hours every afternoon.

When they clocked on it was thoroughly investigated and she was let go. And she's not the only person to be sacked in the time I've been there.

My husband doesn’t sleep well, well as in he’s awake really early and often uses his lunch hour for a nap. But my husband is much much older and it doesn’t affect anything else or anyone in the house. My husband was made to WFH since the beginning of covid. It made it him really depressed initially and for a long time. He missed the interaction of colleagues, he struggled with being in the house all day, he struggled from going to the spare room to the kitchen for his lunch. As a very sociable extrovert person, it was a real problem for him. Now not so much. He’s developed a routine of going to the gym one day and then a nap for the other day.
but not over his allotted time and as I’ve said with no consequences to anyone else. I do wonder if it’s a habit his body has got into but it’s his lunchtime to do as he wishes

Hmm, his work conduct isn't exactly your business IMO, unless he's risking losing his job and blowing up your family's finanical situation. Seems he can decide whether he's safe to take a nap? The housework seems like a separate issue that you just need to work what is fair and agreeable to everyone. Me and DH work out of the home similar hours and I still cook every night, even if he's wfh or back earlier, but he washes up. I am the only one who tidies but that's our way. I like things tidy. He does his own laundry at the weekend, I called time on being mama. And the person raging about men upthread- yeah good luck with that. It's in their wiring.

He should be told off by his manager and if he continues to do that sacked. Tax payers money shouldn’t be funding naps!

"asking his manager for more work"

You really can't do this is many jobs.

It depends some people need a nap I am told. But it would really annoy me.

100pc agree with this.
I know people who 'WFH' who do school runs, look after babies, take care of grandchildren after school, have hairdresser appointments, attend school concerts and sports days, attend their allotment, play golf etc etc etc, all whilst wfh 😂

Public sector, so sounds about right.

I would not be cooking another meal

Move the mouse= a bottle of nail varnish, or something heavy, weighing down a button activates the cursor.

Quick question, are you and your team paid for contracted hours?
Or is it target related?

How are people getting away with this?! 😲

Seriously, as has been said, no wonder so many employers want their employees back in the office!

'move the mouse' is a friend's answer to this

This just illustrates how people swing the lead. Your husband has your dinner cooked and ready before you get in from work, AND the kids are already fed?!

Seriously, you're not winning any argument for people who 'work from home' being hard working and industrious in their job! 😂 Sounds like your DH finishes work at half two in the afternoon!

Noone should be sleeping whilst they are being paid to work. He has poor work ethic and to me that is unattractive. However you are focused on this and not the fact that your home set up is awful.

My dh wfh 2 days a week and my dinner is cooked and kids are fed before I get in. If I am not working on one of those days then I cook.If he is home before you why on earth are you not sharing the cooking so you both do set days? If you do long hours and he is napping in the day the least he can do is cook the evening meal. I have no idea why you have taken on being the breadwinner and being responsible for everything else. What on earth do you get out of this else up? Having further children with this man would be idiotic. You will end up burnt out and resentful if you continue on this way.

Not true. I’ve sacked hundreds over the years.

That is a ridiculous, ignorant thing to say.

YANBU to be annoyed. But maybe not for the reasons you are.

You should be annoyed that he’s a CF with no morals and is at risk of losing his job.

• People are struggling to afford council tax (and councils are struggling to provide services, leaving vulnerable people with little help) yet he’s flushing their money down the toilet by sleeping on the job.
• People are desperate for employment (including many bright, hard-working young people, not to mention lone parents, who’d love a WFH job), but he’s taken a council job (with likely good T&Cs), yet the ungrateful so-and-so takes the piss.
• He can likely be digitally monitored (via keyboard use) and is risking disciplinary action. If he was sacked from his job, making it hard to get another, how would your family manage financially? Does he care?

Also, why can’t he get a better paid job, so you both earn a similar amount? I hope he pays the same towards household expenses as you. So you can use your extra earnings for your own savings.

On household chores, if he works the same hours as you, because you have the added commute, he should do more than half of all the household chores (physical and admin). As your job is more physically demanding, he should do more of the physical chores (cleaning, cooking, laundry etc). You can do more of the admin, while you physically rest.

If he won’t cook at least half the week (nutritious meals cooked to a good standard - YouTube is his friend), stop making his dinner. He can get his own. He’s not your child.

Why do you feel the need to describe yourself as the 'breadwinner' when he earns nearly £40k a year, and you don't earn that much more than him? His career choices sound preferable to yours.

You have every right to be annoyed OP, you are doing a disproportionate amount of chores and household stuff.
Re 2 hour nap, I'm not surprised.
The number of people who I know who 'WFH' & take the p* is phenomenal.
I appreciate that is a topic for another thread and I will get shouted down by many but the fact remains.

If he’s WFH most days then there should be no reason for doing housework at the weekends! That’s ridiculous. I WFH 3 days a week (usually Weds/thurs/Fri) and I can manage to keep on top of most stuff like laundry and I do a house clean on a Friday every week so it’s nice for the weekend. I wouldn’t expect my husband to spend his weekend doing shit chores like washing and cleaning when I can easily do it through the week! Also tbh I don’t wanna be doing it either so I try and make sure it’s done! Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been known to have a cheeky nap but usually if I’ve had a bad night and I’m currently pregnant so it can’t be helped sometimes 😂 he is taking the piss.

I agree. I know quite a few people who work from home, and they swing the lead something awful. I know some people claim they work soooo much better and are more productive at home, but the majority of people I know who work from home, are quite lazy, and take the piss.

They spend too much time pissing about on the internet, doing the washing, scrolling through their phone, washing up and hoovering, chatting to people outside and on the phone, walking the dog, sunbathing, having little naps, and having 1.5 hour lunch breaks. They also finish around 3.45pm to 4pm.

No WAY would anyone get away with this if they worked in the office. It's high time people were made to go back into the office. Never mind the list of excuses about the dog, the kids, and all sorts of crap they will inevitably come out with. GET BACK TO WORK!

Ok thanks for being the third person to tell me that

People who work for the LA aren't civil servants

It's not his nap that's the problem, it's the fact he does fuck all else.