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singlemum10 · 2026-04-13T13:38:10+00:00

Okay, I need opinions... I have a crush on my neighbour (who will be my neighbour for another 3 months) but I rarely see him, and when I do I’m usually with my son so it’s not really a moment to talk. But he is so kind to us both and extremely handsome. I'm a single mum in my late 20s, have 2 child-free nights a week and don't have time to meet people in day-to-day life and I very much miss having a connection with someone So I’m thinking of leaving a note on his door like: “hi neighbor, I always forget to ask if my stroller is in the way in the entrance - let me know if it is, and you can text me on xxx if we don’t run into each other” (I genuinely do always forget to ask) Very neutral, not flirty as I don't know his relationship status or if he is even into me! I'm just not sure if this is the worst note ever to leave haha, just thought it might open the door veeeeeery slightly What should I do? A) leave the note (lowkey, no expectations) B) leave the note but add something to make it easier to start a conversation C) don’t leave a note, just wait until I run into him D) abort mission completely lol

DramaAndBullshit · 15/04/2026 17:45

Batshitgreens · 15/04/2026 05:17

Next time you meet him in the hallway drop something. When he's bending down to pick it up, you quickly do the same. Make sure your hands touch when trying to pick up whatever you'd dropped and look him in the eyes while it's happening - give him your best 'longing stare'. Then try kissing him.
Works every time. Good luck.

God I hope this is satire

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singlemum10 · 15/04/2026 15:50

thefourthbeatle · 14/04/2026 23:31

i also like the note so i say go ahead, OP! a single male will, i think, take your note as an indication that there is a good possibility that you like him. potential problem is that the note may vanish before he sees it so if he is silent you will have to wait until you run into him perhaps weeks or months down the line to ask if he got the note. therefore you should post the note (in an envelope) under his door. this is also (slightly) more forward - no bad thing! i would also sign off with your name. (but definitely no kisses or ❤️). good luck 🤞🙏🍀

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Well the point of the note was to make it as non-flirty as possible in case he does have a girlfriend (imagine she was with him, or saw it before him!), and then kind of start a conversation from there as the contact would then have been initiated. Thought that's the most respectful thing to do and the least embarrassing for myself. But people aren't keen on it! 😂

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HatStickBoots · 15/04/2026 14:30

I used to have a flatmate thirty odd years ago, who would ask me to do her dirty work for her because she was too shy. I was even more shy but she was very insistent. I always had to be the one to say “My friend fancies you!” And he’d look around and catch a glimpse of her face as it went beetroot, then ask me out instead. It all got very awkward. Just go up to his door, “Hi Jim, my friend fancies you!” Etc

BitOutOfPractice · 15/04/2026 13:49

Im hopeless ar this sort of thing @singlemum10 but I love love love the idea of an emotional support cake.

Good luck!

user1464187087 · 15/04/2026 13:45

Notabarbie · 13/04/2026 16:11

I would bake two lemon drizzle loaves and bring him one of them. He will not be able to tell if you're flirting or not because this could mean anything. As long as you are very warm but demure. It gives him a notion but you have plausible deniability. And don't say much when you hand it over unless you're very good at being relaxed. None of this I made too much, thought you might like it, hope you like lemon etc. Just I hope I'm not disturbing, I've been baking today, hope you enjoy and allow him to say what a kind thought and then it's his turn.

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This is worse than the note idea! 😀

Batshitgreens · 15/04/2026 05:17

Next time you meet him in the hallway drop something. When he's bending down to pick it up, you quickly do the same. Make sure your hands touch when trying to pick up whatever you'd dropped and look him in the eyes while it's happening - give him your best 'longing stare'. Then try kissing him.
Works every time. Good luck.

Batshitgreens · 15/04/2026 05:11

FeliciaFancybottom · 13/04/2026 16:21

Blimey, don't give up your day job.

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Scarydinosaurs · 15/04/2026 04:37

Your note idea will work as in my experience, men always assume (not all men) you’re coming onto them. So it should do the trick.

FantasyFoodhall · 15/04/2026 03:48

AmyDudley · 13/04/2026 17:26

Stand on the street corner twirling it round your head and shouting 'sex and lemon drizzle anyone ?'

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I’m down.
But I have absolutely no class and if someone were to ask me round for a cup of tea and a Krispy Kreme I’d be pretty much ready to settle down.
OP I’d probably try and bump into him, chat about where he’s moving or something, and ask him
round for a coffee.

RawBloomers · 15/04/2026 02:35

Knocking on his door is best, but if you really can't bring yourself to do that a note might work, just not that note. Make the note make your intention clearer, don't talk about strollers and being in the way.

OneNewEagle · 15/04/2026 00:22

singlemum10 · 14/04/2026 20:24

You guys would actually have the balls to knock on his door if you were in my situation?? God I envy you!

It’s the best option. You know one way or the other then.

OneNewEagle · 15/04/2026 00:21

No note c or d knock on his door and ask him if he’d like to go for a coffee (do not do this if he’s got a wife). Good luck

thefourthbeatle · 14/04/2026 23:31

JMSA · 14/04/2026 22:32

Am I the only one who likes the OP’s note idea (A)?! 😁
Obviously it will lead to further chat when the neighbour texts her back … which he will do, if he likes the OP.
I like it because it doesn’t put him on the spot immediately, and is a good way to give him her number.
Good luck OP and keep us posted!

i also like the note so i say go ahead, OP! a single male will, i think, take your note as an indication that there is a good possibility that you like him. potential problem is that the note may vanish before he sees it so if he is silent you will have to wait until you run into him perhaps weeks or months down the line to ask if he got the note. therefore you should post the note (in an envelope) under his door. this is also (slightly) more forward - no bad thing! i would also sign off with your name. (but definitely no kisses or ❤️). good luck 🤞🙏🍀

JMSA · 14/04/2026 22:32

Am I the only one who likes the OP’s note idea (A)?! 😁
Obviously it will lead to further chat when the neighbour texts her back … which he will do, if he likes the OP.
I like it because it doesn’t put him on the spot immediately, and is a good way to give him her number.
Good luck OP and keep us posted!

Middleagedspreadisreal · 14/04/2026 21:16

D

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singlemum10 · 14/04/2026 20:24

You guys would actually have the balls to knock on his door if you were in my situation?? God I envy you!

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FunMustard · 14/04/2026 19:11

Don't leave a note, but take the bull by the horns and knock on his door. Ask him out for coffee - if he declines, or you don't gel, then never mind, you're moving soon (I know it's not far but you'll be surprised how often you won't run into someone not in the same building!) - but if you do, then you have the convenience of next door but not really.

Good luck!

ThisMellowCat · 14/04/2026 19:08

Why wait till you bump into him? Don’t send the note but knock and ask, just say I’m sorry I haven’t asked you before, as we’re always on the way out/in and it completely goes out of my head. You’ve said he’s moving so just laugh and say hopefully not because of pram gate. Break the ice, see where it goes.

Sassylovesbooks · 14/04/2026 18:28

Given you are moving to the building next door in 3 months, and don't see him to talk to very much. I'd pop a note through his door: Hi Matt, I don't know if you're single, but I wondered if you would like to grab a coffee with me sometime? My number is XXXX. Laura x'. You literally have nothing to lose by popping a note through. If he doesn't reply, then you'll probably see him even less than you do now, once you move!

DramaAndBullshit · 14/04/2026 16:05

singlemum10 · 14/04/2026 12:45

What happened to this thread 😂😂😂 I am more confused than I was when posting lol!

I am sensing a general consensus of no note, so will not be doing that

I am only moving to the building next to ours for a bigger apartment, so will still be VERY nearby, but will very likely never see him as even living next-door to each other, I haven't seen him in weeks.

So I coooould make a move when moving...? Might be awkward if we run into each other. Not to mention, I am so terrible at making a move, fear of rejection gets me every time. I’ll probably need to bake myself a lemon drizzle for emotional support if that happens

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E: leave a note on the day you move; “hi, it’s @singlemum10, we are moving to the next door building, but I shall miss bumping in to you. I have a couple of child free evenings a week, I’d love to stay in touch, here’s my number”

If he doesn’t contact you, there’s no shame because you’re unlikely to see him by accident.

Oh, and bake the lemon drizzle and eat it yourself.

Tacohill · 14/04/2026 15:39

Definitely do the note but do it on the day you leave so there’s no awkwardness.

In the meantime just keep saying hi to him and trying to strike up a conversation in some way.

We need updates OP! I am already invested in this relationship 🤣

And definitely bake yourself a lemon drizzle!

Firesidechatter · 14/04/2026 12:50

Jeez don’t be baking cakes and asking for sugar.😂

the note isn’t a bad idea if you don’t run into him, but the stroller part is. Really bad.

so if you see him again, and you’re brave enough, ask him if he fancies a drink sometime. If you don’t, put a note through the door. With your number and say was hoping to run into you, am moving to x. If you fancy a drink sometime here’s my number.

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singlemum10 · 14/04/2026 12:45

What happened to this thread 😂😂😂 I am more confused than I was when posting lol!

I am sensing a general consensus of no note, so will not be doing that

I am only moving to the building next to ours for a bigger apartment, so will still be VERY nearby, but will very likely never see him as even living next-door to each other, I haven't seen him in weeks.

So I coooould make a move when moving...? Might be awkward if we run into each other. Not to mention, I am so terrible at making a move, fear of rejection gets me every time. I’ll probably need to bake myself a lemon drizzle for emotional support if that happens

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MissFenellaPrism · 13/04/2026 22:29

Aaaallthefood · 13/04/2026 21:20

Lemon drizzle and sitting in the pram aside 😂😂

I once wrote my number on a napkin and approached a very attractive man in a bar (as I was about to leave) and said ‘I’ve no idea if you’re single or not, but if you are then here’ gave him the napkin and left. It worked, and we went on a date. Turns out he didn’t have much of a personality to match 😅. But why don’t you wait until just before you go and try it! If he never messages then at least you don’t have to crack your door slightly making sure he’s not in the hallway before you leave your place for very long after

I like your style 👍

Aaaallthefood · 13/04/2026 22:03

AmyDudley · 13/04/2026 21:56

She could write her number on the lemon drizzle and stuff it through his letterbox.

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This made me laugh out loud in bed.

Maybe she could write a stray digit on crumbs of Lemon drizzle and Hansel and grettle him to her front door