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Would you come to my “birthday “ get together?

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Donotfitin · 14/04/2026 08:36

I haven’t had a proper birthday party (with acial friends) in like 10 years, but I feel like I now have enough close people to invite (4).

the problem is that they don’t know each other, and one in particular has never met any of them, and I’ve never been out with her before (she’s my “school mum friend”) . Would it be weird to invite her? Would it be awkward for her?

I know I’m overthinking this, but I’ve never been in this position before.

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Nickyknackered · 14/04/2026 08:48

I would come for dinner either out or at a restaurant but not with DH if he didnt know you.

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Donotfitin · 14/04/2026 08:45

AmazingGreatAunt · 14/04/2026 08:42

Depends on what kind of party. If people do not know one another, maybe something informal like a drinks party would be better.

I wanted to go out for dinner BUT I think that place could be too pricey for one of my friends.

the idea of hosting a dinner (with their husbands) also crossed my mind. As I know all of them apart from one (and so does my DH) but thought that could
be TOO intense

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AmazingGreatAunt · 14/04/2026 08:42

Depends on what kind of party. If people do not know one another, maybe something informal like a drinks party would be better.