To find that there is a great deal of naivety on here

Yes, the “not my Nigel” brigade when in reality it could be anyone’s Nigel or Nigella.
People read about horrific situations on here and want to immediately reassure themselves that it could never be them. They are of course wrong but let’s hope they never find that out!

I think the opposite. It's easier psychologically for women who are married to a misogynistic dickhead who has a PhD in weaponised incompetence as regards childcare and housework, or who thinks lapdances are normal, or who watches porn, to think 'Oh, all men are like that.'

They aren't. You unfortunately just chose a shit one.

I know it is hard for people to understand not all men act the same and neither do all women

There is certain things my husband knows I wouldn't do and he would be right so why doesn't it work the other way round?

My husband knows I wouldn't decide to run around the block, i wouldnt so why would he be naive to think so?

Yes, totally agree. I was just reading a thread about contact between separated parents, and noted how many women said their husband could never be an EOW dad and would want to see the children constantly. That's what an awful lot of women thought about their deadbeat exes who haven't bothered with the children in years.

Absolutely.

I've been listening to a podcast lately called 'The Affair' by Anna Williamson, as I'm quite nosy and intrigued by other people's relationships.

The number of people who say 'I was 100% confident DH would NEVER cheat on me as we'd always agreed together if either of us felt like things weren't working we would talk about it instead of cheating', who are then shocked pikachu when they find out about an affair.

It's quite surprising to me that anyone would assume something like that can't happen to them and their relationship. But I guess everyone has different experiences and maybe if you've never been through anything that makes you realise life is unpredictable and you can only really trust and rely on yourself, maybe you would be that way.

YANBU in a way.

But it's often preceded by ridiculous thread titles like "AIBU to think all men are like this?"

If people would just jack that shite in, there'd be fewer replies like the ones you describe.

To be fair, most of the posts are either faux, or faux naive.
Plop and run. Once you start seeing the clickbait, you can’t unsee it.

But yeah, I agree with your point. It’s very easy to holler ‘my dh would never’ or ltb. Take it all with a pinch of salt or as an exercise in creative writing, you won’t be far wrong.

Fully agree. And the "if my husband shouted at me I'd leave " comments.

Marriage is about give and take and overlooking some things (not everything naturally) and trust...but some people on here are married to either absolute saints or they are the stereotypical dominating wife of sitcoms