Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

I guess everyone is different, if you were going for a McDonald’s you’d not offer your partner or vice Versa, everyone is different, we would.

Ah well - I guess it depends how you (generic you) usually organise dinner in your household. We always eat together and keep a portion for anyone who is out (bigger household with teens) so it'd be a bit of a dick move in our house. Depends on the nuclear family "culture" around the family meal.

As I said it's not important, but I'd have found the phrasing selfish if my husband said it exactly the way the OP reported she did, and I personally wouldn't have said it myself.

Utterly unimportant though and I'm only posting on this trivial thread to procrastinate, as I'm sure most of us are. It really doesn't matter.

I can't see at all?

OP is on maternity leave with a baby that hasn't slept - it's stressful and she should be free to come and go as she pleases while he's working, whether that includes getting herself some lunch or not.

If he's working from home, surely he is not relying on his wife who is trying to care for a baby to sort his lunch for him when he can just come down and do it easily, with both his hands and no baby clinging onto him?

If anything he should be sorting her lunch when he's at home, especially on a day like this where the baby has been hard work!!

According to some posters, yes, while she's shattered and the baby's unsettled. His job is to huff and puff. It's all about priorities, you see.

To be fair we don’t think that will sort my dinner we tend to think our dinner, as we have dinner together when home. So I can see why he said what about me. And you them offered. You then told him he could sort himself out.

thid maybe how you both operate and are not expected to cook or provide for each other, but we don’t do this.

I'd have left the baby to baby-sit the big baby ("D" P)

Enjoy your 🍔🍟

Oh fgs, she has a cranky baby she's trying to settle and thinking about how to keep herself fed and awake while doing so of course he was an after thought!

I can’t believe people are defending his behaviour.

I planned to meet my sister the other day and she said she’ll be back around X time as she’s going to stop off at McDonalds on the way back.
I said can you pick me up some too and she says yes.

I can’t believe people are saying OP should have offered before he had to ask.
Why?
Surely it’s common sense that if he wants something he’ll ask her to get it and if he doesn’t then he won’t.

I think MN is just full of people who don’t have their own voice, like they have to wait to be asked or told to do things.

You did nothing wrong OP and he was just being an arse for no reason.

So OP has to look after two babies?

Yes. I agree
and all this fussing about She may have offered but its not really an offer.. .is just nonsense

Its not like she expressly said I'm going to Maccies and getting one but you can go whistle.

It boils down to

OP.. I'm getting a Maccie Dee
DH What about me!
OP I'll get you one too then
DH. No not fair. Sulk.

if she's had no sleep and hits on a plan to get the baby to sleep so they can all have a bit of rest, why is she expected to wait hand and foot on her DH who is an adult, working at home and presumably has access to a fridge?

Well I’d just go and get my McDonalds and let him fend for himself.
He is being a big baby

If my wife said I need to get out of the house, the baby not napped, might go to Starbucks while I’m out. No actually, I think I’ll just go McDonald’s so I don’t have to cook. I’d say ‘Ooh bring me back a Big Mac!’ She’s caring for our baby, McDonald’s does take away. My first reaction would not be what about me! Because her plans can still include me. And if I don’t like McDonald’s then I’d think hmm if she’s having McDonald’s maybe I’ll get my fav takeaway. I think his reaction is weird

But you said you would get yourself one. You didn’t automatically say ‘I’ll Get us one’.

You also said he had to ask ‘what about me?’ So you didn’t offer, he had to bring it up before you considered it.

i mean, he’s a grown man, he’s big enough to sort himself out, but can you not see a little bit why he’s a bit miffed at being an afterthought?

😂😂😂

Looks like that poster has been removed from MN...which makes me think they weren't posting in good faith. Quite scary really.

She did offer

Did you enjoy the McD's? Was baby having a good sleep as well?

I think these comments are mad, given he had popped downstairs while working from home and OP posted at 4pm I imagine she is talking about lunch here - surely a grown man can't get so stroppy about OP going out in the car and getting herself some lunch while at a drive-through?! Jesus Christ, is her life not her own?!?!

Do you make lunch for him every day when he's working from home OP?

Also, when I offer to bring McDonalds or a Subway for DH, I always feel rushed to eat quickly and come straight home because he likes it as warm as possible.

Sometimes it's nice to just be able to take things at your leisure and not worry about delivering hot food to someone else.

He’s being an arsehole but if he’s not normally like that I’d let it go

Anarchy in the McDs. 🤣

To be honest I'm not sure it is a sidetrack - the way the OP reported her own conversation she only said "that'll get my dinner sorted" - which I would find annoying if my husband said because he would only be thinking about himself, not the rest of the family.

Obviously if for some reason they always eat separately it's different, but if you always eat dinner together "that'll get my dinner sorted" would be annoying phrasing.

Yeah but apparently she did it in the wrong way and diddums got his pride hurtied

You are being unreasonable for using the word nap nine times, and for making me fancy a McFlurry.

Is your husband just fed up because he’ll have to make his own dinner?

We’ve been side tracked by someone assuming you didn’t offer to bring one back. Why was his first reaction calling you weird for thinking about it and then telling you you’re too old?