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Dog walker wants cash in hand

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funtimetoni · 13/04/2026 20:15

Started using a new dog walker in January, as old one moved away. Today he messaged and asked if I can start paying cash. Ive been paying by bank transfer and always on time. AIBU to think no, you can be paid through the correct channels like everyone else. For the record he charges towards the higher rate for the area, so it's not like I'm getting a bargain.

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 14/04/2026 08:55

Nothing wrong with paying in cash in terms of legalities - it’s also the recipients responsibility to pay their taxes etc not yours to make sure they do.

The only thing I don’t like about paying in cash for regular jobs like this - eg my cleaner likes cash - is that it’s a pain to go and get it out. But I do it as that’s how she has decided to run her business and she’s a good cleaner.

You can say no to him but he might decide he doesn’t want to dog walk for you any more.

CautiousLurker2 · 14/04/2026 08:53

HortiGal · 14/04/2026 08:44

@CautiousLurker2
My town has 16,000 population and we have 6 cash machines, I just can’t abide ppl moaning at a wee one person business asking for cash but justify tax avoidance by huge companies.
So petty.

I’d refer you to the post above explaining that it is not companies using legal means to reduce their tax bills that are the issue - it is small businesses fiddling the system that deprives the government of £billions in funds.

But if it is petty to feel aggrieved that the majority of us pay our legally obligated taxes when others don’t, then yes I am petty. I am probably petty in that I also feel that the few people who shoplift should be also arrested/prosecuted because the rest of us pay for our goods at the check out (and underwrite the losses brought about by those thefts by inflated prices). I am probably petty in wishing people would properly dispose of their personal/business waste by queuing at the local municipal tip rather than fly tipping, especially as I pay for the clean up in my ever increasing council tax bills.

For most of us, it is seen as being honest, following the law, and meeting our civic duty in paying our dues so that the society we live in is fair and can support those less financially privileged than we are.

But that’s just me. Petty.

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 14/04/2026 08:49

Hamalam · 14/04/2026 08:26

This. In spades! It isn’t Amazon that’s your enemy, it’s the builders paid in cash, the takeaways paid in cash, the barber paid in cash.

People are going to stick their head in the sand over that one. They can't cope with a narrative where the big guy isn't the bad guy. They'd rather bite the hand that feeds them. Meanwhile, millions of small business owners who are honest are experiencing existential crisis, struggling to keep afloat with a government that wants to squeeze them dry from every angle.

whomadethatmess · 14/04/2026 08:46

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 14/04/2026 08:13

With businesses that provide weekly services requiring immediate payment you you simply text after 48 hours reminding them of your terms of business and explain that the next scheduled violin lesson/dog walk/house clean is on hold until the account is paid up in full. It can't be that hard.

But then you still don’t have the money, have to take action to chase, and don’t know if/when the payment will be made so can’t plan your next week’s work or rely on next week’s income either. All a lot of extra hassle because people can’t pay on time.
All avoided if paid in cash immediately.

HortiGal · 14/04/2026 08:44

@CautiousLurker2
My town has 16,000 population and we have 6 cash machines, I just can’t abide ppl moaning at a wee one person business asking for cash but justify tax avoidance by huge companies.
So petty.

CautiousLurker2 · 14/04/2026 08:36

HortiGal · 14/04/2026 08:16

As stated in opening post I always pay on time. Paying by cash would be inconvenient and I'd be much more likely to be a late payer.
why would you be a late payer? are you incapable of withdrawing cash?

Like many others on this thread, she may live in a town with no banks. I live in one. There are just two ATMs in my town centre outside supermarkets (population is 50,000). No banks and a post office in TJ jones where you can queue for 20 mins to pay in cash. I NEVER have any cash in my wallet/purse unless some has been sent by the PiLs to the kids and the kids have then rolled their eyes and asked me to take it and transfer the money to their accounts. Other than Camden Market on a recent day out I’ve not ‘needed’ cash since before covid.

I strongly believe people should be able to use cash, but cash payments should be trackable/evidenced by receipts and businesses need to understand that many of us really do not have easy access to cash anymore.

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 14/04/2026 08:29

BehindTheMirrorAgain · 14/04/2026 08:08

@HeadDeskHeadDesk

Well said. I dont think paying in cash is "normal" at all, purely for reasons of convenience. In our high street, we used to have three different banks. They have now all gone, they went a few years ago.

We have a few ATMs but two of them are always out of order and the third one charges a fee for people to withdraw cash. So, not only have you got the inconvenience of driving around searching for a working ATM, you are then charged for the privilege of drawing out your own money! I am not paying extra just to pay a business in cash.

I dont know anyone who carries around fistfuls of cash because of security risks. Most people use their phones to make payments now. Cash is rare.

We have people who pull out wads of cash to pay for transactions that might be £200 or £300 quid sometimes. It amazes me! I do occasionally suspect that some of our cash paying customers are either obtaining that cash via something dodgy or that they are being paid cash in hand to either avoid paying tax, or continue claiming benefits. But I can't police all my customers. It's not my job to give them the Spanish Inquisition and I am not going to do HMRC's or the DWP's job for them by turning down legal tender that people want to spend with me. I'm only responsible for how I account for that cash once it's mine.

Hamalam · 14/04/2026 08:28

I do think there should be a law that lets small businesses and freelancers double their invoice if it is paid late.

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 14/04/2026 08:28

HortiGal · 14/04/2026 08:20

@Hamalam
Key points regarding Amazon's tax practices:

  • Tax Avoidance Criticism: Ethical Consumer reports that Amazon's tax avoidance in the UK could have cost over £575 million in lost taxes in 2024
They are well known to avoid paying full tax as are many of the brands you no doubt use.

https://taxjustice.uk/blog/a-third-of-global-tax-dodging-is-enabled-by-the-uk-and-british-overseas-territories/

@hamalamsaid that Amazon don’t evade tax, which you’ve just shown.

I’d bet that Amazon pay millions to make sure their operations are tax compliant and that they pay all taxes due.

Fourhorsepeopleofthefunopcalypse · 14/04/2026 08:26

funtimetoni · 13/04/2026 20:15

Started using a new dog walker in January, as old one moved away. Today he messaged and asked if I can start paying cash. Ive been paying by bank transfer and always on time. AIBU to think no, you can be paid through the correct channels like everyone else. For the record he charges towards the higher rate for the area, so it's not like I'm getting a bargain.

Why is cash not a “correct channel”? However, I agree, she’s probably tax dodging and if it concerns you, just say no.

Hamalam · 14/04/2026 08:26

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 14/04/2026 08:24

It absolutely is not. 60% of the total tax gap is small business, 12% is large business. That’s £28bn from small business alone and a further £2bn from individuals who don’t meet the “wealthy” threshold. Another £4bn if we include mid size businesses.

Only £5bn of the tax gap is from large business, and another £2bn from wealthy individuals. Those are not the people avoiding tax to the great detriment of the economy - it’s small cash in hand businesses by quite some margin.

This. In spades! It isn’t Amazon that’s your enemy, it’s the builders paid in cash, the takeaways paid in cash, the barber paid in cash.

Legomania · 14/04/2026 08:25

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 14/04/2026 04:29

you can get cash back in supermarkets.

Only the big ones. The metros near my home and my work don't offer cashback

Hamalam · 14/04/2026 08:24

HortiGal · 14/04/2026 08:20

@Hamalam
Key points regarding Amazon's tax practices:

  • Tax Avoidance Criticism: Ethical Consumer reports that Amazon's tax avoidance in the UK could have cost over £575 million in lost taxes in 2024
They are well known to avoid paying full tax as are many of the brands you no doubt use.

https://taxjustice.uk/blog/a-third-of-global-tax-dodging-is-enabled-by-the-uk-and-british-overseas-territories/

That’s avoidance not evasion. It’s totally legal. I suggest you look at slight more reputable sources than tax justice uk!

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 14/04/2026 08:24

LoremIpsumCici · 13/04/2026 20:51

Most of that tax gap- 71% is from big businesses not paying corporation tax, excise taxes and NICs

It absolutely is not. 60% of the total tax gap is small business, 12% is large business. That’s £28bn from small business alone and a further £2bn from individuals who don’t meet the “wealthy” threshold. Another £4bn if we include mid size businesses.

Only £5bn of the tax gap is from large business, and another £2bn from wealthy individuals. Those are not the people avoiding tax to the great detriment of the economy - it’s small cash in hand businesses by quite some margin.

Greenwitchart · 14/04/2026 08:24

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 14/04/2026 08:13

With businesses that provide weekly services requiring immediate payment you you simply text after 48 hours reminding them of your terms of business and explain that the next scheduled violin lesson/dog walk/house clean is on hold until the account is paid up in full. It can't be that hard.

You are very naive. As a freelancer I can tell you that people will regularly pay their invoices late or try to not pay them at all...

HortiGal · 14/04/2026 08:21

@Hamalam cash points in every supermarket and petrol station, hardly a faff, you just can’t be bothered.

Hamalam · 14/04/2026 08:20

HortiGal · 14/04/2026 08:16

As stated in opening post I always pay on time. Paying by cash would be inconvenient and I'd be much more likely to be a late payer.
why would you be a late payer? are you incapable of withdrawing cash?

Loyd of people are. I drop my child off, I go to work, I pick my child up on the way home. It’s a faff to find an ATM. I’m not going out info my way to facilitate my dog walkers tax evasion.

Jc2001 · 14/04/2026 08:18

busyd4y · 13/04/2026 20:19

I pay in shops by cash every week, should I be telling them they're doing it wrong?

If you don't want to pay by cash find a new dog walker

Shops don't insist that you pay cash though.

Having to pay for something like this in cash would be massively inconvenient for me as I rarely carry much cash around with me.

HortiGal · 14/04/2026 08:16

As stated in opening post I always pay on time. Paying by cash would be inconvenient and I'd be much more likely to be a late payer.
why would you be a late payer? are you incapable of withdrawing cash?

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 14/04/2026 08:13

Maray1967 · 14/04/2026 08:06

I repeat my point. For music teachers etc there is a big problem of parents forgetting to pay by transfer.

Our driving tutor does take payment by bank transfer but it has to be sent 24 hours before the session and if it isn’t he doesn’t turn up. Perhaps other tutors who are less in demand don’t feel they can demand that.

With businesses that provide weekly services requiring immediate payment you you simply text after 48 hours reminding them of your terms of business and explain that the next scheduled violin lesson/dog walk/house clean is on hold until the account is paid up in full. It can't be that hard.

BehindTheMirrorAgain · 14/04/2026 08:08

@HeadDeskHeadDesk

Well said. I dont think paying in cash is "normal" at all, purely for reasons of convenience. In our high street, we used to have three different banks. They have now all gone, they went a few years ago.

We have a few ATMs but two of them are always out of order and the third one charges a fee for people to withdraw cash. So, not only have you got the inconvenience of driving around searching for a working ATM, you are then charged for the privilege of drawing out your own money! I am not paying extra just to pay a business in cash.

I dont know anyone who carries around fistfuls of cash because of security risks. Most people use their phones to make payments now. Cash is rare.

Maray1967 · 14/04/2026 08:06

I repeat my point. For music teachers etc there is a big problem of parents forgetting to pay by transfer.

Our driving tutor does take payment by bank transfer but it has to be sent 24 hours before the session and if it isn’t he doesn’t turn up. Perhaps other tutors who are less in demand don’t feel they can demand that.

somanychristmaslights · 14/04/2026 08:05

Well it’s up to you. He’s providing a service and asking to pay in a certain way. If you don’t want to, then don’t use his services. Simple really.

Greenwitchart · 14/04/2026 08:04

Receiving cash does not mean that the money is not declared in a tax return.

If this is a regular small amount it is not an unreasonable ask.

I am a freelancer and dealing with people who delay paying their invoices, or try to avoid payment, is a nightmare. This is getting more of an issue with the cost of living crisis.

I would not blame a dog walker who might have had issues with some clients being slow in paying after the service has been delivered deciding to ask all their clients to pay in cash up front at the end of the walk.

I would not pay cash for larger amounts/tradespeople for example but would be happy to pay a cleaner, gardener, cat sitter or dog walker in cash.

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