AIBU to be angry he locked us in while ill?

Sounds like you need to visit Timsons

It's not that confusing if you read her other thread. Husband is a heavy drinker/probably alcoholic.

Have read your other thread and it's obvious this is just the latest in a string of problems in your relationship, which all boil down to the fact that your OH is a heavy drinker. Are you sure that's not why he's being sick now - some overseas binge? It all boils down to whether you're prepared to put up with him or not as it doesn't seem like he has any intention of changing.

I have just read your other thread. It's clear that you've both reached a point where you are unhappy with each other. It sounds like all your children are adults now so surely it should be fairly simple to go your separate ways. Or buy a new kettle and one of you lives in the "unit" so you don't have to deal with one another.

Oh. So this isn't about a one off poor decision when he's unwell at all?

Do you not have a front and a back door ?

He's unwell and made a decision that perhaps with hindsight was the wrong one but still hardly the end of the world? His choices were to leave the backdoor unlocked which isn't safe or post the keys back through the letterbox which leaves him unable to access his own house. I do think that banishing a sick family member to a "unit" is a bit weird, although I understand not wanting to catch a bug.

And you have two homes but can't afford to get a second key cut?

I find this whole thread very confusing. Last time my husband had a sickness bug, he went to bed, I made chicken soup and cleaned the bathroom then carried on with my usual day except to periodically check in on him.

You only have one set of house keys in a four person household?

How did he access the house to get the kettle?

I’d be more pissed off that he’d taken the kettle!

Obviously it’s insane that you only have one set of keys for a door you clearly use as the main door. How does this work normally though:
when you leave the house do you leave the keys at home and the door unlocked so others at home can get out? In which case how do you get in if they then go out and lock up the house as normal?
or do you leave the house and lock up taking the only key with you, in which case no one else can go in and out of that door (so equally selfish)

I saw your other thread. He’s an abusive alcoholic with no respect for you and your family. It’s absolute madness to continue this relationship.

he’s mid 40’s and has a sickness bug!!

Yet you left him without a kettle so he had to go fetch on himself!

Everybody in the house should have a key to a door that can only be opened with a key. I have a key safe outside, too so if someone forgets or loses a key, they can still access a spare. Or for emergency services, if needed at night when I’m alone. It might be I can’t get to the door. Though I often leave the back door unlocked, if I’m feeling really unwell..in case.

Why don’t you change the lock for one with a code, then you don’t need a key? I’m going to , soon.
Or a lock you only need a key to get in, but can open from the inside?

So you weren't locked in then, it's just the front door is a bit more difficult?

Would you have been happy if he'd left the back door unlocked all night? That hardly seems safe.

Get a spare set of back door keys cut, it's odd that you've only got the one set.

Do you really not have another set of keys for the back door? I keep a spare on me all the time along with the front door key.

One set of keys between all of you?? All sounds a little odd.

Overall, this is the view I most agree with. You don't always think with complete logic when you're not well. You could quite easily have got your daughter to nip round and get the keys if she can use the front door. It's so dramatic to say you were locked in. In fact the way the title reads, it sounds like you were the one ill and he'd locked you in your bedroom or something. The reality is very different.

I'm sure there must be other things going on, which is why you've reacted like this to this one, but just taking this one single thing on its own - YABU.

Send your daughter or the boyfriend out round the front to get the keys off him. Don't you have two sets of keys? I have one set and my DH the other.

YABU to only seemingly have 1 communal key to a door in your house.

We have at least 3 keys to every door in our house!

He said he locked us in and kept the keys in “incase he needed to access the house in the night because he was poorly”

But he could already access the house, because he got in to get the kettle in the first place?

I know this isn’t the point of the thread, but he got on a plane feeling that unwell? I’m feeling very sorry for anyone in that flight that caught it from him.

Are you sure he didn't just want to stay in the annexe so that he could get drunk?

Again?

I mean, he got form for this, hasn't he.

It's something I can imagine I'd do, at night, feeling unwell, without really thinking it through.

What should he have done? Woken you to come and lock up after him? Left the door unlocked?

Can’t one of the other people go out the front door and fetch the keys if he is too ill to bring them over?

Your other thread paints a different picture.