Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

In fairness if OP had just picked him up a Happy Meal, all this could’ve been avoided!

Lighthearted obviously 🤣

Jfc he’s being a massive baby! Honestly sounds a bit jealous of the actual baby. I’m not even married but whenever me and my partner are doing anything together and one of us says they’ll get McDonald’s/ pizza etc for dinner it’s kind of assumed it’s covering dinner for both of us so unless you guys often have separate dinners it feels weird to not assume that? I hope that makes sense im very sleepy 😂.

Keep that photo he sent you that he is so proud of.

The one where he punishes you and his child by eating the babys snacks.
Send it on to your mum and friends.

Ask him does he feel like the big man today showing you what a petty nasty excuse of a man he is.

He has done you such a favour.

I swear this is why I am hearing so much of "one and done" with young professional women.
They see the reality of having children with a selfish man and know that their career is absolutely crucial to their ling term independence and health and one child is survivable, but not two.

Stay strong and resolute.
Women are far too quick to suck up bad behaviour, paying a huge price for it in the long term.

A 'grown man' wouldn't text the mother of his new baby about 'only' getting pastries for dinner. A 'grown man' would get on with making himself something decent.

“Next time definitely Starbucks”

No! Next time… get whatever the hell you want. Your man-child of a ‘D’H needs a bit of a sense check. He’s out of order and needs to learn about accountability. You are owed a proper apology not whatever excuse that was. Sending hugs 🫂

Wouldn't put it past that pathetic bunch.

Too cheap to fork out for a hotel or just being a martyr?

“Deranged”

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OP’s partner…. That you? 👀

This is so vindictive! 🚩

When someone shows you who they are believe them!

FGS even if you hadn’t offered him any it would have been fine. YANBU AT ALL. My god the way some women baby their men blows my mind. All I can think about is getting a McDonald’s for my lunch now 🤤🤤🤤

“A pitty McDonalds”

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Get yourself another mcdonalds/drive thru of your choice tonight and bloody enjoy it.

What would I do?

I’d bring back a 20 box of nuggets and sit on the sofa eating them. ALL. And I wouldn’t share one!

He can make his own damn food!

She's already married to a spicy nugget

Perhaps if he apologises sincerely you can move on, but sometimes when someone shows you exactly how nasty and petty they are you can never unsee it.
I completely agree with @Hailstoness . You may eventually forgive each other and move on from this, but you will likely have lost some respect for your DH, which may come back to bite him later. You now know that he is not quite the man you thought he was, and that, if he doesn't get what he wants (sex or food), he is capable of being vindictive towards you in way that you simply hadn't ever considered. Things will never be quite the same again.

Also, if he really "felt bad" about eating all the baby's treats, he wouldn't have sent you a photo of the empty box together with a gloating message.

Sorry OP, it's not you, it's him. 💐

Anyone who clicked that you are being unreasonable clearly slipped!

I would message him and tell him that until you have a serious conversation about his behaviour last night and agree some ground rules on how to move forward (ie he treats you with respect, and doesn't behave like an immature selfish idiot), you won't be making him any more food.
And he can get used to sleeping on the sofa...

What is actually unbelievable is that a grown man would act this way - petty, spiteful and pathetic.

He might be 'grown up' in terms of years alive, but he is definitely very much lacking in maturity.

A 'grown man' refusing his wife's offer of a takeaway, calling it "a pity McDonald's'?!

A 'grown man' unable to make himself a bowl of pasta, or cheese on toast, or ANYTHING to eat?

A 'grown man' eating food that he KNEW was intended for his own baby?!

You have every right to be absolutely fucking furious OP.

Hope you're feeling better today OP. I hope you have some emotional support - you need looking after while the baby is being tricky, not dealing with man tantrums.

I can't get over the fact that he (apparently)deliberately spoilt the tiny little treat you gave yourself - while still looking after the baby.

This is a cross roads point in your marriage where so many women cave in and bitterly regret it.

So many men show their true self after children.
Abuse, coercive sex, sulking.

Man treats her really badly, is abusive, threatens to leave and she caves in and so it continues and only gets worse.

YOU behaved 100% correctly.
This is when you say that he can leave as you will not be abused and punished.

He is an absolute disgrace eating those especially prepared snacks for his child as punishment.

Keep spelling it out that you know EXACTLY what he did.

That you have told people what he did and they are absolutely appalled too.

If he wants to leave, he should pack a bag, because you will not tolerate being treated and spoken to the way he has behaved.

You won't tolerate it for your child.

You making the biggest fuss is the most powerful thing you can do.
It shows him that you see him very clearly and you will not be cowed by his awful behaviour.

Perhaps if he apologises sincerely you can move on, but sometimes when someone shows you exactly how nasty and petty they are you can never unsee it.

Keep your mother and friends close.

When my two were little, the tough times were always in the threes - 3 weeks, 6 weeks, 9 weeks, 3 months, 6 months, 9 months (allegedly to do with the baby hitting a developmental milestone) so hopefully your sweet one will be back to napping in a few days 😊

PS I always wished there were more drive-throughs when they were little - would have really helped!

I’m glad you stood up to him.

Good point 😂

He was working before you had a baby so what did he do for dinner before the baby? Presumably he cooked. Why cant he still do that?

Oh yeah, because you've probably slipped into the role of chef and cleaner now you're on a "baby holiday" while he sleeps through the night and you cook, clean and wash his pants. His life looks a lot easier than it was before you had his baby. Which shows how awful he is.