Because I think my husband might be. This is slightly light hearted but not really as if I don’t laugh I’ll cry.
We loved into a new property 6 months ago, it needs painting, every single time he said he’s going to do it, he gets ill… now you might think well that’s not his fault, but I’m starting to see a pattern emerge. He told me actually promised me he was taking the rest of the week off work to get it done, right on cue yesterday afternoon he became tired, couldn’t handle the toddlers, apparently they broke him? Went to bed early with one of them when they fell asleep, stayed in bed this morning whilst I got up with the kids. He’s now gone to work in a right arse, also shouted at me for letting the little one have my phone because they’re going to break it, just unnecessary moaning at me.
Relevant to add I had my toenail removed yesterday so am pretty incapacitated atm, was told to go home and keep my foot elevated, that didn’t happen as I wasn’t getting any help.
It’s a rent more than anything, before anyone says why can’t you paint the house, I try too, he always says no I’ll do it as you’ve got too much to do with the little ones, why can’t he look after them while I get on with it ? Because he doesn’t want to look after them I guess.
He’s not all bad, he does work hard, he provides, and he’s pulls his weight usually when he gets home, but this pattern of becoming ill when there’s diy to do is really starting to bug me. He gets into this foul mood and just shuts down basically.
What can I say to him ?