Incident at school - come and give me your thoughts.

Shame on all those people suggested dropping the TA in it.
It sounds like she’s pretty young and already has a good relationship with your daughter - she is the one who stopped your daughter getting into any trouble

Also, I don’t know about your school, but I’ve worked in schools where there are children wondering about ooc with no particular reason.

Yes stick to the facts but that one comment doesn't need mentioning. This TA sounds like the only decent person I the school getting them in trouble will not help the situation

Yanbu.
That is very sinister.
Great the TA was a witness.
I would take it very very seriously and I would expect the school to do so too.

I wouldn't let it go.

Kids can be so scary. My heart dropped when I read that they ran off.

I think I'd paraphrase the TA because frankly if it's a shit HoY or Headteacher they might zero in on her bad language as a main concern and sidestep the rest but otherwise report as you were told.

I disagree. OP should stick to the facts as she knows them.

The school will be aware of the issues with these pupils

I wonder why the year 9 girls were wandering around during lesson time. I don't recall kids having free periods in year 9.

I'd also want to know who the cover teacher was, and why they let your daughter go off with 2 random pupils. At my kids' school, the cover teachers were regular staff, who covered lessons and did various admin tasks. They'd have known the school rules.

Don't do this

Well OP will find out soon enough.

I'm just going to echo pp here - the Supply Teacher should not have allowed your daughter out of the classroom. Why were the other girls out of their lesson? Something has gone very wrong with safeguarding, and needs to be investigated.
I hope that you get a meeting with the HOY and an investigation is happening.

I advised mentioning the “little shit” comment not to criticise the TA for her choice of language, but because it conveys the seriousness of the TAs concerns. She was obviously alerted to something. It’s relevant.

Give them a minute, there's no suggestion that she didn't report it.

I disagree. The TA should have informed SLT that this happened. She has a duty of care to all children whilst working at the school. She needs to be held accountable if she didn’t report it.

I am a teacher and usually would be the first to say if a parent is overreacting over something small but you are definitely not overreacting here. I would be concerned about this and absolutely would be requesting to speak to the year head. If you're not satisfied with how that goes, go to the principal. As a pp said these older girls obviously had a plan to take your daughter somewhere and I doubt their intentions were good.

Personally I wouldn't mention the "little shit" comment. Yes it was very unprofessional but this TA has saved your daughter from what was at best going to be an unpleasant and at worst dangerous situation, I wouldn't want her to get in trouble. Stick with your line about "behaviour issues" or say that the TA called her a "troublemaker" or something similar that conveys the message but won't get TA into trouble. That's just my two cents. Best of luck and I hope the school will take this seriously.

I agree. I expect she was really angry at her cousin. It's a good job she was there. Definitely follow it up but don't get the TA into trouble, in fact, thank her.

If it's normal practice in the school to send students on errands like this it needs to stop.

You definitely need to meet with the school and get them to take this seriously. The fact they were wandering around the school, and were able to go into another class and ask for your daughter by name and take her out of the class is worrying - and worrying enough for a TA to have alarm bells and intervene. She shouldn't have used the language she did but in the moment she acted on instinct and I wouldn't be focusing on what she said at all - except insofar as I'm guessing the fact she's a little shit caused the alarm bells in the first place.

Speak in person where possible and follow up by email, don't do everything by email as people procrastinate over it.

Agree with PP that all teachers should be told that children aren't released from the classroom on any child's say so.

Agree with PPs re. pursuing this. If they don't respond in an acceptable manner today, I would email the school governors. I don't think Easter is an excuse for something like this not to have been picked up tbh - my DDs teachers routinely action and respond to HR type issues out of hours.

My mind always goes to worst case scenarios, but I would not be happy.

I would equally be absolutely furious that the teacher - even if it was a stand-in - allowed her to go. As an adult, that should have sent alarm bells ringing and it's poor judgment at best from the stand-in.

@Newnamez I don’t mean to say anything offensive here, but does your DD have an obvious SEN and they targeted her because she’s easy pickings?

If she’s vulnerable, easily led, this is even more concerning as to what they planned to do with her.

The whole situation is ‘off’, you need to get to the bottom of it.

I would have expected the TA to have reported the incident at the time, so they should be fully aware of this even before you contacted them. You shouldn’t have to rely on your child to tell you.

The TA did help your daughter, but if I were you I would report factually everything that you know (including the 'little shit' part). It's not your responsibility to intuit or suppose the moral intentions of others*
The situation is very worrying (they weren't gonna take her off for a picnic, put it that way)* and the school needs to investigate every aspect of this pronto.

(*I realise I'm making judgement about their moral intentions 👍)

Odd behaviour all around.
Ask whether it is the norm for other students to pull kids from class? For the teacher to just accept this implies it is🤷‍♀️
I wouldn’t have let my students out of class just like that, especially the younger years.

I think the entitlement of parents these days is ridiculous and there is so much time and energy wasted on parents quibbling over minor things that happen to their little darlings in school. But, this is different. I would absolutely be pushing for a formal investigation here. As you say, why were those girls wandering around? Where were they taking your daughter? I'm astounded that you have not even been acknowledged for what appears to be a serious safeguarding issue.

I don’t understand how they can wander around when they should be in lessons, that’s another problem I’d bring up with the school. It is concerning, what we’re they going to do, girls can be wicked and cruel. Make sure you get a satisfactory outcome and don’t let them brush it under the carpet, good luck 🤗

I think you should relay the “little shit” comment.In an investigation its important to lay out the facts.Dont let your fear of getting someone into trouble override protecting your daughter.

I'd be asking DD for a little background on her history with the girls. Does she know them? Are they friendly to her or hostile?
Obviously the school needs to sort out how two year 9s were roaming round in lesson time and why the cover teacher thought it was OK to release DD to them without any adult say so.
However it would be useful to give the school any background so they know if they're dealing with a random prank, as in DD chosen as random or because they have some sort of acquaintance with her, or if it's something more concerning, that it's part of a bullying campaign.