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To book a Gp appointment to discuss dd contraception options.

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Thisisntasavedname · 14/04/2026 07:40

Because I’ve been made to believe I am. I’ve been searching on here for help on this and I’m seeing a lot of posts where people are saying that it is up to dd to book her own Gp appointment.

For background dd is 14. She has had a boyfriend for a few months. Recently, they have been spending more time together and I just have a feeling dd should go on a contraception.
We have discussed things around consent and infections etc. Whenever I ask dd if she needs to talk to me about anything she just says no. I’ve asked if she wants to go to the go to discuss this and she said no. I noticed something of concern ( which I’m not going to discuss here) which makes me think contraception is needed.

So, would I be unreasonable to go ahead and book the appointment? Surely a teenage pregnancy would be worse than a mum taking her daughter to a gp to talk things over.

OP posts:
Evaka · 14/04/2026 07:46

She's 14 years old. Why are aren't you talking to her about the legal age of consent and the complexity that sex introduces in such a young relationship. Signposting her to all services available by all means and give her a number to call if she'd like to access contraception but do encourage her to pump the breaks. She's so young :(

AngelicInnocent · 14/04/2026 07:44

Her using contraception is a good idea and a chat with someone is great but are you planning on dragging her there, thinking doctor will chat in front of you? I don't get the impression from your post that your dd wants to attend an appointment.

Indianajet · 14/04/2026 07:43

You can't make her go, though - you can book an appointment but she can just refuse to go.

Snorlaxo · 14/04/2026 07:43

Will you be able to get her to this appointment never mind tell the GP that she wants to take contraception? I suspect that the GP would want to talk to her without you in the room so they know that she really wants this and isn’t being forced by you.

Sugarsugarcane · 14/04/2026 07:42

Absolutely the right thing to do, she can choose whether you attend

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