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Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

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Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 16:06

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

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audhdandme · 14/04/2026 17:50

Bring him back a happy meal since he wants to act like a child

honeylulu · 14/04/2026 17:48

OMG he ate the baby's snacks to punish you???

I hate him.

nomas · 14/04/2026 17:48

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:41

Omfg I'm now fuming!!! He has texted me and said "unbelievable pastries for a grown mans dinner!!" I said what pastries??? He sent a picture of the empty tupperware. That was the fucking apple and cinnamon twirls I made for baby earlier. I made about ten to last a week!!!! Omg this has taken such a turn i am now furious!!!!

He has done that deliberately, OP, to punish you for doing something that doesn't revolve around him.

If you cook for this twat, I would stop asap. Make sure you and baby have eaten before he gets home.

nomas · 14/04/2026 17:47

FrangipaniBlue · 14/04/2026 17:45

Nobody said he has to be uppermost in OPs mind….. what an odd take on what I said

But that is what you're saying. You're saying she's selfish for not immediately thinking of her DH's needs above her own. She was talking aloud about what she would do and yet you expect her brain to have jumped 2 steps ahead to what her DH needs.

idkbroidk · 14/04/2026 17:47

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:41

Omfg I'm now fuming!!! He has texted me and said "unbelievable pastries for a grown mans dinner!!" I said what pastries??? He sent a picture of the empty tupperware. That was the fucking apple and cinnamon twirls I made for baby earlier. I made about ten to last a week!!!! Omg this has taken such a turn i am now furious!!!!

what a selfish vindictive bastard. he definitely did that on purpose to 'punish' you and in turn he's punishing poor baby too. has he always been this self centred?

driftingdownintomiami · 14/04/2026 17:46

Even better, instead of making himself a basic meal he has eaten the baby's pastries to punish OP. Is this man real?!

inickedthisname · 14/04/2026 17:46

So now he’s punishing you because he realised not eating would only be punishing himself

FrangipaniBlue · 14/04/2026 17:45

nomas · 14/04/2026 16:18

Why does he need to be uppermost in her mind though? She has a baby to think of?

Nobody said he has to be uppermost in OPs mind….. what an odd take on what I said

FrangipaniBlue · 14/04/2026 17:44

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 16:17

I would have offered. I was thinking out loud when I spoke to him. God wish I only went to Starbucks now 😂😂😂

In that case YANBU or selfish and he’s a moron!

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:43

I dont know what to say to him
Omg so angry

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driftingdownintomiami · 14/04/2026 17:43

Genuinely OP, is he always this pathetic? What does he do around the house generally if he is unable to cook himself a basic meal?

driftingdownintomiami · 14/04/2026 17:42

Is he expecting a three course meal or something? Can't he bung a pizza in the oven or make himself a sandwich which takes approximately thirty seconds? It's just one meal for god's sake. It's pathetic.

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:41

Omfg I'm now fuming!!! He has texted me and said "unbelievable pastries for a grown mans dinner!!" I said what pastries??? He sent a picture of the empty tupperware. That was the fucking apple and cinnamon twirls I made for baby earlier. I made about ten to last a week!!!! Omg this has taken such a turn i am now furious!!!!

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DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 14/04/2026 17:38

Listlostlast · 14/04/2026 17:22

What an absolute fucking baby 😂 ‘a pity McDonald’s’ and all this handwringing over where will I find the time?! Get a fucking grip man 😂

Agreed!!
She offered him a Maccie D just seconds after saying she was having one. but the "time lag" has resulted in a massive defence of this hard done by WFH DH.

She's now at MacDs and has offered him again.. but is met with
"I don't want a pity burger."

Boo Double Hoo.

And now he's implying he will go without dinner as he wasn't "prepared" for it.

I don't understand the huge defence people are mounting for this silly childish pouting man and his Pity Burgers. What an self pitying idiot he is.

honeylulu · 14/04/2026 17:35

A pity McDonalds

Does he mean he's rejected the offer out of petulance just because you didn't offer to him first? (How dare you expect him to come second you bad bad wife who cooks 80% of the meals!!! You must always think of his hungry man-stomach before your own needs.)
Talk about cutting off his nose to spite his face.

In an ideal world you would have referred to "our dinner" but it is totally understandable that the thoughts were forming as you spoke them aloud. Oh I can get myself a drive through Starbucks and enjoy a warm drink in the car, oh actually I could go to McDonald's and grab some dinner then I'll be ready for an early night when I get back as I'm shattered, oh yes I can pick up for both of us.

I really want a McDonald's now yum yum yum.

inickedthisname · 14/04/2026 17:33

Honestly, wtaf. I have no idea why anyone would have a problem with this. Even if you went and ate a McDonald’s without telling him or bringing him anything back, he should be able to accommodate a change of the usual routine and just bloody deal with it. Surely he can make something to eat. It’s not like you’re talking about going out for a 5 course meal by yourself.

ThatGladTiger · 14/04/2026 17:28

Beans on toast is a suitable dinner for him

Whatwerewetalkingabout · 14/04/2026 17:28

He IS acting like a fucking child. A "pity mcdonalds" what a prick. Quite funny that he's going to sulk himself hungry this evening, but I imagine he'll be a whiny PITA about it, just so you know how badly done by he is. Maybe he'll run away from home for a couple of hours to make you worry. 😅

Tacohill · 14/04/2026 17:26

“Stupid family going to stupid Flanders' stupid barbecue. What if they got back and I was dead from not eating? Then they'd be sorry!”

I had to look this quote up from the simpsons as it reminds me so much of your DH.

He’d rather throw his toys of out the pram and not eat rather than cook for himself, just to ‘teach you a lesson’.

Its so childish 🤣🤣

ErrolTheDragon · 14/04/2026 17:25

Wow. You weren’t ’treating him like a child’, but he sure as hell is acting like one.

TeflonMom · 14/04/2026 17:24

ruethewhirl · 14/04/2026 16:09

I'd be getting him a Happy Meal after him behaving like that.

I’d withhold the toy though, in case he throws it out of his pram 😁

HaveYouFedTheFish · 14/04/2026 17:22

Andouillette · 14/04/2026 17:17

I am wondering if Mumsnet has been invaded by a small contingent of Stepford Wives.
OP, enjoy your McDonald's. What are you having?

This is a very strange interpretation - the "that'll be my dinner sorted" rather than "our" default is absolutely equally selfish and irritating from a man - it's an equal opportunity kind of self absorbed thinking.

Listlostlast · 14/04/2026 17:22

What an absolute fucking baby 😂 ‘a pity McDonald’s’ and all this handwringing over where will I find the time?! Get a fucking grip man 😂

Tacohill · 14/04/2026 17:21

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:13

Currently in mcdonalds.car park eating spicy mcnuggests meal! Delicious and i have a mcflurry also 🙈🙈 I texted and asked man baby if he wanted anything and he said no. He said he will not accept a pitty mcdonalds and is annoyed as he doesnt know where he will find the time to make dinner tonight. I said oh are you working late? He said no he isnt but he wasnt prepared for this. Jesus. This meal is worth is though 🙈

Oh dear!!

Is the poor baby trying to guilt trip you for him having to go hungry.

My heart breaks for him!!

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:21

I make probably about 80% of dinners but honestly I didnt give dinner two thoughts tonight. Ive not had a minute!

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