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WTF was he wearing?!

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BengalBangle · 14/04/2026 18:26

I passed a man earlier (maybe 45 to 50), who was wearing a t-shirt emblazoned with the words "I'm not a gynecologist [sic], but I'll take a look anyway".

AIBU to think this is arrantly classless, misogynistic in reducing women to mere vulvas and that you'd have you'd have to be a prick to own such a monstrosity, never mind wear it out in public?!

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Catarinabella · 15/04/2026 14:09

BengalBangle · 14/04/2026 22:55

Too true!

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I still cringe when I recall a female on here commenting about shaving her vagina.

YouHaveAnArse · 15/04/2026 13:59

Only actual groping and catcalling counts as sexual harrassment and not doing things that create a hostile environment for others based on their gender, got it.

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 15/04/2026 13:56

YouHaveAnArse · 15/04/2026 13:52

I'm guessing me taking the bus as a kid and sitting next to adult men reading newspapers with page 3 on display wasn't a form of sexual harassment either.

Or when the boys in the corridor below me at uni put them up on the kitchen noticeboard until the cleaner refused to clean the communal kitchen.

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I guess you'll be told it was all your own fault for having eyes...

YouHaveAnArse · 15/04/2026 13:52

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/04/2026 13:23

Oh come on! How is it sexual harassment ? Earlier it was apparently child abuse.

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I'm guessing me taking the bus as a kid and sitting next to adult men reading newspapers with page 3 on display wasn't a form of sexual harassment either.

Or when the boys in the corridor below me at uni put them up on the kitchen noticeboard until the cleaner refused to clean the communal kitchen.

SevenYellowHammers · 15/04/2026 13:40

what a twonk

Idrathertalktomycat · 15/04/2026 13:40

I must be away with the fairies as I never notice what people have on their T shirts.
I just don't look.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/04/2026 13:23

StrictlyCoffee · 15/04/2026 12:45

You’re OK with sexual harassment in public, we get it.

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Oh come on! How is it sexual harassment ? Earlier it was apparently child abuse.

nam3c4ang3 · 15/04/2026 13:11

ive seen 'mash out with your gash out' - i was sick in my mouth a bit 😲

TheDenimPoet · 15/04/2026 13:06

BauhausOfEliott · 14/04/2026 23:29

This didn’t happen.

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You can get those from BDSM places but it shocks me he managed to find one to fit a child.

Well1mBack · 15/04/2026 13:05

SilenceInside · 14/04/2026 18:44

It’s helpful that he’s displaying his mentality publicly as it means that people can give him a very wide berth and not waste any of their time with him.

My thoughts exactly. He's advertising the type of person he is so it's easy to avoid him.

I once saw a tiny baby sleepsuit for sale that said on it "I'm with the MILF". I thought that was pretty crass. This, obviously, is worse but hardly anything surprises me these days about humanity.

Whatafustercluck · 15/04/2026 12:53

I'm fine with tshirts like that. It gives women a really clear indication of which men to stay well away from.

Whatafustercluck · 15/04/2026 12:52

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 15/04/2026 10:57

I've seen similar ones with '...my wife must have fallen off' - and found them funny, because they're obviously just silly, farcical humour; but there's absolutely no need or justification for offensive misogynistic language.

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Plus, that grammar makes my eyes bleed.

elliesmummy19 · 15/04/2026 12:51

Grim. My neighbour house signs similar to this all over their garden. Dislike 👎

fireworksandflowers · 15/04/2026 12:50

KimberleyClark · 14/04/2026 23:08

That’s disgusting. What sort of parent would want their child wearing that?

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If anything like my parents they wouldn’t give it a thought. My older sister gave me a load of her old clothes, among them was a vest top with “I’m still a virgin” in very bold letter with “unfortunately this is a very old shirt” underneath. I must of been 11/12 😬

StrictlyCoffee · 15/04/2026 12:45

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/04/2026 11:26

So was I and I probably would have asked as well.

But I would have been given a made up explanation (or told not to stare at people).

What exactly are you suggesting in your final paragraph? That a child might ask him for help thinking he’s a doctor?

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You’re OK with sexual harassment in public, we get it.

StrictlyCoffee · 15/04/2026 12:43

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/04/2026 12:16

Yeah because his campaign of abuse against women, children, disabled people and corpses is exactly the same as some bloke wearing a t-shirt 🙄

Its comments like that which make you look unhinged.

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Well actually I was just thinking about it as I watched a programme not long ago where that vile creep was wearing a string vest and then stripped off in front of a bunch of women in an office and it sounded similar. Women being unwittingly exposed to this creepy unwanted behaviour is a form of sexual harassment.

Only one unhinged person I can see on this thread, and it’s you.

YouHaveAnArse · 15/04/2026 12:34

Livia, do you own shares in T-shirtHell.com or something? You serm very angry about the reactions of others.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/04/2026 12:18

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 15/04/2026 11:30

I can't suggest anything, I'm afraid. Lots of anti-social behaviour is technically legal, and the perpetrators just get away with it. It doesn't mean that the rest of us have to just smile, shut up and be happy for them doing it, though.

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It kind of does though. He wasn’t hurting anyone, it was just a stupid t-shirt. Save your anger for something that is actually harmful

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/04/2026 12:16

StrictlyCoffee · 15/04/2026 12:09

Did you go to the same gym as Jimmy Savile?

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Yeah because his campaign of abuse against women, children, disabled people and corpses is exactly the same as some bloke wearing a t-shirt 🙄

Its comments like that which make you look unhinged.

StrictlyCoffee · 15/04/2026 12:13

AllFloatOn · 15/04/2026 12:10

That is fully disgusting.

I used to know a woman who referred to her 2-4 yo DD as sexy quite often. She seemed to think it was like saying she was beautiful or cute. But it always made me feel weird!

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My uncle’s (now ex) wife used to refer to my son as “sexy” when he was a baby, it really weirded me out

AllFloatOn · 15/04/2026 12:10

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 15/04/2026 09:25

Agreed. When I was in NICU with my twins there was a couple in with their premie baby daughter and the dad repeatedly called her "sexy girl".

I remember thinking to myself, Christ alive...
But it does happen!

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That is fully disgusting.

I used to know a woman who referred to her 2-4 yo DD as sexy quite often. She seemed to think it was like saying she was beautiful or cute. But it always made me feel weird!

StrictlyCoffee · 15/04/2026 12:09

Utterlybananas333 · 15/04/2026 12:08

Ewww,🤮🤢that reminds me of this old guy at the gym who would wear a long stringy vest emblazoned with the words FBI "FEMALE BODY INSPECTOR " on it.. disgusting!!

Did you go to the same gym as Jimmy Savile?

StrictlyCoffee · 15/04/2026 12:09

Grim.

I bet he also had the “orgasm donor on board” car sign I saw a while back.

Utterlybananas333 · 15/04/2026 12:08

Ewww,🤮🤢that reminds me of this old guy at the gym who would wear a long stringy vest emblazoned with the words FBI "FEMALE BODY INSPECTOR " on it.. disgusting!!

Parsleyforme · 15/04/2026 11:40

I remember years ago people wearing T-shirts like “FBI - female body inspector”. They were supposed to be funny but never were. I would put this man in the category of men who thought those T-shirts were hilarious and then never grew up. I would take comfort in the fact that they have probably seen very few female bodies or vulvas in real life purely due to their taste in T-shirts