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WTF was he wearing?!

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BengalBangle · 14/04/2026 18:26

I passed a man earlier (maybe 45 to 50), who was wearing a t-shirt emblazoned with the words "I'm not a gynecologist [sic], but I'll take a look anyway".

AIBU to think this is arrantly classless, misogynistic in reducing women to mere vulvas and that you'd have you'd have to be a prick to own such a monstrosity, never mind wear it out in public?!

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AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 15/04/2026 09:11

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/04/2026 07:43

Policing the clothing of grown adults - weird. It’s fine to disapprove but surely you just get on with your day?

But 'only' disapproving is what most people on here have done. Apart from anything else, who would want to risk approaching somebody choosing to wear an aggressive t-shirt like that?

And what's actually wrong with challenging people who deliberately massively overstep accepted social boundaries? I'm not just talking about a 'cheeky' slogan; but some of them that people have recalled on here, honestly.

Call it policing if you will, but what would you say If somebody walked down the street saying these slogans out loud as they walked? Would you ignore that and 'not police their speech''? Because that's effectively what a t-shirt slogan is doing.

And you say about 'policing the clothing of grown adults', but they wear these out in public knowing full well that many children will see them. Deliberately exposing children to very adult, sexual and/or other highly inappropriate content is a clear form of abuse.

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BengalBangle · 15/04/2026 09:03

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/04/2026 07:43

Policing the clothing of grown adults - weird. It’s fine to disapprove but surely you just get on with your day?

I wouldn't call finding it gross 'policing'!
I honestly just got on with my day, as was in a hurry to get our train back to the SW.
Maybe it was a sense of humour failure...

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 15/04/2026 09:02

PolkaDotPorridge · 15/04/2026 08:23

People that wear clothing like that are thick as pig shit.

This in spades.

Frugalgal · 15/04/2026 09:01

BengalBangle · 14/04/2026 18:26

I passed a man earlier (maybe 45 to 50), who was wearing a t-shirt emblazoned with the words "I'm not a gynecologist [sic], but I'll take a look anyway".

AIBU to think this is arrantly classless, misogynistic in reducing women to mere vulvas and that you'd have you'd have to be a prick to own such a monstrosity, never mind wear it out in public?!

Oh yuck, what a massive ick. What a bell end he was must be

Goditsmemargaret · 15/04/2026 08:59

"it's not going to suck itself" worn proudly by an old flame. Apparently HIS ex had bought it for him. It didn't work out between us.

Kizzandra · 15/04/2026 08:59

Additup · 15/04/2026 08:56

Bloody Hell !!

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😮

Kizzandra · 15/04/2026 08:57

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 15/04/2026 08:56

I remember being 10 and being really uncomfortable seeing a grown man wearing a shirt that said 'make me horny' in an Iceland supermarket. I honestly think there should be rules against this stuff tbh. Also saw a young lad driving a car that said 'MILFHUNTER' on the top. Makes me want to get a pink car with 'DILFHUNTER' on the front.

Hahahahaha!

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 15/04/2026 08:57

Additup · 15/04/2026 08:56

Bloody Hell !!

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I would have instinctively sprayed Deep Heat in his eyes lmfao.

Kizzandra · 15/04/2026 08:56

My SIL gifted my FIL a mug with a photo of a woman on it wearing underwear. Stockings etc, not sturdy gusset type underwear. When it was filled with hot water the underwear disappeared leaving her totally starkers. My MIL used it faithfully every day to make his tea. WTAF? When my son was born I told my DH to make it stop or it would meet with an accident and to be fair they did but I'm sure they thought I was quite the victorian prude. Astounding that women still pander along with misogynistic shite.

Additup · 15/04/2026 08:56

Putyourownlifejacketonfirst · 15/04/2026 08:20

Worst one ever, seen in Asda on a 30ish year old man. Stop screaming don’t turn this rape into a murder.

Bloody Hell !!

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 15/04/2026 08:56

I remember being 10 and being really uncomfortable seeing a grown man wearing a shirt that said 'make me horny' in an Iceland supermarket. I honestly think there should be rules against this stuff tbh. Also saw a young lad driving a car that said 'MILFHUNTER' on the top. Makes me want to get a pink car with 'DILFHUNTER' on the front.

NotMyRealAccount · 15/04/2026 08:55

How very 1970s seaside town. But it's quite convenient when these chaps tell us who they are without even opening their gobs.

Firesidechatter · 15/04/2026 08:55

Additup · 15/04/2026 08:52

It's definitely crass to wear a t-shirt with that on, but I'm not seeing the misogyny or reducing women to their vulvas though.

Yeah this, crass and he looks like an idiot. But I don’t see misogyny or reducing women to vulvas.

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BengalBangle · 15/04/2026 08:54

ForCosyLion · 15/04/2026 05:21

I don't believe that parents use the adjective sexy for their young children. I'm sorry, but I just don't.

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Unfortunately, I do believe it. There are some very odd people in this world who will use grossly inappropriate words for children (and without ill-intent).

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Imdunfer · 15/04/2026 08:54

I'm just glad the idiots like him are wearing clear labels so we know to avoid them.

PaterPower · 15/04/2026 08:53

Bestwishes23 · 14/04/2026 19:00

I doubt he even knows what the vulva is. Men like that rarely understand female anatomy beyond what they watch on porn

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Is it made in Sweden?

Additup · 15/04/2026 08:52

It's definitely crass to wear a t-shirt with that on, but I'm not seeing the misogyny or reducing women to their vulvas though.

Ohmygeorgey · 15/04/2026 08:45

Tamtim · 15/04/2026 03:43

No sane woman would go anywhere near a creep wearing that. Distaste at its finest. No funny either.

The saddest part is there are plenty of women who would find that hilarious and consider themselves just like "one of the lads" because they can handle the "banter".

Moonlightdust · 15/04/2026 08:36

ForCosyLion · 15/04/2026 05:21

I don't believe that parents use the adjective sexy for their young children. I'm sorry, but I just don't.

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Well you would be mistaken! My friend’s SIL would call her 2 daughters from a baby sexy 🤢 She meant it in an endearing way and would greet her “Hi sexy girl” or when she was dressed in cute clothing “Ooh sexy” It’s so grim. I was really shocked hearing it as she presented herself as middle class, a perfectionist etc. I don’t know if her husband would use this term (I can’t remember) but all I can say it’s 100% true as my friend does not lie. She thought it was weird and disturbing too.

GertieLawrence · 15/04/2026 08:36

BengalBangle · 14/04/2026 18:26

I passed a man earlier (maybe 45 to 50), who was wearing a t-shirt emblazoned with the words "I'm not a gynecologist [sic], but I'll take a look anyway".

AIBU to think this is arrantly classless, misogynistic in reducing women to mere vulvas and that you'd have you'd have to be a prick to own such a monstrosity, never mind wear it out in public?!

Nobheads used to say this 30 years ago. Wasnt funny then either.

WormHoleInSpace · 15/04/2026 08:30

KimberleyClark · 14/04/2026 23:08

That’s disgusting. What sort of parent would want their child wearing that?

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I really want to tell them what I thought of them but it was in a very busy shopping center and I knew with idiots like that they wouldn't pay attention to me.

notacooldad · 15/04/2026 08:24

About 10 years ago there was a lot of controversy around the fashion brands Dolls kill. They had a slogan ' Dead girls can't say no'.
However from what I recall, the controversy wasn't about the slogan but plagiarism.

A local dickhead wore it to our pub. He was a well known pub. The landlady just said 'what you like!!! And laughed
I used it as an indicator that he is in fact a knobhead to be avoided!

PolkaDotPorridge · 15/04/2026 08:23

People that wear clothing like that are thick as pig shit.

KimberleyClark · 15/04/2026 08:23

Saw a video of a gender reveal party on YouTube. After the blue balloons had been revealed, the father to be ripped off his shirt to reveal a t shirt bearing the slogan “Real Men Make Twins”. Bit vulgar in that context referring to his own prowess. And inaccurate. It’s women that make twins!

SoJaunty · 15/04/2026 08:21

I don't feel bothered by this kind of thing. It signals "not someone I'd get on with" which is useful.

People should be mindful of where they're wearing this stuff, though. I was once at a wildlife park in the school summer holidays - I saw a young woman dressed in 'metal' type aesthetic, wearing a hoodie with a large slogan including the word 'fuck' on the back. I thought that was a bit much in a place that was teeming with children.

I saw her again later and she'd tied it round her waist, hiding the slogan, so perhaps someone had had a word!