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Newnamez · 14/04/2026 08:43

DD is 12 and in yr7 (first yr of secondary).
On the last day of term before Easter she came home and told us that during the first lesson that day 2 'older girls' (she thinks yr9) came to the class (which had a stand in teacher that day) and asked for her by name and said she was needed at the school office by the Head teacher. She went with them. The girls walked ahead of her whispering.
By chance a TA that DD likes and chats to came out of a room and saw the three of them and asked the girls where they were taking DD. The older girls said 'the office' and the TA said i'll take over and they ran away. The TA shared with DD that one of the girls is her (TAs) cousin and said she was a ''little shit'' !! TA took DD to the office and no one had sent for her. TA took DD back to class. That's the bare bones of it. That is literally all i know.

Now, i hear about this at 6 that evening from DD and get more horrified the more i think about it. I emailed a head of year level teacher that evening. I heard nothing all easter holiday which is fine, but i heard nothing from anyone last night either. (yesterday 1st day back)

Ive told DD not to leave class unless an adult has come for her from now on.

Im going to ring the school this morning to ask to speak to someone in person about this.

Am i wrong or is this quite worrying?! How did the girls know my DD s name and where she'd be? Where were they taking her? Why were they wandering round the school? How are they going to stop this happening again?

What would you do/say?

TIA

OP posts:
diddl · 14/04/2026 14:37

she said she was mainly relieved that it wasn't true that the head teacher wanted her

She probably hasn't thought about any sinister motives that the girls might have had.

outerspacepotato · 14/04/2026 14:35

Isn't attempted luring a police matter? Even when done by other students?

They managed to find her class and get her out of the classroom. This is a serious matter and should be addressed ASAP

TheHillIsMine · 14/04/2026 14:31

I am sorry this has happened but what a star your dd is to not be affected by this. I would 100% be mentioning the TAs language though. Not appropriate.

NancyJoan · 14/04/2026 14:29

Newnamez · 14/04/2026 13:35

OK.
Will they try and say i can't ? Is it common to ask to see it?

You can make a subject access request (SAR) for anything that they have relating to your child. They will redact the names of any students/staff.

Hailstoness · 14/04/2026 14:26

OP, well done in being so sure footed in your actions.

I really find what they did extremely sinister.
It most definitely should involve safe guarding, and taken extremely seriously.

Your child is in the care of the school and children walking about asking other children to leave their classes off their own back is completely unacceptable.

It warrants investigation and reporting to the governing body and Ofsted.

Any efforts to fob you off need to be carefully documented too.

You are correct to follow up with detailed minutes of what was said and agreed.

lessglittermoremud · 14/04/2026 14:24

It might worth checking if the girls were ‘student runners’ which might explain why they were out of class but not why they were pulling pranks whilst they were doing it.
In my Son’s school they have a student runner, one child for the morning and one for the afternoon, different children each day. You have to give your permission and it basically allows your child to be the admin assistant during that time.
They run messages to classrooms, forgotten lunches to pupils, show visitors where they need to be etc
It would be odd for a school to pick a pair though and in my sons school its a privilege to be doing it

Wheresthebeach · 14/04/2026 14:09

Its a shame the TA didn't take them all straight to the Heads office. That would have been the best, immediate action.
I'd want to know what the girls say they were planning and why.

Phelicity · 14/04/2026 13:59

It was quite a sinister thing to do - planned and risky, not just a spontaneous prank. I’d definitely want satisfactory answers.

paintingsgalore · 14/04/2026 13:59

Could have a sinister reason for example a child in your dd's form has beef with her, over nothing or a boy etc.

Or could have been something social media driven, a dare or prank.

I hope you get to the bottom of it,

Corinthiana · 14/04/2026 13:56

paintingsgalore · 14/04/2026 13:54

Maybe the older girls have a sibling or relative in your dd's class who don'ts like your dd, so they planned this together.

Do not worry about the TA, tell the HOY everything as it played out.
Very creep, I'd feel unsettled.

If nothing else all teachers and supply staff must be made aware of this incident to prevent any future 'kidnappings' of this sort.

It makes you wonder how crappy their safeguarding training would be. Ofsted would have a field day.

paintingsgalore · 14/04/2026 13:54

Seeline · 14/04/2026 09:02

They may have known her name, but to know exactly which lesson she was in at that time takes some investigation!
It's also strange that the lesson was being run by a supply teacher - was that coincidence or part of the plan? They presumably wouldn't have known any of the pupils involved, or been familiar with the system the school uses for summoning pupils to the office.
The whole incident definitely needs investigating.

Edited

Maybe the older girls have a sibling or relative in your dd's class who don'ts like your dd, so they planned this together.

Do not worry about the TA, tell the HOY everything as it played out.
Very creep, I'd feel unsettled.

If nothing else all teachers and supply staff must be made aware of this incident to prevent any future 'kidnappings' of this sort.

GlomOfNit · 14/04/2026 13:46

OP, I think you're being very sensible here pushing for more accountability from school. I can't believe they'd be ok about two unsupervised students removing a child from class and going off with that child. Hope you hear back very soon.

But - I would try not to panic too much about their intent. I know it feels very sinister but bear in mind that the two older girls, while obviously up to no good, might not have had any plans that were directly to do with your daughter. They may have thought they could use her as 'cover' to do something else, and not have planned any harm to her.

LyndaSnellsSniff · 14/04/2026 13:43

Newnamez · 14/04/2026 13:26

Would it be enough to ask if it's been logged on their CPOMS for my daughter? ( what does that stand for please?) I take it it absolutely should have been.

What could i learn by reading it myself?

CPOMS stands for Child Protection Online Management System.

I suspect the TA did log the incident, or at least informed someone verbally. Hence the girls have already been spoken to.

Moonnstarz · 14/04/2026 13:42

Newnamez · 14/04/2026 13:35

OK.
Will they try and say i can't ? Is it common to ask to see it?

You would know it was recorded for one thing and a good school will log the outcome. If you scroll up you will see how I would have written the CPOMS from the TA perspective.
What you would expect is for the head of year or someone to record what happened as a consequence e.g. the two girls were spoken to about their behaviour. They admitted seeing the name on the books that had been left ready for the supply teacher and decided to trick one child into going to the office. I spoke to them about the serious nature of this. They will attend detention on X date. Parents informed.

It's not common to request information but it is absolutely allowed. They will have to blank out names of the girls.

Corinthiana · 14/04/2026 13:39

whoopsnomore · 14/04/2026 13:36

That would indeed be good practice. Sadly, good practice is not universal!

Too true, as evidenced here!

whoopsnomore · 14/04/2026 13:36

Corinthiana · 14/04/2026 09:54

If a school uses students as runners, they are given coloured lanyards with their names on. If they bring messages, it is for the class teacher only.
If a student is required urgently in the office, either a member of the office staff will come and collect them, or there will be a verified note from the runner.

That would indeed be good practice. Sadly, good practice is not universal!

Newnamez · 14/04/2026 13:35

Corinthiana · 14/04/2026 13:28

You can ask to see it. The incident is recorded as a safeguarding concern.

OK.
Will they try and say i can't ? Is it common to ask to see it?

OP posts:
Corinthiana · 14/04/2026 13:28

Newnamez · 14/04/2026 13:26

Would it be enough to ask if it's been logged on their CPOMS for my daughter? ( what does that stand for please?) I take it it absolutely should have been.

What could i learn by reading it myself?

You can ask to see it. The incident is recorded as a safeguarding concern.

Newnamez · 14/04/2026 13:26

Would it be enough to ask if it's been logged on their CPOMS for my daughter? ( what does that stand for please?) I take it it absolutely should have been.

What could i learn by reading it myself?

OP posts:
Corinthiana · 14/04/2026 13:24

Newnamez · 14/04/2026 12:45

DH says he remembers being a 'runner' for the afternoon at secondary. Sending messages to classes and fetching pupils ect

I don't think it was a thing at my secondary.

Yes, it's a thing, but it's taking round messages, they have no authority to remove students from lessons.

Temporaryname158 · 14/04/2026 13:22

To find out more of what has been logged at school ask to see their CPOMS notes on your daughter. A freedom of information request as such. cPOMS is a system which should have been used to log this incident.

they may need to redact the girls names and that’s fine but the incident should be tagged to your daughters account.

if they continue to sweep it under the carpet, ask for their safeguarding policy (often available on the website and check it’s been followed) inform the you find their response unsatisfactory if they haven’t followed it, and that you will be informing Ofsted, the LEA and governors etc

Newnamez · 14/04/2026 13:21

SoICrawledThroughTheCatFlap · 14/04/2026 12:36

I had a similar experience at high school. The girl who'd been bullying me (because her sister bullied my sister 🤷🏻‍♀️) took me from a classroom.
We weren't stopped.
The fear, I can still feel it now, waiting to see what was going to happen.

I hope you get it resolved ASAP 🤞

What happened in the end here? 💐 I felt ill reading this x

OP posts:
Newnamez · 14/04/2026 13:20

Addressing points:
I said in 1st email to form teacher that i'd be wanting a meeting with someone face to face.

I have no problem with escalating and i def will if it becomes necessary. I read a good piece of advice on here years ago which said that when you are complaining about something keep in mind what you want to happen as a result of the complaint. If it's a simple apology then ask for it. If it's more complicated and you want things done then write it down and stick to it.

What i hate is when you finally get to speak to someone and they blind side you with waffle when you you were expecting a clear apology and to be asked what you wanted done.

Im ready for the later to happen. Maybe i'll be pleasantly surprised ? I will update this as we go along. So many times MN threads pop up when you google for help and you read and hope the OP posts the whole thing.

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Jamesblonde2 · 14/04/2026 13:09

Yes it is worrying. Where were they taking her, what were they doing and why did they have her name.

I’d expect this to be looked into and an explanation.

Luckily the TA was there so an adult who can evidence what had happened.

Yes they do sound like little shits.

TFImBackIn · 14/04/2026 13:05

I don't think those girls were going to take her to the office at all. Thank god for that TA - and actually your daughter is very lucky she gave her a warning about the girls being trouble.

I would want to check that your daughter isn't on the same bus home as those girls - I'm sure she isn't, but I'd want that confirmed.