Dd 22 has just told me she is engaged. I really want to be happy for her but I can't help but think it is too soon and perhaps not best for her at the moment.
She has just graduated last year with a first class economics degree from a very prestigious university but, given the current market, has really struggled to find a job and is still living at home. She is incredibly hard working and has made every effort to send in job applications but hasn't found anything yet and I think is starting to feel very discouraged.
She has been with her boyfriend for 2 years and, while he is slightly quiet around us, they seem to have a really lovely relationship and are very happy together.
That said, I just can't help but think that getting married may be a panic response to feeling like she doesn't have a purpose and that if she does, she may regret it later on. She has always expressed how important a career of her own is to her and I am concerned that getting married so young may take away from that. I am also unsure of the finances of her getting married and moving out.
I haven't voiced any of these concerns to her as I don't know if it is my place anymore and I always want her to feel supported especially in such important life decisions.
Does anyone have any thoughts or any similar experiences?