Solo night away - dh not happy

I stay in hotels regularly for work and I've not once had a good night's sleep. Hotels are noisy places and theres always people talking, walking up corridors and closing doors through the night. I would have driven home to have a good night sleep in my own bed.

How dare he. Let him walk a mile in your shoes. He should be ashamed of his judgemental BS.

Book the hotel.

Definitely do it! When my last baby was 9 months, I left the kids with DH and had a night alone in a spa hotel! Dh paid for it as a Christmas present (I asked for it.) I arrived at 4pm, had a massage, had a solo dinner and huge glass of wine, bath, book, bed. I slept 12 hours in an enormous bed and it was amazing. Baby not a good sleeper so this was my first night with no wake ups in 9 months. I felt so much better for it. Your husband is being really mean spirited and implying that you want to be away from your baby is totally missing the point. Of course you love your baby but you are human and its one night in 11 months! X

He’s jealous. Either he’s upset that you’d rather have a decent night’s sleep away from him & he would prefer you spend it with him OR he thinks you’re planning on shagging someone else.

I've booked myself a couple of times to have a decent night sleep and mroe importantly a long leisurely coffee and shower the next morning!
My partner thought it was a great idea

He doesn't even do any part of bedtime? Bloody hell.

He said I wanted a baby, as did he, so I dont get to just ditch him and go to a hotel whenever I like.

Be cautious of men who distort reality to make an argument. One night in a hotel in a year is in no way “whenever you like”. Is he in the habit of wildly exaggerating things you’ve said or done and then reacting to the exaggerated version he has made up rather than the reality?

Why the fuck is it up to him as you have arranged everything, he doesn't even have to look after his child on his own for one night (which would also be entirely reasonable?) His opinion is not required. When DDs were 4 and 1 I went away for the weekend and DH looked after them.

Why do you need time away from the baby? Er, to retain your sanity?

WTF is his problem? It’s not as though he’s left holding the proverbial. He could fuck off to a hotel too if he wanted.

Go and have fun!

It’s great your son has such a loving and caring relationship with your mother.

Your DH sounds jealous. Does he ever go out?

I come at this from your DM's point of view. DIL recently went back to work part time. I'm too ill to provide fixed days of childcare (I have a life limiting condition), I still absolutely love spending time with DGD. I take her for brunch at least once a week and if DIL wants a break I jump at the chance, so does her DM.
DS works long hours, but they share the night wakes and responsibilities when they're both at home. DS would never question DIL's desire to have some 'me' time, either alone or them together.
DIL is a wonderful DM. I think it makes her a better parent if she wants to book an extra pilates session, go for a swim or have lunch with friends because it's good for her to have a break. Plus, it makes for a more confident DC (DGC is brilliant) who doesn't get upset when away from her parents.

Did you know that only a few species enter the true menopause and that’s ( from the top of my head) great apes, whales. Elephant females also have greatly reduced fertility but not a true menopause. That’s because the success of the species depends upon the matriarchal knowledge being passed down and on them helping to support the younger generation. Is a fascinating concept that also explains why we adult human females go through menopause. Your mum is doing exactly what her instincts are telling her to do and you need to use your support village to the benefit of you and your baby. If your DH can’t see that this only benefits you and your kiddo going forward then maybe you need to address this through counselling? Could it be sone sort of resentment ? Jealousy? ( you know, from sleeping through every night 😂🤷🏼‍♀️).

https://www.nwf.org/Magazines/National-Wildlife/2024/Winter/Animals/Mammals-Human-Menopause

You book that hotel and enjoy every single moment of it ☺️ you DESERVE it!

Glad you've booked it and are looking forward to it, and that DH has apologised. Enjoy!!

Plus it’s none of @Applecup’s never mind what OP does or where OP goes or whether OP stays in Highclere Castle or a hotel.

Haven't RTT. Jesus, the bad behaviour of so many men never ceases to amaze me. You tell him that you are the 24-hour carer of your baby, you carried him and birthed him and do the lion's share of his care, you are an excellent mother and you deserve a nice night off. Us woman HAVE to stand up for ourselves more and tell it like it is.

You have a dog and a big baby and a little baby.

And the big baby is mean and selfish.

When I whined, my dad told me to dry up.

Tell that big baby to dry up and enjoy your restful stay at the hotel.

In fact, shove a dummy in that big baby’s mouth.

Send them a postcard while you’re there. haha

Diabolical behaviour from your husband- he does no wake ups yet said “you wanted this baby” when offered a break?

sorry you’re discovering you’ve married such a cunt. What are you going to do?

She's an hour away from home and assume will be having drinks with lunch.

If he isnt doing night wakings OP, he's a tit!

Exactly... so still 2 hours travelling each day. For what? To go home and sit with a prick who doesnt value her? She's already said he can't get off work.

This. What a miserable twat. And he gets a night off too anyway. Everyone should be happy!

Glad you've got a nice mum at least.

Go and enjoy yourself.

Which is exactly what I was saying. If his reaction would have been different if OP had put this to him on the basis that they would have an uninterrupted shag, it would demonstrate that he doesn't genuinely believe that she is being lazy.

I’d make it two nights.