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To leave a note at his door

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singlemum10 · 13/04/2026 14:38

Okay, I need opinions...

I have a crush on my neighbour (who will be my neighbour for another 3 months) but I rarely see him, and when I do I’m usually with my son so it’s not really a moment to talk. But he is so kind to us both and extremely handsome. I'm a single mum in my late 20s, have 2 child-free nights a week and don't have time to meet people in day-to-day life and I very much miss having a connection with someone

So I’m thinking of leaving a note on his door like:
“hi neighbor, I always forget to ask if my stroller is in the way in the entrance - let me know if it is, and you can text me on xxx if we don’t run into each other” (I genuinely do always forget to ask)

Very neutral, not flirty as I don't know his relationship status or if he is even into me! I'm just not sure if this is the worst note ever to leave haha, just thought it might open the door veeeeeery slightly

What should I do?
A) leave the note (lowkey, no expectations)
B) leave the note but add something to make it easier to start a conversation
C) don’t leave a note, just wait until I run into him
D) abort mission completely lol

OP posts:
ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/04/2026 16:05

C. That note is crap really

pinkdelight · 13/04/2026 16:04

Wait to talk to him when you see him. That note won't open anything really. It's just about a pram, really no flirty subtext unless you put kisses and hearts at the end and that's not ideal either. If it's you who's moving out in three months, you've got nothing to lose by being a bit bolder and having proper chats with him to find out who he is, if he's single and if there's any spark. If you're son is young enough to need a stroller, it's not like he'll be taking any interest in your chat.

FeliciaFancybottom · 13/04/2026 16:04

That's a crappy note if you're trying to instigate a romantic/sexual relationship.

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/04/2026 15:59

A
What harm can it do? It's a note about a pushchair.

toomuchfaff · 13/04/2026 15:57

C.

Do not leave a note.
Do not leave a note.

EarringsandLipstick · 13/04/2026 14:43

C

Definitely don't leave the note. You've no idea how it might come across, and you'll be tying yourself in knots trying to imagine.

If you meet him, have a chat and take it from there ...
And if you don't run in to him, leave it.

Easterbonnet26 · 13/04/2026 14:39

c