AIBU to feel hurt when my husband accepts invitations excluding me?

You are making a huge assumption that this is deliberate. How is he attending as a singleton? Are all married people automatically singletons now as soon as they leave the house alone? This place is wild sometimes.

It’s a shame your husband would have so little respect for you though to go along with this particular even if he did have no intention and would not cheat. People have different standards I guess!

He’s not going ‘as a single’! He’s attending a dinner party to which his wife hasn’t been invited, which is a combination of couples and people attending singly (the host, the OP’s DH, the other woman going). One third of the attendees are not attending as part of a couple!

He's great friends with a man with low morals - lie down with dogs, get up with fleas.

Obviously, a husband who loved you or cared about you would simply have said no to this deliberate slight, fully understanding (as we all do) that it's quite unacceptable for him (your husband) to attend a couples dinner party as a singleton with another female singleton to compliment him. And fully understanding (as we all do) that this is deliberately slimy behaviour on the part of his low morals bff.

Your husband already knows all this of course. The question is, why doesn't he care how deliberately disrespectful his low morals bff is being towards you?

They are both disrespectful creeps. Stop being such a doormat.

It's not appropriate for a married man to go to a small dinner party as a single, to be paired with a single lady. Especially when it is likely that the host dislikes his wife because she disapproves of his past behaviour. It looks like the host is trying to cause trouble.

Can we play the cool wives drinking game?

cool wives wowee!
I wouldn't give a rat's bum personally. because i am confident and trust my husband.

I wonder what is in the trifle?

I love a martini
Two at the most
Three, I'm under the table
Four, I'm under the host.

How is it disrespectful? By not being glued together?

No it hasn't 😂
You can go to a social event with friends and it not be disrespectful to your spouse, that is a weird take.

As long as you don’t have to spend time with this guy it’s fine…but I agree with PPs - this is about your husband feeling waaay too comfortable that a single woman has been invited to make up the numbers on this occasion.

Some people are so naive. It’s the particular situation OP is not happy with mother husband meeting up with mixed groups in general or hanging out with this friend. Even if her husband is the most trustworthy man on earth it’s very clear what the intention is here and DH should be putting a stop to it. Fully bet these cool wives wouldn’t be so happy with it in real life 😆

This isn't about jealousy. What a weird take. It is about B being disrespectful.

This isn't being in a room with loads of women or being in a room with friends of the opposite sex. This has been weirdly set up like a date. Whether OP's husband takes the bait or not, it is rude.

You're really weirdly reading this in the way you want.

You do you. I think OP is right to be annoyed (as to the majority) and I am thankful my husband would not put up with someone like this.

I would presume my husband can be in a room with a woman single or not without fainting so I dont see why I need to have him on a lead

Are people this jealous in real life?

Tell him ‘you don’t mind’…

WTF? He doesn’t need permission.

If OP respects and trusts her husband then what’s the issue? And if she isn’t happy about it, then she is at liberty to decide the marriage is not worth continuing

He’s her husband, not her child. If OP trusts him, being in with a ‘bad crowd’ is irrelevant 🤣

He is being very disrespectful going along with this. But OP does not believe he is cheating. More that the morals of his friend are suspect and he would encourage it.

Some of these responses are completely batshit to me.
How insular to think that just because a single woman is going, that must mean the OP's husband is getting set up for a date? this thinking is akin to the village gossips in the local shop declaring 2 people of the opposite sex are definitely having an affair because they stopped for a little chit chat!
OP do you trust your husband? because it sounds like you do not if this is making you worried.
These couples who are joined at the hip must be so insecure they can't even so much as look at another human being.

This dreaded single woman might be the man’s close friend. A trusted colleague who he likes. Why should he not invite her as well as his male friend? She may like being single. Why assume she is out for a man? Is this what single women are treated like??

If the OP doesn’t trust her husband, then that’s the issue here. Not the dinner party composition.

And is OPs husband a scumbag also? I trust my partner. He could be in a room of women and my first thought is not that he would be shagging any of them

Or he invited someone to make up the numbers

Nah, a long term affair is never acceptable. If you are thar unhappy, get a divorce/ separate.

It is every bit that simple.

I would say to DH that you don't mind him seeing cheater friend but not in a scenario where he seems to be being set up with another woman. Tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he respects your marriage, he will duck out of this one.