To be enraged at my DH’s WFH laziness

I used to wfh for LA for many years. Bored me to death and I was constantly asking for more work as I didn’t have enough. I have a good work ethic and prefer to be busy. The lack of work gave me a complete lack of motivation and it was a vicious cycle. I actively looked for a different career as I couldn’t continue in this boring, sleep inducing rut and have escaped after many years. So many people I know there were also looking for work to do. Ridiculous. Doesn’t excuse the fact that he is doing nothing to help out household wise. I used to get everything done. Feel hard done by now doing it in my own time. 😬

DH sounds like an absolute lad

Oh leave OFF.
Stop accusing strangers of lying. If your team are lazy what's wrong with your management skills?

You weren't 'thinking' at all. Just indulging in lazy prejudice .

House clean on a Friday whilst wfh?

The only person entitled to be annoyed here is his employer. It's clearly taking the piss and if he gets all his work done with a 2 hr nap break each day then his salary should be reduced to part time hours as his workload clearly doesn't take a full day

This.

He’s taking you for a sucker. Don’t let him. He needs to step up with his child and job and relationship! What a loser! As my students would say, it gives me the ick!

Calling yourself ‘the breadwinner’ is always a wanky thing to do, but I suppose it makes sense if you earn like £200,000, and your partner doesn’t work. There’s no bragging rights in £55,000, earning slightly more than your partner doesn’t make them your slave.

Local government isn't part of the civil service

Most government jobs require two days a week average working from the office. I had an interview with DVSA a couple months ago and according to them - it’s mandated by the government for all government staff.

How is he avoiding his work for two hours a day while he sleeps ? Is he using a mouse mover or jamming his keys ?

He could get sacked for this and that’s the part that would make me angry. Even though he’s only on £36k that’s still money every month you won’t have if he does gets caught out.

I disagree, they won't be contributing substantially different amounts for the pot and I imagine the family needs both salaries to get by, so they are both the "breadwinners"

Just to defend WFH, I work from home and public sector and I account for every part of my day. If I take an hour long break I record it (and am obviously unpaid for it). I am busy and productive.

this man is making a mockery of the benefit.

OP even if he worked in the office, and even if he didn’t have a nap which makes you questions whether he has a medical need you need to investigate as it’s quite excessive, this is about his general laziness. Why are you doing the bulk of the housework when you both work (salary is irrelevant, it’s time spent out the house).

Why are you leaving first thing and getting back later and he has done zero prep. Why can’t he give the bathroom a quick clean at lunch so neither of you do cleaning at the weekends and can be together and relax as a family?

He generally needs to pull his weight and YOU need to voice that.

Why as a taxpayer am I paying him to waste my money is an entirely different conversation.

Because he's a fully grown adult and shouldn't need telling

His salary is average, hers is £19k more. It's reasonable to call her the breadwinner and not reasonable to call her an average earner.

In what way are you ‘the breadwinner’? You earn similar, average amounts.

I'd be livid... because I pay council tax... no job allows you to have a 3 hour nap on the clock. There's always something to do and if he's finished tasks he should be looking up things that could improve council services generally. This is the piss taking that has shot everyone else in the arse!

And Unison tell us how hard working LGOs are….
What a joke. These are our TAXES.

Yep ive heard many people mention the moving mouse trick! Shocking! I dont get how so many employers can afford to pay for staff that are not actually working!!

The breadwinner though..... christ. You're not earning that much more than him. 🤣

He should be prepping dinner and tidying as a minimum during the day if he has time for a 2h sleep

This infuriates me as someone who WFH. I work 10hr days, study full-time when not in work, juggle 3 kids, a husband with a deteriorating muscular condition, and 2 dogs. I do not stop. He really does give people like myself (also working for the government), a bad image. Alas! Some people are so desperate for a bit of gratification to make themselves feel better on these threads - They'll automatically think we are all like it. It doesn't matter where you work, but there will always be someone taking the piss.

People calling in fake sick, people being whinge bags, people working bare minimum of hours, doing bare minimum at work, people not working at all because 'oooh I'm a SAHM and my husband earns millions, but I'm gonna give me opinion on people who WFH even though I'd be screwed if my partner left me.'

YANBU - Read him his rights, OP. While you and I are out here slogging our guts out - Your husband is taking the piss, and Netmums are salivating with glee over posts like this.

That wage is a managers wage in a public sector job which I can confirm is extremely high pressured and stressful, most managers within my team are working more than salaried hours to get work done

He should be doing the dinner if he’s home first … however, £55k v £36k is hardly the breadwinner and if you’re as busy and pressured as you say you are, sounds like you are being underpaid!