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How do clairvoyants know things??

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Homer2 · 14/04/2026 13:45

I have never believed in this, I saw one once just for fun at my aunties house and she wasn’t great. She did say a few things that were accurate, but I put this down to being guesses or general vague things that would be relevant to the majority of people.

However, recently my friend went to one. She recently lost her dad and her partner. Without telling the clairvoyant anything, she knew how her partner died and what his name was. She mentioned my friends dad blowing kisses in a weird way, with the palm of his hand instead of his fingers, which is something he did used to do. How would she know these things??? I don’t honestly believe in it, but can’t understand how she’d know such specific things

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MasterBeth · 14/04/2026 23:47

secretmum41 · 14/04/2026 23:34

Why are you still talking to me? Just want to be awkward and goady? You don’t have to believe or understand where I’m coming from, and you also don’t need to challenge me either.

It's a discussion forum. We're discussing "How clairvoyants know things."

It's interesting to me that you ask me to open my mind like I'm being stubborn, but you're not even prepared to open your mind to consider a rational explanation of your experience. Why is that?

AffIt · 14/04/2026 23:44

My 'party trick' (prior to the introduction of randomly generated strong passwords) used to be guessing a password in three attempts. I would say I had a hit rate of about 8 out of 10.

I am (of course) not psychic. However, I have worked in IT for a long time and have a fairly good understanding of human behaviour, which is essentially all it takes.

Oh, and yes, it's always some derivation of children's / spouses' birthdays / pet names / street addresses etc. Humans are nothing if not predictable.

Psychics/clairvoyants/whatever are either charlatans or mentally ill.

GlobalTravellerbutespeciallyBognor · 14/04/2026 23:38

Surely we have all experienced anticipating what our friends are going to say/are really thinking?

Maybe thousands of client readings later, these medium people have just honed whatever that ‘anticipating’ ability is?

TheDorisCollective · 14/04/2026 23:34

AgentPidge · 14/04/2026 13:52

Some people can tune in to your thoughts and subconscious knowledge, like tuning into a radio station. Similar to Morphic Resonance. I knew someone who had this ability, and she said it was a curse. But note, they can only tell you something you already know - they can make predictions based on their experience or observations, but I don't see how they can know the future. This woman correctly told me (after I pushed her to tune in) that I was carrying twins and what their sexes would be. This was before I knew, but of course my body knew!

These are the people with that ability. There are also lots of charlatans around, who are clever in getting people to reveal stuff without them realising.

“Some people can tune in to your thoughts and subconscious knowledge, like tuning into a radio station. Similar to Morphic Resonance”

And some people can post total bollocks on the internet. It is a skill.

secretmum41 · 14/04/2026 23:34

MasterBeth · 14/04/2026 23:30

Sure. If you do the same and consider that there might be less.

In what way would your experience have felt any different if she had just guessed?

Why are you still talking to me? Just want to be awkward and goady? You don’t have to believe or understand where I’m coming from, and you also don’t need to challenge me either.

OctopusFriend · 14/04/2026 23:34

Troutbag · 14/04/2026 23:32

What I don’t quite understand about the spirits who come through to mediums on stage is why they’re so coy about giving hard information.

If I was dead and wanted to speak to a loved one in the audience via the medium, I’d give them my full name and the name of the person I wanted to speak to, bare minimum. I wouldn’t give them my initial, some random fact about myself, or give them a feeling in the area of my body that relates to how I “passed”. I’d just give up hard verifiable information.

Yes, that's what I don't get. I was trying to make a similar point about the flooded kitchen (qv).
Why not just be clear and direct?

Troutbag · 14/04/2026 23:32

What I don’t quite understand about the spirits who come through to mediums on stage is why they’re so coy about giving hard information.

If I was dead and wanted to speak to a loved one in the audience via the medium, I’d give them my full name and the name of the person I wanted to speak to, bare minimum. I wouldn’t give them my initial, some random fact about myself, or give them a feeling in the area of my body that relates to how I “passed”. I’d just give up hard verifiable information.

PrudenceDictates · 14/04/2026 23:31

MasterBeth · 14/04/2026 23:19

Although what you're saying is rude and unlikely to be very persuasive with the previous poster, it's also true. There is a lot we don't know about how our brains work, but there is a lot we do.

Psychology and neuroscience give us really good explanations for many experiences that may feel miraculous, and also give us good reasons as to why our brains are prone to believe they are miracles/psychic/supernatural, even when they inevitably aren't.

Oops, I didn’t intend to be rude, but my previous, non-rude explanation on the basics of how memory works was met by that poster with an angry denial that it applied to her!
A special case, obviously.

Deniers of science, I must confess, leave me somewhat frustrated.

MasterBeth · 14/04/2026 23:30

secretmum41 · 14/04/2026 23:23

Stop patronising me. Maybe open your mind up to there being more out there than you choose to believe.

Sure. If you do the same and consider that there might be less.

In what way would your experience have felt any different if she had just guessed?

secretmum41 · 14/04/2026 23:23

MasterBeth · 14/04/2026 23:21

I am not denying how your experience felt to you, I am asking you to consider in what way your experience would have felt any different if she had just guessed.

Stop patronising me. Maybe open your mind up to there being more out there than you choose to believe.

MasterBeth · 14/04/2026 23:21

secretmum41 · 14/04/2026 23:17

Think what you like. I know exactly how my experience went.

I am not denying how your experience felt to you, I am asking you to consider in what way your experience would have felt any different if she had just guessed.

MasterBeth · 14/04/2026 23:19

PrudenceDictates · 14/04/2026 22:52

It’s how EVERYONE’s mind works, for goodness sake! It’s well researched and documented.

Try reading some science instead of woo claptrap.

Although what you're saying is rude and unlikely to be very persuasive with the previous poster, it's also true. There is a lot we don't know about how our brains work, but there is a lot we do.

Psychology and neuroscience give us really good explanations for many experiences that may feel miraculous, and also give us good reasons as to why our brains are prone to believe they are miracles/psychic/supernatural, even when they inevitably aren't.

secretmum41 · 14/04/2026 23:18

PrudenceDictates · 14/04/2026 22:52

It’s how EVERYONE’s mind works, for goodness sake! It’s well researched and documented.

Try reading some science instead of woo claptrap.

Maybe you should try to stop being so rude.

Imbusytodaysorry · 14/04/2026 23:18

Blondiebeachbabe · 14/04/2026 14:03

I believe in it. Didn't used to, but have had far too many weird things happen now.

Many years ago, I decided to leave my first H, due to his continued cheating. I had not told a living soul about this. One night my H was out, and I was sat browsing the internet looking at houses, to see what I could afford on my own. My phone then rang and it was my Mum. She explained that they'd been to the village hall that had a Medium night on. She went on to tell me, that a Medium had told her that she could hear someone calling out my name, and to tell me that a move of house was indicated, a good man, and happiness. My Mum obviously thought it was nonsense, as in her mind I was happy. I should add here, that I have a VERY unusual name. I did indeed leave, get a new house, and met my now DH.

This same Medium told my Mum that she would come into possession of a guitar in unusual circumstances, and that she would win the lottery. About a year after the reading, my parents were sitting in the garden at midnight, and a guitar came flying over the fence, and landed on the lawn. Then, a few weeks later, they did indeed win the lottery (£20k).

Mum is no longer with us, and I was watching a Medium on Tiktok, who told me that if you want contact from loved ones who have passed, you have to ask out loud for it and ask for a sign. I asked out loud for my Mum to show me a butterfly. I didn't tell anyone about this. A few weeks later, on Mother's Day, my DH gave me a card from the dogs. It was a plain card, with a pin badge in the centre of a beautiful butterfly. I wear it on my coat now.

Shortly after that, I asked my Mum to show me a bumblebee. The next day, I see a FB advert posted by a lady with the same name as my Mum, who happens to make woollen bumblebees. The name of her company was my Mum's favourite flower.

I asked about 2 weeks ago for Mum to show me a feather in an unusual place. The next day, my dog was sitting in the garden with a white feather stuck to his lips! This has never happened before!

DH and I were talking about MIL one day, she has also passed away. One of us said something a bit negative and a huge canvas flew off the wall.

I saw a Medium a few months ago - the first and only time I have ever done so. My friend booked it, and gave the Medium no details about us whatsoever, not even our names. This Medium knew my Mum's name. Not the initial or anything vague, she said the right name, first time. She also knew lots of things she had no way of knowing. She knew that the adoption my son was talking about, was no longer going to happen. She said my son was about to meet a new woman - this has now happened. She said that my Mum mentioned that someone had been taking naked selfies! Bear in mind, I'm mid 50's! I denied this of course, but actually I had sent DH a saucy selfie a few days before - the only time I have ever done so in our 17 years together. She knew what my husband's job is. She knew that I had a sibling that passed and what their name started with. She knew that the day after the reading was a special day for my Mum (it was their wedding anniversary).

My Mum went to see a Medium many years ago. She had just lost her sister. She (my aunt) was called Pauline, but close friends called her Polly for short. The Medium was rubbish. Went they all got up to leave, a woman who had been sat next to my Mum in the audience said "That guy was rubbish. He didn't give anyone any real detail. I mean, you'd want someone to say" :

"Hey, I have your sister here, her name was Pauline, but everyone called her Polly for short".....

My Mum was convinced that her sister used someone else to get the message through.

I have a few more like this. Very strange! I now believe! Just because you can't see something doesn't mean it isn't there. You can't see radio waves or your broadband signal, but they are very much there regardless!

Amazing post.
Nobody believes until it happens to them.

secretmum41 · 14/04/2026 23:17

MasterBeth · 14/04/2026 23:14

But of course there is a possible way she could have revealed this information without knowing it at all.

She could have guessed / taken a stab in the dark.

It would be completely understandable if you found this miraculous, but please consider the possibility that she could have just guessed/tried it out. Respondents to "psychics" naturally respond to guesses/stabs in the dark that fit and dismiss those that don't. It's one of the bases of cold reading.

Think what you like. I know exactly how my experience went.

MasterBeth · 14/04/2026 23:14

secretmum41 · 14/04/2026 15:16

For those saying googling, social media etc .. what about the days before this? Saw a ‘clairvoyant’ back in 1990, so way before internet, mobile phones, social media etc. We went as a group from work. She told me a couple of things which were true and not easily guessable, but then she hit me like a ton of bricks when she said the baby I had terminated was doing well in the spiritual world, and would not have survived the living world, so the termination of was the best decision. No-one knew I’d been pregnant or terminated. Absolutely no-one. I was 18. I didn’t tell a single soul. There is no possible way she could have known this information at all. For me, this cannot be explained in any way other than she truly did have spiritual insight.

But of course there is a possible way she could have revealed this information without knowing it at all.

She could have guessed / taken a stab in the dark.

It would be completely understandable if you found this miraculous, but please consider the possibility that she could have just guessed/tried it out. Respondents to "psychics" naturally respond to guesses/stabs in the dark that fit and dismiss those that don't. It's one of the bases of cold reading.

PrudenceDictates · 14/04/2026 22:52

tsmainsqueeze · 14/04/2026 22:19

You don't know how my mind works , i do remember it with clarity .
Speak for yourself.

It’s how EVERYONE’s mind works, for goodness sake! It’s well researched and documented.

Try reading some science instead of woo claptrap.

NotAnotherScarf · 14/04/2026 22:21

One question for everyone who believes in clairvoyancey

Why don't they win the lottery every week of even pick the winner of the 3.30 at Kempton if they can see the future?

tsmainsqueeze · 14/04/2026 22:19

PrudenceDictates · 14/04/2026 19:58

it was over 30 years ago and i remember it with clarity

No you don’t. That’s not how memory works at all. Memory doesn’t take a photo; nor is it a stored file you can refer back to.
Every time you recall something your mind recreates the whole scene anew. It adds details in, and is biased towards how you want to remember it.
What you’re “clearly” remembering is not what happened, but reconstructed memory of a reconstructed memory, as convincing as it may seem.

You don't know how my mind works , i do remember it with clarity .
Speak for yourself.

Rhaidimiddim · 14/04/2026 22:13

My sister is a clairvoyant/medium.

When we lived together as teenagers in the 1970s, she always knew when the bus inspector was going to get on the bus and so we should get the full 21p fare and not the 16p fare. She also gave me information and warnings about stuff later in life, long before social media existed.

There are cold readers, and there are clairvoyants.

I recommend you read the book Extraordinary Knowing by Elizabeth Lloyd for the best explanation of how clairvoyance might be possible.

MabelAnderson · 14/04/2026 22:10

I don’t think it was as clear as ‘this is happening now’, my friend didn’t understand what she meant and thought it might be a future prediction or just wrong. Anyway I was curious and went to see her a week later . I had seen tarot readers before with friends, it had never felt very accurate , but this young woman was quite different, a few things only made sense later but the stuff she said was not generic, but oddly specific to me and my life at the time.

OctopusFriend · 14/04/2026 21:56

MabelAnderson · 14/04/2026 21:48

It wasn’t me she said it too, it was my friend. It wasn’t ’your kitchen is going to flood’ it was more along the lines of ‘I can see a lot of water in your house’ type of thing.

So why didn't she tell her to go home straight away? A lot of water in your house is surely a problem? I don't understand.

MabelAnderson · 14/04/2026 21:48

OctopusFriend · 14/04/2026 19:20

Why didn't she just say to you -
"Get home quickly, your kitchen is flooding!"

It wasn’t me she said it too, it was my friend. It wasn’t ’your kitchen is going to flood’ it was more along the lines of ‘I can see a lot of water in your house’ type of thing.

CurlewKate · 14/04/2026 21:47

The other important thing to consider is that we don’t remember the misses, only the hits.

Goatymum · 14/04/2026 21:45

My mum had a similar experience years ago (she’s been dead for 26 years!) when she saw a medium in a group setting. Afterwards I asked her if the medium could’ve known the info and she said no way. The internet was in its infancy, there was no social media and it was a really specific thing.
Im sure she probably just mentioned this fact to the friend she was with and forgotten she’d done so and the medium overheard.

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