Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

There is a small child involved and a mum who does everything for that small child, and also seems to have do all the caring for her jealous petty loser of a man baby who is actively sabotaging her parenting. Don’t post neutral comments about parents
when one is a new mums working her butt off and one is a jealous vindictive indulged petty loser who is failing at being a dad and a husband and she’s covering for him on both by doing his share of parenting, his share of looking after himself and as much of his share of looking after her as she has capacity for after doing all the rest of his and her work so I expect very little. That woman doesn’t have to adjust here.

👏 literally this 👆 feel bad for OP. He should be offering to make dinner knowing she’s struggling. Or he should be saying yeah you do what you need to do.

He doesn’t sound at all supportive and eating the babies snacks to spite you is petty. I think you need to start making sure he occasionally cooks.

He sounds quite, quite mental. Seriously abnormal.

Yeah, thanks, Wittgenstein.

…hhhmmm… you both sound like a couple of kids. No sympathy from me. Pesky baby, not napping …

This isn’t a victory how many cheers the OP is getting for getting McDonalds. There’s clearly a small child involved and both OP and and the partner have a lot of work to do with communication. The one who suffers most here is the child.

@Tomcdonaldaornot

This.

Well done on staying strong!

Lots of other really good replies too, but absolutely keep your eyes open and don’t take any of his crap!

Good luck!

Well done for standing your ground. He sounds immature and you don't need the extra bother with his comments about starving when you're gone, dealing with tantrums of his own making. You're not his mother.

I’m so sorry op he is acting this way

So many men that need to be taught that sulking permanently kills desire, and coercive sex is rape.

There is a fxxking massive education gap out there that desperately needs to be closed by a nationwide education program.

He's probably annoyed because of you not giving him sex the other night. I wonder if you're quite young and haven't been married long. Years of marriage taught me that suggesting an early night for both of you and then saying "not for sex" would go down like a lead balloon with most husbands. So I think that that wasn't the wisest move

What on earth did your husband do to you to make you think like that?

So many rules for women on this thread:

• For a woman to think aloud about having a McDonalds whilst nap-driving her DC without having her husbands needs uppermost in her mind is unthinkable
• women can’t simply say they want an early night and no sex. They need to carefully craft the right words to soothe their husband’s ego and avoid his anger.

You missed the very next sentence after the one you selectively quoted: he should not be punishing you for it. He should use his words and tell you how that made him feel.

But if you had taken notice of that very important caveat, you'd have been denied your moment of virtuous outrage, wouldn't you! 🤣

@Tomcdonaldaornot. It is very much a nasty surprise for most parents how brutally hard and exhausting it is having a baby. Is he aware of the reality or have you protected him from it so far? Does he think you are having some lovely holiday being at home with a cute baby and he gets to benefit by having you also clean, cook, wash, have sex, pander to his every need? You need to have a word on this, and you deserve an apology and swift change of attitude from him.

"years of marriage taught me that suggesting an early night for both of you and then saying "not for sex" would go down like a lead balloon with most husbands. So I think that that wasn't the wisest move'

JFC NO ONE IS OWED SEX. No matter whether you're married, or you've fucked thousands of times, or you really really want to. Sex should be completely enthusiastically consensual.

And any person who, on being told that sex is not on the cards for the night, become churlish and behaves like this shitty guy is well on the path crossing the road into coercive sex.

They're really not.

THIS.

A lot of men will become controlling if you don't push back against it. Many think they're in charge. 🤣

Can I have some fries with that……..

It feels like there are eggshells in the room when a simple suggestion (and a very reasonable one given your lack of sleep) turns into something so big and leaves you analysing the whole interaction (either feeling guilty or doubting yourself over something so small). I hope you enjoyed your McDonald’s 👍

Jesus Christ, he's complaining about having to get himself ONE DINNER?? Yes, he IS a grown man...so why can't he get his own dinner once in a blue moon??

Does he always bully you like this, OP?

God, I would have a VERY difficult time fancying a man who behaves like this.

He's probably annoyed because of you not giving him sex the other night. I wonder if you're quite young and haven't been married long. Years of marriage taught me that suggesting an early night for both of you and then saying "not for sex" would go down like a lead balloon with most husbands. So I think that that wasn't the wisest move, but he should not be punishing you for it. He should use his words and tell you how that made him feel.

And I'm not saying that you needed to take care of him - that's his perception of the situation, that you should be 'cooking' him dinner. He's a grown adult FFS. You may have a man-child there OP. 😩

Sounds like he's got baby jealousy or something. Can't bear that you're taking good care of yourself and the baby, but not taking care of him and so ate the baby's snacks out of spite, rage and jealousy.

It's a very childish thing to do. He's got mummy issues.

Oh bore off.

OMFG I would KILL him

What an absolute bell end

Time to make a new batch of pastries just for him, preferably after cleaning the toilet with his toothbrush and forgetting to wash your hands

your post is pretty hard to decipher, but the bit I can iscsaying don’t give the baby McDonald’s, the whole point of the thread is the baby would actually be asleep!

So that’s pretty nailed on that OP wouldn’t, not that opinion of the nutritional value of McDonald’s was anything the point of the post.