Trans nursery workers?

I don't think that men, TI or otherwise should be working in nurseries, so I'd have the same concerns about the TIM as any other man. The TIF wouldn't worry me any more than any other woman.
I don't want men in women's spaces and I don't want men around small children in environments where the vetting and supervision often falls short.
I do accept that people with a trans identity have the right to, and will, inhabit public spaces and will be employed, and that it is inevitable children will encounter them, and don't think its appropriate to seek to keep children from them merely on the basis of their trans identity.
I think its up to us as parents how we explain trans people to our children in an age appropriate way. And at 3, it would be unlikely to present an issue. But if it did, for example if the person was teaching them things I felt inappropriate, I'd address this with the nursey in terms of the specifics.
It is after all entirely possible that young non trans allies amongst the staff could also be telling the children things you'd rather they didn't. So it's behaviour rather than the fact she's a TIF that matters.

If you don’t believe in gender (but admit there are stereotypes)

???

you can’t see people’s underwear (apart from all the celebs now posing naked nearly!)

so when you say men are acting out a fetish you mean wearing clothes that don’t match their shape?

wouldnt you have to look really close and include all people In poorly fitting clothes?

this person has not shared their beliefs with you or your child and i am sure they never will

I'm equally certain they definitely WILL share their belief with the children. In fact, just by enacting that belief they are doing so.

Kids CAN tell men from women you know? It's completely disingenuous to pretend they can't.

Of course it is. That many other ridiculously captured people are going along with it, doesn't change where the narrative is coming from

If you don’t believe in gender how can you say that certain clothes are for women only?

Why would a male identifying as female pose a greater risk than a male identifying as male?

Because they do. Over 60% of trans identified men in prison are there for rape and sexual abuse as compared to 15% of men who do not identify as trans. This includes CSA.

Frankly though, I'd be concerned about ANY man who wanted to look after small children but especially one who was probably enacting a sexual fetish.

The danger from trans identified women is more ideological. They are no more likely to physically abuse a child than any other woman. But far more likely to lie to that child about gender and changing sex.

Who then?

No. I would move my child.

There was a post not so long ago regarding male nursery staff, this is no different. I wouldn’t want any male stranger having access to my child especially not one with mental health issues.

It isn’t TRA putting pressure on women to believe trans people have changed biological sex I’m afraid.

Not a chance. I’d remove my kids. Children should not be taught that their boundaries are meaningless. They also shouldn’t be lied to. Girls especially need to know who men are.

I'd be concerned too that it seems to be a deliberate ploy from the management.

But in this case, the kids aren't going to know that the transman is in fact a biological woman, unless she brings it up, which would be incredibly unprofessional.

I wouldn't want a trans identifying male nursery worker, as there have been too many cases of male nursery workers abusing kids.

I think your concerns are valid and much as I respect anyone’s right to choose what they do to their own body I’m not sure that I would feel comfortable sending my child. It’s a sensitive subject but in a nursery setting everyone has a right to feel comfortable with the people they leave their children with.

If you have a fundamental issue with trans people and how they live then of course you should remove your child. That’s entirely your decision to make. Rather that then make demands to the employer about who they are allowed to employ.

I don’t agree there is an increased risk of abuse with any particular sex or gender working with children as long as robust and appropriate safeguards are in place.

No adult should have any opportunity to abuse a child in a nursery/school/any other setting.

Very few trans people think they have changed sex

So why all the "Trans women are women. No debate" then? Why all the silencing and shaming for those that disagreed? Why all the trans women in women's wards, and sports and prisons? If most trans people don't believe that they've changed sex, why all the pressure on the rest of us to believe they had?

No disrespect, but this is NOT NOT NOT a nursery teacher. They have training and degrees etc. Anyone can work in a day nursery

Are you for real? The whole notion is that they have adopted a ‘gender’ that over rides sexed bodies and biology is irrelevant. The latest that taking HRT actually changes your chromosome make up to that of the opposite sex so you literally change sex. Some Women have a penis, that’s all.

This has no place around children of this age.

Why would a female identifying as male pose a greater sexual abuse risk than a female identifying as a female? Why would a male identifying as female pose a greater risk than a male identifying as male?

You are free to feel uncomfortable about people who aren't like you or who don't conform to the standards you think are correct. You are free to remove your child. Anything beyond that would be unreasonable.