Solo night away - dh not happy

Is there a reason your mum is looking after that baby rather than him? Definitely book your hotel but baby should be with your DH. Surely he should want to bond?

I've just realised that I'm 33... and no longer live with my parents? They just palmed me off at the ripe age of 20 and I should probably never forgive them...

Every opportunity? 2 days in 334 days... is that every opportunity?

Yep, two nights in 11 months, woman barely sees her kid clearly, bet she can't pick him out of a crowd or remember his name after so much time apart from him 🙄🙄

Presumably you think parents should home school until 18, never use any form of childcare or holiday club, never allow sleepovers at friends houses. I'm sure THAT how you raise healthy adults 😂

This is such bollocks.

Except she isn’t is she? It’s one night.

What about him? He had a child and he can’t be arsed to look after it. Leaves it all to his wife.

He's right. Don't have a child if you're going to palm it off on someone else at every opportunity.

They aren't being deserted. They're with a loving care giver they know.

@BoogieTownTop

dont have a baby unless you’re prepared to not have a shower until your child has acquired language and can understand what you’re doing. Be happy and grateful to stink of B.O

What age are we allowed leave our kids? I must not have got the "factual" information leaflet you wrote about the rules of motherhood

It’s not “factual” that an 11mo baby is too young, it’s just your opinion. HTH.

It’s not factual. It’s just your opinion.
There is nothing wrong with a mother leaving her child with a trusted carer.

I sincerely hope you never had a long hair appointment whilst yours were that age and arranged for someone else to have them? Or a dentist appointment or medical appointment!

Deserted they’d be!

Of course they weren’t!

I mean with @Wishingplenty analogy, you couldn’t go to the shower without them feeling deserted. I’d argue a baby left regularly is confident that mum is coming back. Rather than never being left then suddenly at 3 or 4 and worrying that they won’t come back,

It is not factual, it is anecdotal.

OP has already said her mum has had him overnight a few weeks ago and has cared for him before.

OP is also going to be near by. She is not dropping her child off with an absolute stranger and making a run for it.

Just say you find it uncomfortable for yourself.

So 11 month olds can never go to nursery or be baby sat? Don’t be utterly ridiculous.

I went back to work at 11 months including a night away with work not long after. I have friends who were in hospital giving birth for 3 days when their child was just turned 1. I promise our now 7 year olds were not scarred for life.

They’re not being deserted, they’re with their doting grandmother.

By this analogy a woman can never leave an 11 month old for even five minutes, because the baby doesn’t understand that they’ll be back in five minutes?

Mothers go back to work before 11 months a lot, what happens then?

11 months is too young. That is just factual. We are not talking about a 4 or 5 year old that can be told and unexplained to why their mother has gone. The baby will be distressed, they won't know why they are being deserted.

It’s so creepy that people are this controlling of each other. Do people really run their relationships this way? Having to jump through hoops and present their cases to have standard freedoms?

This tit for tat in relationships is so damaging. A relationship is meant to be life-enhancing, not a bloody shackle. The fact that your husband’s first thought wasn’t you must be really tired to need something like that and maybe we need to look at making adjustments so you get more rest is very telling. He doesn’t care about your needs.

It’s not the most logical answer though. It would mean them both driving there separately and her not having a lie in as he’s have to get up early for work.

There’s nothing wrong with her wanting some time to herself and an uninterrupted nights sleep and a lie in.

I honestly think every mum with dependent chidren should do this twice a year within whatever budget they can afford. It has huge benefits for the mum and the children and their partner and the whole family.

1. Mum comes back refreshed
2. Mum feels not being taken for granted in domestic situation and is generally happier and positive
3. Dad has total responsibility for their children so appreciates what it entails and has some bonding time
4. Absence and fonder and all that is not a cliché 😁

I think you should do it, OP

Ah. Is that like saying someone who has been deprived of food for some time should only expect a little? They don’t deserve and shouldn’t expect a full meal? Both food and sleep are essential to survival.
the op deserves a full nights sleep AND a sleep in. Women are people too. Hth.

Bloody nonsense.
The woman is tired. Her loving mother wants to help. She's spending ONE night in a hotel nearby. She's not running off to join the circus for a year.

At what age is one allowed to be away from ones child overnight? 16? 18? 35?