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Who are the clever kids in your class?

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tobejudged · 15/04/2026 22:55

AIBU to find this an unhelpful thing to ask a reception age kid?

My mum is quite judgmental so perhaps I’m being over sensitive but to me it’s encouraging him to pass judgement on his classmates and also letting him know other people are probably judging him.

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tobejudged · 15/04/2026 23:07

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 15/04/2026 23:03

I knew who the clever kids were in Reception, when I started it was still 3 intakes so as a summer born I started after Easter. All the cleverest kids were on the blue table, all the new starters were put on the red table which was the least clever: and everyone knew it.

No it's really not helpful of your mum to be asking this!

Oh! Very encouraging for the kids at the red table then? 🙄

Hes at a lovely little school BTW, I’m sure they don’t make a big deal of different abilities. I have no idea how he is doing vs his peers. I just know that he’s happy and getting on well. He’s not 5 yet so that seems good enough for now bless him. He’s so young.

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TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 15/04/2026 23:03

I knew who the clever kids were in Reception, when I started it was still 3 intakes so as a summer born I started after Easter. All the cleverest kids were on the blue table, all the new starters were put on the red table which was the least clever: and everyone knew it.

No it's really not helpful of your mum to be asking this!

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tobejudged · 15/04/2026 23:01

Bollixtothat · 15/04/2026 22:58

Children will work out very quickly who the clever children are in any class. Perhaps reception is rather young for it to start. Your mother doesn’t sound very pleasant if she’s judging children solely on their academic ability.

I wouldn’t say she’s judging children solely on that but she will be keen to understand who’s good at what, that’s how she works. I know the kids will work it out but I don’t want my son to think it’s important to us who is clever IYSWIM.

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Bollixtothat · 15/04/2026 22:58

Children will work out very quickly who the clever children are in any class. Perhaps reception is rather young for it to start. Your mother doesn’t sound very pleasant if she’s judging children solely on their academic ability.