To find middle class parents insufferable?

I was one of these kids.

It’s not always about preconceptions though is it. Some schools are genuinely terrible.

The secondary school my parents wanted me to avoid continued to be rated ‘inadequate’ for years and years by Ofsted. While I was at the primary school next door, the kids from the secondary school broke into my school, stole some computers and set them on fire in our field. I don’t blame my parents for not wantinf me to go to that school and I would do the same for my kids, giving no fucks about what other people think of me.

Then I must be insufferable. I chose to bring ds in to the world, he didn't ask to be born, so it's my responsibility to ensure ds is safe, and that he doesn't live somewhere he might find needles in the play area or get stabbed on the way home.
That's responsible parenting as far as I am concerned. I wouldn't express my views out loud because some people can't chose where they live and I've no desire to hurt their feelings or offend them, but it didn't stop me moving.
Working to give my child the best childhood I can is something I do without hesitation. That's my job as a mum.

Aaand there we go.

The thing about schools drives me mad as I guarantee most of these people have zero experience of attending or their kids attending a challenging city comprehensive.

You know, it's not a must to have such experience. Some people are intelligent enough to avoid it if they can.

Thanks for your intelligent input.

If they are saying it to you, they must think your one of them. Still there is no shame in not wanting your child to attend a rough school. Middle class children would stick out anyway. I think it is foolish to pretend these differences don't exist.

YANBU at all OP but you're going to get a lot of silly passive aggressive posts like @Apileofbroc's as well as nastier ones.

I'm from Ireland. The level of snobbishness about areas when I moved to the UK absolutely blew me away, as well as the total lack of inhibition around being open about it. When we first moved DH's boss openly disparaged the area were moving into, as though we were choosing to live in a slurry pit. We've lived here 15 years and it's been lovely.

What I don't understand is how apparently educated people don't see that they are the ones creating the areas of isolation and deprivation by segregating themselves and their children.

Also you can't catch poor from rubbing shoulders with the 'wrong' people.

I think it does depend on the area.

I grew up in London, went to the 2nd “worst”school in the borough with awful GCSE results and even we had people go to Oxbridge. In sixth form college there were people from grammar and private schools and we all went to the same unis in the end.

If this was Rotherham or something then it might be different. If you live in Surrey then your kid is as smart as they’re going to be and being surrounded by slightly posher kids isn’t going to make a difference.

Although some people can be snobs (not just the middle class) I don’t think its a bad thing that parents wouldn’t want their kids to go to a shite school. Im a life long Londoner, and I can’t wait to leave! I want a slower pace of life.

Some people are snobs some aren’t 🤷

Weirdly I wouldn't want to immediately disadvantage my kid by sending them to a crap school and hoping for the best. So yes, I'd be looking to move too based on what you have described.

I’m not going to throw my child like a sacrificial lamb into the bit of the most deprived children and families in the country if I can help it. I am going to make every effort and a lot of personal sacrifices to move to be near the best school in my community

I think you missed the word "some" out of the title. Especially as you are proof they aren't all like that!