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Entitled spider in my kitchen

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Definetelynotanathlete · 16/04/2026 22:14

So this is mostly a rant about the spiders. I absolutely hate them.
My DC and I went away yesterday for overnight trip to visit my friend. Before we left, I checked everything is turned off, windows are closed etc. I noticed empty glass in my DD bedroom and I took it downstairs and left it by the sink. We got back this evening and after I cooked the dinner, I put everything in the dishwasher. Then I pick up the glass and there was a gigantic spider at the bottom and he spun a bit of the cobweb at the bottom of the glass. I swear he was so big, I could see his teeth or whatever you call them. What is he doing in my kitchen is the question I ask?! I thought the rule is, that massive house spiders live outside in the spring/summer and try to come inside the house in the autumn. But oh no! This asshole was prancing around my kitchen counter while I was gone. I don’t actually know if he was a male but I assume he was as he had the audacity to disturbed my peace in my own home😂

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PinkNailPolish2026 · 17/04/2026 08:26

Definetelynotanathlete · 17/04/2026 00:12

Thank you so much. I just purchased one online! It doesn’t say that it works on spiders but I will give it a go. Instructions says that carpets should be vacuumed for 7 consecutive days after treatment?! Did you do that? I don’t know if I have an energy to hoover the whole house every day for a week🫣

No, I thinks that’s for a flea infestation, I just spray the skirtings, around windows and in nooks and crannies as well as the top corners of the rooms 🥰

Definetelynotanathlete · 17/04/2026 00:45

InterestedDad37 · 17/04/2026 00:29

(I haven't seen a clothes moth in decades! Are they still a thing, then?)
OP - a bigger spider is likely to be a female, just sayin' 😉 🕷️ 🕸️

Clothes moths are definitely still a thing. Unfortunately, somehow they got into our house three years ago and despite many treatments, we still can’t eliminate them. I had a whole house treated last autumn and yet couple of days ago, I saw one on the ceiling. I’m hoping that Indorex someone kindly suggested for spiders, will work on the moths too

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Definetelynotanathlete · 17/04/2026 00:30

momager1 · 17/04/2026 00:13

I hate spiders, I have a very verbal gecko behind my fridge..runs like crazy when I confront him. I swear he gave me the finger the other day. He chirps many times a day. Upside is that we have a built in mozzie killer. Our dogs do not even react to him anymore. Damn loud cocklodger. Def male or we would have eggs, so he is a HE for sure. uggh.

Please rewind and explain properly. Why do you have a gecko behind your fridge? Where did it come from? Where do you live? What does it do all day? I need more info please

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InterestedDad37 · 17/04/2026 00:29

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 16/04/2026 23:21

False windows get evicted (carefully!), all other spiders are welcome - I like spiders and I live in hope they'll help keep the clothes moth numbers down.

(I haven't seen a clothes moth in decades! Are they still a thing, then?)
OP - a bigger spider is likely to be a female, just sayin' 😉 🕷️ 🕸️

Butterme · 17/04/2026 00:28

You left the house for a night, what did you expect - that’s like years to a spider.

He’s now got squatters rights you know!

Artricha · 17/04/2026 00:26

Definetelynotanathlete · 16/04/2026 22:56

He was definitely not Linda. That sounds too dainty for my big fat hairy spider

That's not my spider! His arse is too hairy!

YoohooPoo · 17/04/2026 00:22

We had a house spider when I was a child who we named Barney. He was very big and long and lived for a while! He used to sit behind our corner sofa and come out every once in a while to greet the dog. I think of him fondly.

Definetelynotanathlete · 17/04/2026 00:22

YourLoftyCyanZebra · 16/04/2026 23:21

I am a bit of a wimp when it comes to spiders but I have an understanding with the balcony false widows and the bathroom cellar spiders....don't get in my way and I'll let them live. Any offspring are evicted.

The cellar spider kind, I don’t mind so much. They won’t be welcome in my house but it’s not as bad as the ones who look like they are on steroids. False widow..absolutely not

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DiscoBeat · 17/04/2026 00:18

House spiders are house spiders because they live in your house. They're not visitors. They just pop out from the skirting boards or whatever at certain times. But they're great at snaffling flies so they're fine by me!

Mossstitch · 17/04/2026 00:18

@CrackInTheGlass this intrigues me, I've heard that the spindly spiders (named as 'hangers' by my youngest son) eat the big hairy ones but how do they catch them as they are so fast🤷
I have an agreement with the spindly ones that so long as they stay out of my bedroom on the second floor they can remain rent free. The big hairy scary ones I'm afraid end up in Henry's tummy or the dyson hand held and deposited at the bottom of the garden.🙈

momager1 · 17/04/2026 00:13

I hate spiders, I have a very verbal gecko behind my fridge..runs like crazy when I confront him. I swear he gave me the finger the other day. He chirps many times a day. Upside is that we have a built in mozzie killer. Our dogs do not even react to him anymore. Damn loud cocklodger. Def male or we would have eggs, so he is a HE for sure. uggh.

Definetelynotanathlete · 17/04/2026 00:12

PinkNailPolish2026 · 16/04/2026 23:33

It’s a spray that was designed for fleas but kills everything. I found out about it on here a few years ago when someone else had used it in autumn spider season. We rarely see spiders as we treat the house twice a year with it. My experience of the spider bite terrified me so I’m afraid it’s me or the spider now. We live on a farm so get massive spiders, we also have house dogs and they’ve never been affected by it. We treat the house and go out for a couple of hours leaving the windows open.

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Thank you so much. I just purchased one online! It doesn’t say that it works on spiders but I will give it a go. Instructions says that carpets should be vacuumed for 7 consecutive days after treatment?! Did you do that? I don’t know if I have an energy to hoover the whole house every day for a week🫣

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outerspacepotato · 17/04/2026 00:01

Out in the garden. Back corner.

Definetelynotanathlete · 16/04/2026 23:57

mjf981 · 16/04/2026 23:38

I quite like spiders.
Here in Australia we have huntsman spiders. One lives on the ceiling at my partners house - he is absolutely massive. They can be very defensive though and will run at you if they're defending their 'patch'! The good thing is they don't make webs.
For those with a phobia, do not google 'huntsman spider egg sac hatching' and watch the YouTube videos...

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There is no way I would be able to be in the house with those spiders. No. Just no

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Muteduck · 16/04/2026 23:54

I have a spider behind my cooker fat bastard aswell.
Hes safe for now but the moment i get a good shot with the broom he`s a gonna.

Any bug that comes in my home has signed its own death warrant.

CrackInTheGlass · 16/04/2026 23:44

I have an agreement with our “spindlies” (cellar spiders) as I’ve seen them first hand take down big hairy spiders and massive daddy long legs. If they keep themselves to themselves, I’ll let them be. Crawl over my forehead when I’ve put a towel on my head though, fast squish.

mjf981 · 16/04/2026 23:38

I quite like spiders.
Here in Australia we have huntsman spiders. One lives on the ceiling at my partners house - he is absolutely massive. They can be very defensive though and will run at you if they're defending their 'patch'! The good thing is they don't make webs.
For those with a phobia, do not google 'huntsman spider egg sac hatching' and watch the YouTube videos...

Definetelynotanathlete · 16/04/2026 23:36

Decacaffeinatednow · 16/04/2026 23:14

Please let him out of his glass prison !

So where do I put it? I can flash it down the loo. My DC want me to release it in our garden but I think he will just run back in at some point

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PinkNailPolish2026 · 16/04/2026 23:33

Definetelynotanathlete · 16/04/2026 23:25

What is Indorex? I’m in the UK but I will get my house treated if it kills spiders!

It’s a spray that was designed for fleas but kills everything. I found out about it on here a few years ago when someone else had used it in autumn spider season. We rarely see spiders as we treat the house twice a year with it. My experience of the spider bite terrified me so I’m afraid it’s me or the spider now. We live on a farm so get massive spiders, we also have house dogs and they’ve never been affected by it. We treat the house and go out for a couple of hours leaving the windows open.

Definetelynotanathlete · 16/04/2026 23:32

outerspacepotato · 16/04/2026 23:16

Aww, it was catching bugs for you.

I too had a bathroom spider for some time and we checked to make sure we didn't drown it in the shower. It liked to hang out in a plant.

We had a big spider living in an old unused mailbox. It was a don't start none won't be none type, and it was kind of shy.

Let it live. 👍

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Sorry but no thanks. I don’t mind the big skinny spiders because they don’t move very fast but I don’t want them in my house. My issue is with the big body and thick hairy legs spiders

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 16/04/2026 23:31

Definetelynotanathlete · 16/04/2026 23:25

What is Indorex? I’m in the UK but I will get my house treated if it kills spiders!

An incredibly unpleasant neurotoxin that affects insects, birds, cats, dogs, aquatic life and humans.

Definetelynotanathlete · 16/04/2026 23:25

PinkNailPolish2026 · 16/04/2026 23:16

We had a huge one in the bathroom last night. DH evicted him and the house was treated with Indorex today, I hate the bloody things, no doubt the house will resemble a spider graveyard for a few days as we find the dead ones that the Indorex has killed. I take terrible reactions to insect and spider bites (before anyone starts about killing spiders) and lost a chunk of my lower arm a few years ago thanks to a reaction from a spider bite. I take no chances now.

What is Indorex? I’m in the UK but I will get my house treated if it kills spiders!

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Definetelynotanathlete · 16/04/2026 23:23

Supersimkin7 · 16/04/2026 23:11

God, men are impertinent.

Can you boot him out at 11:15? He’ll know that time cos the pub closes.

Brilliant😂

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YourLoftyCyanZebra · 16/04/2026 23:21

I am a bit of a wimp when it comes to spiders but I have an understanding with the balcony false widows and the bathroom cellar spiders....don't get in my way and I'll let them live. Any offspring are evicted.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 16/04/2026 23:21

False windows get evicted (carefully!), all other spiders are welcome - I like spiders and I live in hope they'll help keep the clothes moth numbers down.