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Misophonia - what are your triggers?

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realsavagelike · 14/04/2026 05:08

My major one currently is people within earshot eating snacks out of a packet e.g. crisps, cookies, and making that bloody crinkling noise. Makes me want to put my fist through the wall. What are your main triggers?

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noctilucentcloud · 14/04/2026 22:30

busybusybusy2015 · 14/04/2026 20:48

As a PP has said, we're talking about coping with an uncontrollable overwhelming all-consuming rage (racing heart, shaking hands, massive damage to personal relationships, struggling with public transport, panic if caught out in public without earplugs/headphones, etc etc.) Wincing at a noisy eater really isn't the same as the (objectively inexplicable) reactions most PPs have to live with. I've found it quite hard to even read the lists of intolerable sounds. Glad "music" has made an appearance as a trigger 😫. I'll just add 'corks coming out of wine bottles' ...

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For me it's an overwhelming feeling of stress/panic and needing to get away from the noise rather than rage. But it does make me irritable and I get physical symptoms like the racing heart and shakiness. Like you even reading these has made me have a lower level reaction.

AccordingToWhom · 14/04/2026 22:30

Slamming doors. Can't bear it.

And doors thst have been left open when there's a breeze and they do that bump bump bump thing. Drives me up the wall.

Katemax82 · 14/04/2026 22:25

As a teenager I had a best friend who almost gave me panic attacks with her nail biting. I could have killed her at times

Katemax82 · 14/04/2026 22:22

My husband hooking loogies in the toilet. Sometimes I could divorce him over it.my daughter can't tolerate her brother or dad eating near her, my 7 year old son the same but more extreme and has to eat alone

Lesina · 14/04/2026 22:20

The sound of kissing on radio plays 🤢
The dry mouth clicking sound when people speak.
Anyone chewing anything
The dog licking or chewing its paws.
Bizzarly, the horse chewing doesn’t bother me at all.

noctilucentcloud · 14/04/2026 22:13

People eating carrots and apples, chewing noises and people scrapping cutlery on metal dishes or containers.

CoodleMoodle · 14/04/2026 22:07

Hiccups is my worst trigger. I cannot bear listening to them and have to excuse myself if someone starts. When the DC were little I put up with it but now they're older I just go away.

I'm not too bad with food sounds but can't stand it when knives and forks get tangled together and you seperate them. The noise goes right though me. When we got a dishwasher I insisted it had to be one with a cutlery drawer rather than a basket.

And a very specific noise the budgie makes. I love his little songs but there's one sound he makes that goes right through me and if he keeps doing it I have to leave the room!

BorisTheShark · 14/04/2026 21:44

Kay00 · 14/04/2026 05:41

Chewing gum (especially as there's no end to it).
Anything crunchy (apples/crisps etc)
Eating with the mouth open.
People who vocalise their yawns. Just stfu 😅.
Nail clippers (my OH has to wait for me to leave the house before he can sort out his nails 😂)

Luckily wrappers don't annoy me.
But I also get the totally ridiculous want to murder the person making the above noises, and I promptly leave the room.

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Yes to nail clippers! I hate it! Makes me feel sick

CaffeinatedMum · 14/04/2026 21:42

ThisChirpyOpalCat · 14/04/2026 20:43

Agree with a lot of the food ones. And dogs licking. Another one for me, that I don’t think was mentioned, is the cooker exhaust fan. When it has been running for a while I will realise I’m completely tense and seconds from losing my temper.

Oh yes good point, this is the bathroom extractor fan for me too sometimes!

LindorDoubleChoc · 14/04/2026 21:23

Tapping plastic nails 😡

Laveritas · 14/04/2026 21:20

Sniffing..feel ill just writing the word

busybusybusy2015 · 14/04/2026 20:48

KaleidoscopeSmile · 14/04/2026 12:30

Annoying and/or loud noises that piss EVERYONE off isn't misophonia

As a PP has said, we're talking about coping with an uncontrollable overwhelming all-consuming rage (racing heart, shaking hands, massive damage to personal relationships, struggling with public transport, panic if caught out in public without earplugs/headphones, etc etc.) Wincing at a noisy eater really isn't the same as the (objectively inexplicable) reactions most PPs have to live with. I've found it quite hard to even read the lists of intolerable sounds. Glad "music" has made an appearance as a trigger 😫. I'll just add 'corks coming out of wine bottles' ...

ThisChirpyOpalCat · 14/04/2026 20:43

Agree with a lot of the food ones. And dogs licking. Another one for me, that I don’t think was mentioned, is the cooker exhaust fan. When it has been running for a while I will realise I’m completely tense and seconds from losing my temper.

TinkyBella · 14/04/2026 19:17

People who lick their fingers when turning a page. Why??

shivermetimbers77 · 14/04/2026 18:23

Chewing gum is the absolute worst of the worst, but any sort of repetitive sound is very irritating.

CaffeinatedMum · 14/04/2026 18:19

Tiddlysocks · 14/04/2026 10:45

How do you eat with your family at the dinner table? Do you have strategies you use? I ask because DS has misophonia, and what works is distraction through conversation. When he is stressed, dinner-time is a huge trigger and he needs to eat by himself. We want to eat together as a family, not every meal, but we aim for one a day. Any other tips?

At restaurants or at school, there is enough back-ground noise and distraction.

For me it is just conversation and radio, but I do make mealtimes as short as possible. I will often get up and start washing up in the same room as the others eating so I can still join in. I’m not too bad if I’m eating at the same time but if I’ve finished then listening to others is unbearable. When I’m really stressed or tired I will eat alone, which is ok at the moment as we don’t always eat with the kids anyway as they are still very young so like to eat very early.

BlueberrySummerCloud · 14/04/2026 18:17

trainedopossum · 14/04/2026 17:08

“My DH can make the dog jump biting into an apple” That made me lol 😹 My grandfather was like that (and his son is the same).
My DH has good table manners and is quiet and polite when he eats but does a little flick with his fork which makes a ‘zhing!!’ against his teeth that possibly only I notice. It makes me feel crazed.

Its like a whip cracking !

Omg nooooo no cutlery on teeth noises !

Wordsmithery · 14/04/2026 18:11

Any toilet noises. I hate house guests for this reason.
Gulpy swallowing of drinks.
Grindy jaws when eating.
Tinny headphones on a train.

trainedopossum · 14/04/2026 17:08

“My DH can make the dog jump biting into an apple” That made me lol 😹 My grandfather was like that (and his son is the same).
My DH has good table manners and is quiet and polite when he eats but does a little flick with his fork which makes a ‘zhing!!’ against his teeth that possibly only I notice. It makes me feel crazed.

IncompleteSenten · 14/04/2026 12:35

Tiddlysocks · 14/04/2026 10:45

How do you eat with your family at the dinner table? Do you have strategies you use? I ask because DS has misophonia, and what works is distraction through conversation. When he is stressed, dinner-time is a huge trigger and he needs to eat by himself. We want to eat together as a family, not every meal, but we aim for one a day. Any other tips?

At restaurants or at school, there is enough back-ground noise and distraction.

Does your son want to eat as a family?

KaleidoscopeSmile · 14/04/2026 12:30

Annoying and/or loud noises that piss EVERYONE off isn't misophonia

Netcurtainnelly · 14/04/2026 11:29

TV being loud.
Noisy eating
Deep breathing/snoring.

AClassicTrenchcoat · 14/04/2026 11:17

After reading this I can now add vocal fry to my list.

Tiddlysocks · 14/04/2026 10:45

How do you eat with your family at the dinner table? Do you have strategies you use? I ask because DS has misophonia, and what works is distraction through conversation. When he is stressed, dinner-time is a huge trigger and he needs to eat by himself. We want to eat together as a family, not every meal, but we aim for one a day. Any other tips?

At restaurants or at school, there is enough back-ground noise and distraction.

Davros · 14/04/2026 10:41

Knuckle cracking and that thing DD does when she stretches her neck until it cracks 🔪
Whistling is my main one