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Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

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Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 16:06

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

OP posts:
AutumnFroglets · 18/04/2026 12:13

southerngirl10 · 18/04/2026 11:58

Personally, I would say "I'm getting a McDonald's, so I'm fine for dinner. You can fix yourself something, see you later." If he stropped, I would think that's his issue and buy myself the McDonald's meal and eat it. He can do what he likes. I certainly would cook for him, he's a full grown man.

It is becoming more and more obvious you haven't read any of OPs updates. Stop derailing a vulnerable woman's thread. You should be ashamed of yourself.

southerngirl10 · 18/04/2026 11:58

Cherrytree86 · 18/04/2026 11:20

@southerngirl10

no, obviously not, he was arguing with OP. So do you think that Op should acquiesce… forgo the McDonald’s and stay home and cook something for her and her husband so they can eat together and ensure no argument?

Personally, I would say "I'm getting a McDonald's, so I'm fine for dinner. You can fix yourself something, see you later." If he stropped, I would think that's his issue and buy myself the McDonald's meal and eat it. He can do what he likes. I certainly would cook for him, he's a full grown man.

Cherrytree86 · 18/04/2026 11:20

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:00

Arguing with himself was he?

@southerngirl10

no, obviously not, he was arguing with OP. So do you think that Op should acquiesce… forgo the McDonald’s and stay home and cook something for her and her husband so they can eat together and ensure no argument?

southerngirl10 · 18/04/2026 10:20

trikonasanallama · 18/04/2026 04:00

Why are you trying to minimise this? A man having a tantrum and eating his child's food to punish his partner IS a big problem.

Personally, I think a lot of people on here need to stop man blaming and grow some. Tell HIM about it. Men are so scared of women these days, he'll probably wet his pants. What are we on here going to do about it, all rush around to the op's house and sort it out for her. She has to live with him. The sooner she puts him in his place the better. If he doesn't listen then she has 2 choices.

Candy24 · 18/04/2026 04:58

trikonasanallama · 18/04/2026 04:00

Why are you trying to minimise this? A man having a tantrum and eating his child's food to punish his partner IS a big problem.

because my husband has done the same thing and it has taken me many years to see it isn't normal. I am proud of OP for standing up for herself. I would feel said for anyone that sees this as a non event.

trikonasanallama · 18/04/2026 04:00

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:05

Read what the op said, "He's never acted like this before." So, a one-off?

Why are you trying to minimise this? A man having a tantrum and eating his child's food to punish his partner IS a big problem.

Candy24 · 18/04/2026 01:04

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:00

Arguing with himself was he?

If you read the comments OP said nothing more and was quiet restrained. Her husband was in the wrong.

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:08

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:06

You seem to know a lot about this argument. Were you there?

No but I can, and have, read all of the OP's posts.

Have you?

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:06

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:04

Kind of yes!

He was offered food from maccies, he said no. There was food available, he didnt eat it. What he did was take something that his wife had made especially for their child, ate that and sent a photo to the make the point. "Look what you made me do!!!"

This was never about a maccies, it was about a man who didnt like not being put first. Not uncommon after the birth of the first child amongst needy insecure men and is why a lot of marriages fail in the first five years after the birth of a child.

You seem to know a lot about this argument. Were you there?

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:06

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:05

Read what the op said, "He's never acted like this before." So, a one-off?

She never had a baby before.

I am glad that you dont understand how this happens because it means that this has never happened to you. Its a thing, google it.

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:05

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:00

I would say that a marriage having issues due to a selfish man throwing a massive tantrum to his wife and using his child to punish her, in this case by eating the childs food, isnt a first world problem at all. Plus ca change.

Millions of women the world over, whatever part of the world they live in, suffer this every day. This was not about the Maccies, but I think you know that really. And if you dont, well now you do.

Read what the op said, "He's never acted like this before." So, a one-off?

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:04

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:00

Arguing with himself was he?

Kind of yes!

He was offered food from maccies, he said no. There was food available, he didnt eat it. What he did was take something that his wife had made especially for their child, ate that and sent a photo to the make the point. "Look what you made me do!!!"

This was never about a maccies, it was about a man who didnt like not being put first. Not uncommon after the birth of the first child amongst needy insecure men and is why a lot of marriages fail in the first five years after the birth of a child.

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 23:00

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 22:55

It just feels that with all the problems in the world arguing over a happy meal is a bit first world problem, especially if your other half has never done anything like it before. I'm sure you'll both get over it.

I would say that a marriage having issues due to a selfish man throwing a massive tantrum to his wife and using his child to punish her, in this case by eating the childs food, isnt a first world problem at all. Plus ca change.

Millions of women the world over, whatever part of the world they live in, suffer this every day. This was not about the Maccies, but I think you know that really. And if you dont, well now you do.

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 23:00

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:57

It wasnt over a happy meal. He was the one arguing. Thanks for your pointless comment. Move on now

Arguing with himself was he?

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:57

southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 22:55

It just feels that with all the problems in the world arguing over a happy meal is a bit first world problem, especially if your other half has never done anything like it before. I'm sure you'll both get over it.

It wasnt over a happy meal. He was the one arguing. Thanks for your pointless comment. Move on now

OP posts:
southerngirl10 · 17/04/2026 22:55

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:03

Why?? I wasnt the immature one.

But it'd wild you read my post and as an adult woman commented that. What was the point??

It just feels that with all the problems in the world arguing over a happy meal is a bit first world problem, especially if your other half has never done anything like it before. I'm sure you'll both get over it.

PyongyangKipperbang · 17/04/2026 22:53

I think your last update made it worse!

It has conjured images of the kid who played knock and run saying "My dad says I have got to say that I am sorry and won't do it again".

Urgh.......

ETA.... if he told you that his dad told him to grow up, the reality probably is that his dad tore him a new one.

Woodfiresareamazing · 17/04/2026 22:34

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 21:52

Yes after sleeping on couch for 2 nights!!!!
He has grovelled lots. He said he told his dad who told him to grow up.

Oh god, he really does sound hopeless.

I would be struggling to work up any enthusiasm for sex any time soon...

Hailstoness · 17/04/2026 22:06

Good woman standing your ground.
His father is right.
He needs to grow the fxxk up.

Candy24 · 17/04/2026 22:05

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 21:52

Yes after sleeping on couch for 2 nights!!!!
He has grovelled lots. He said he told his dad who told him to grow up.

At least dad is on your side

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:03

southerngirl10 · 15/04/2026 15:33

Are you both still in your teens? Surely you wouldn't be writing this as an adult woman.

Why?? I wasnt the immature one.

But it'd wild you read my post and as an adult woman commented that. What was the point??

OP posts:
Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 22:01

Mrsgreen100 · 15/04/2026 20:38

If you go to food and drinks or Starbucks and McDonald’s, I kind of feel that life isn’t gonna be great for you starting eating some real food, stop being junk please for goodness sake don’t feed that shit to your baby when it’s able to eat it

Don't feed baby that shit 😂😂😂😂

OP posts:
Error404FucksNotFound · 17/04/2026 21:57

TheAutumnCrow · 17/04/2026 16:55

It's about him sex-sulking.

Oh yes, that will be what its actually about.

Op said no to sex so must pay

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 21:52

Candy24 · 17/04/2026 21:51

Weird they are upsrt. Hope your husband is ok .....lol

Edited

Yes after sleeping on couch for 2 nights!!!!
He has grovelled lots. He said he told his dad who told him to grow up.

OP posts:
Candy24 · 17/04/2026 21:51

Tomcdonaldaornot · 17/04/2026 21:38

I think its wild there are other adults who would get annoyed with this... toxic!!!

Weird they are upsrt. Hope your husband is ok .....lol