To be enraged at my DH’s WFH laziness

If you could only see what happens on HS2!

Nobody told him there was a communication problem.

So you support this employee sleeping on the job? I would have thought you would think he’s a poor representation of public sectors employees!

So our taxes are paying for him to sleep an hour of the day? 5 hours per week. I agree, lazy thieving sod.

Yes, he's not doing a physically demanding job so I would wonder why, as a young adult, he's so tired to need a 2 hour nap just a few hours after getting up to login.

Of course this is yanbu! A 2 hour nap during work time is ridiculous. Unless he needs to do this because of health issues, then TTP.

Similar situation; I go 'out' to work, barely have time for a break, leave early and come home later. DH wfh, on my day off, which I substitute on a week day to pick up a different job at weekend/night shift, I see his workday...

On laptop, may have a half hour meeting, can nip out to shops, do a session in garage gym, go for a walk, has a million cuppas, cooks lunch, puts a wash on and may remember to hang it out. He does work hard on what he needs to do but has some free time most days. Not the type to nap but this would annoy me if he did for 2 hours as already has a pretty cushy day.

Also, for me, the costs of wfh make bills so much higher. When he also left the house for work they were lower, no heating or electricity used during the day, kids at school. Now the heating alone is a fortune, then the kettle boiling every half hour, new fad of baking bread etc.

Really not true. People in my family work for Local Government and work darn hard. Many departments are under staffed. People are not being replaced, so those remaining are doing the work of several people.

No she said he was local government not civil service.

Are you the lazy arsed husband?

It is relevant, she does condensed hours, whilst his lazy arse is asleep.

Civil servant you say?

Given there’s no accountability in the public sector - as is currently being played out in real time by the top echelons - and your husband will never be sanctioned let alone fired. So instead of getting annoyed, try and convince him to do a few chores around the house. Maybe he could take a 3rd hour off?

@Batchcookbabe I'm not in before 7-7.30pm and yes he had made an evening meal and fed the kids by then. The beauty of wfh for my dh at least is that he can start his day at 8am and finish at 5pm. He can take a shorter lunch break if he wishes to as well. I'm not sure why it's so difficult for you to understand that there are people who wfh but don't take the piss and actually mange their time as adults?

The op's husband could have a meal prepped in the slow cooker, bunged in the oven or airfryer before she gets in if he chose to. He could do so in the evenings after she is home instead of leaving her to it.

Local Government Office. Says it all. He’s not just pissing you off OP, he’s pissing off millions of tax payers.

The shameful state of the UK is not really a surprise.

No wonder we're on hold for ever while someone is asleep, disgusting he paid to work no to sleep

Yikes yes if there’s time for a kip then there’s time to cook dinner. Have you mentioned it to him?

I worked for four hours for free this afternoon and so did one of my colleagues, so you can comfort yourself with that fact

It's a bit much not to mention about the terrible nights when mentioning his day time napping

Oh goody, my taxes are paying someone to stay home and nap. Not that this is unusual for Government employees and their productivity isn't much better when they're awake.

It sounds like he does do odd chores while wfh. Putting a load on/sorting the dishwasher, and i dont think the wfh partner is responsible for chores.

I think the 2 things are different. I have friends that watch full films on their lunchbreak, or I go to the gym and start later after messaging to say I'm in - though I often work in the evening a little if needed to make up for this.

What time do they finish? If they can cook id be asking if they could do a 90 min nap and finish half hr earlier to get started on tea a few times a week.

At the end of the day, wfh doesnt mean youre responsible for all the chores.
Unless hes not doing stuff because he doesnt have time and is then taking a 2 hr nap lol

Then you might want to read the thread and see many examples of people explaining that this (potentially fictional) man is not representative of the many incredibly hard working and dedicated public sector workers

The one time I had a shirking person in my team my HR helped me manage him out very swiftly.

I work far harder in the public sector than I ever did in a similar role in the private sector

Absolutely this ⬆️

Ffs

I was thinking the same.

If he is having a full nights sleep and then needs another two hours in the day he needs to be medically checked out.