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Trip of a lifetime, AIBU to go

31 replies

Onegiantpupil · 13/04/2026 16:24

I’ve an opportunity to go on a trip of a lifetime abroad next year. It will be for just under 2 weeks. It will involve flying long haul to another continent and hiking with a guided group. Not Everest or anything as technical or dangerous as that but think beautiful scenery and occasionally higher altitude than what I’m used to.

DH and I have a DS who will be 6 at the time of the trip. DH is happy for me to go and our parents will help out a bit just so he’s not having to use all his annual leave and he can keep some aside for school holidays.

I would love to go but my brain is going into overdrive and I’m having intrusive thoughts. Mainly around whether this would be unfair on my DS who is a little behind in terms of development eg communication and being able to explain situations to him. He is being referred by the school for an EHCP for additional support. He is a happy and very easy going boy but the longest either I or DH have been away from DS is 4 days. I also worry about if something happens to me eg illness/injury/plane crash. I tell myself that I could just as easily walk down the road and get hit by a bus but it still doesn’t sit any easier with me.

I know I am an overthinker but I feel guilty about going. AIBU to go?

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InterestedDad37 · 13/04/2026 16:31

Go go go!

CoyGoldenKoi · 13/04/2026 16:28

Take a deep breath, let go of the anxiety, remind yourself that DH is perfectly able to parent, love and reassure one 6yo by himself, and he isn't even going to be by himself as he has help.

Then get packing and go have a lovely time.

Catza · 13/04/2026 16:28

I can't imagine anyone telling you not to go. You don't give up the right to live your life when you become a parent. Your son will be all the better for you having this experience and inspire him to do amazing things when he is older.

Itstoday · 13/04/2026 16:27

Go!
speaking as the mother to a disabled child. Please go.

AgnesMcDoo · 13/04/2026 16:26

Go, go, go and have a wonderful time

Newbagg · 13/04/2026 16:25

Get packing and have a wonderful trip!