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Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

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Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 16:06

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

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ThisIsTheAge · 14/04/2026 22:50

toomuchfaff · 14/04/2026 21:57

So have you told him you expect him to make a new batch of pastries for the baby?

He will have something to moan about then.

Yeah he definitely needs to do this!

What a selfish man child literally taking food from a baby. His baby!

Bloody love a Maccy Ds OP! This is exactly the kind of thought process I'd have had with my non napping DC. DH isn't a fan and prefers his own home cooked food - which is fine by me as he cooks it! But your man child is a selfish arse who needs to make amends by cooking a new batch.

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 22:48

He just came down stairs and asked if I still wasn't speaking with him. I have told him if he eats baby snacks to punish me again its over. He said I have blown this whole thing out of proportion and said I am threatening to end the relationship over him eating pastries I said no its everything else and listed it all out. He said he wont be threatened and said he needs space and might go to the local hotel. I said okay, have fun! He was shocked and said "you want me to go? You dont care do you". I said you do what you want that is what caused all of this. He now keeps saying oh so you would let me leave and not stop me. Well yes, its your choice.

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Woodfiresareamazing · 14/04/2026 22:45

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 18:38

Honestly he isnt usually like this but saying that he has been a bit off since last night. Baby went down and I said to him "its upto you what you do but baby is asleep and I think we would both really benefit from an early night" he smiled and then I said "oh to clarify, I don't mean for sex, I am still om my periods and absolutely knackered". He then said "alright!" Very abruptly. For context, yes our sex life has taken a hit but we are having sex about once a week and in-between we are still affection everyday lots of hugs, little kisses etc.

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My vagina would be clamping itself shut at this point.

He was upset to be offered a 'pity McDonald's', imagine how upset he'll be to not even be offered a pity fuck! 😂

Woodfiresareamazing · 14/04/2026 22:42

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:57

Anger has turned into sadness now.
Gutted. How could he do that 😔
I dont know what to say

I'd be saying something like: you selfish fucking prick.
If you think I'm cooking for you any time soon you can think again, you lazy fucking arsehole.

Sorry your DP acted so appallingly, and then followed it up with another mantrum.

💐💐💐

Ihaveaskedyouthrice · 14/04/2026 22:24

Honestly he sounds like a dick. I'm a SAHM, my husband works and if I've had a busy day or a shit day(child has additional needs) I might tell him I'm not cooking and he'll happily sort himself out. If he ever had a strop about it I wouldn't be impressed. You're not there to "serve" your husband
As for the baby snacks I would be absolutely livid.

Tacohill · 14/04/2026 22:22

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Kindly, you’re the one that sounds very deranged.

Perhaps MN is not the right place for you to be on if you lack basic comprehension skills.

Dreamcatcherat50 · 14/04/2026 22:22

nomas · 14/04/2026 16:12

She did offer. Are you being deliberately obtuse? Why?

He's practising gaslighting and such. Like they said on his incel podcast 😂😂😂 Absolute c**t.

Elsvieta · 14/04/2026 22:19

toomuchfaff · 14/04/2026 22:02

Dont chase, dont fawn, you didnt cause the upset - dont try to fix it. Let him sulk

This. And don't even contemplate cooking a thing for him until he's knocked this infantile shit off AND done all the cooking himself for at least a couple of days.

TheCobbleCreekMonster · 14/04/2026 22:15

What a POS he is.

I would go nuclear at this. Massive punishment because you don't bloody cook for him. What is he? Two?

toomuchfaff · 14/04/2026 22:02

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 21:58

We havent spoken since he stormed upstairs.

Dont chase, dont fawn, you didnt cause the upset - dont try to fix it. Let him sulk

MyMilchick · 14/04/2026 21:59

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"Kindly" stop that

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 21:58

toomuchfaff · 14/04/2026 21:57

So have you told him you expect him to make a new batch of pastries for the baby?

He will have something to moan about then.

We havent spoken since he stormed upstairs.

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toomuchfaff · 14/04/2026 21:57

So have you told him you expect him to make a new batch of pastries for the baby?

He will have something to moan about then.

nomoremsniceperson · 14/04/2026 21:55

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 21:48

Sorry, I sound deranged???

You absolutely do not sound deranged. Ignore.

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 21:51

PyongyangKipperbang · 14/04/2026 21:49

He had a tantrum, ate his own childs food to punish the OP instead of actually cooking something and then had ANOTHER tantrum when called out on it.

And SHE is deranged?

Right....ok then.

I know 😂 what did I do

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ChaosIsTwix · 14/04/2026 21:49

@Tomcdonaldaornot I love your mum. Really fancy some spicy nuggets now. Your husband is an arse.

PyongyangKipperbang · 14/04/2026 21:49

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He had a tantrum, ate his own childs food to punish the OP instead of actually cooking something and then had ANOTHER tantrum when called out on it.

And SHE is deranged?

Right....ok then.

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 21:48

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Sorry, I sound deranged???

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nomoremsniceperson · 14/04/2026 21:34

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:55

He came into the kitchen when they were finished. He said they smelt lovely and when was I going to tell him i was making pastries. I said they are for our baby but you can have one. He refused and said no, theyre for baby. Now he's scoffed the lot.

What a complete prick he is. Absolutely pathetic behaviour. I'm sorry OP.

Weeelokthen · 14/04/2026 21:33

WednesdaysChild73 · 14/04/2026 17:17

Such a non event 🙄

Imo, if this is the height of your problems in life, you are doing absolutely fandabydosy 🏆
Well done 👋

PepsiBook · 14/04/2026 21:29

What an absolute arsehole.
You've had a rough day, you're allowed a Mc Donalds!
If he doesn't want any, he can - surely - sort out a meal of his own. There must be something to eat in the house?!
He ate the baby snacks you made to punish you, which has clearly worked.

PfizerFan · 14/04/2026 21:25

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:41

Omfg I'm now fuming!!! He has texted me and said "unbelievable pastries for a grown mans dinner!!" I said what pastries??? He sent a picture of the empty tupperware. That was the fucking apple and cinnamon twirls I made for baby earlier. I made about ten to last a week!!!! Omg this has taken such a turn i am now furious!!!!

Omg he is a total wanker. Sorry OP :( has he always been this awful?

PfizerFan · 14/04/2026 21:22

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 17:13

Currently in mcdonalds.car park eating spicy mcnuggests meal! Delicious and i have a mcflurry also 🙈🙈 I texted and asked man baby if he wanted anything and he said no. He said he will not accept a pitty mcdonalds and is annoyed as he doesnt know where he will find the time to make dinner tonight. I said oh are you working late? He said no he isnt but he wasnt prepared for this. Jesus. This meal is worth is though 🙈

Jesus! Did you marry a teenager? What a child.

Tomcdonaldaornot · 14/04/2026 21:13

begonefoulclutter · 14/04/2026 20:54

Yet he made it into such a big meal deal.

This made me laugh so much 😂 nearly as much a pity mcdonalds xx

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