To leave a note at his door

Why say this? Feels unnecessarily mean.

@singlemum10 whatever you decided to go with, lemon drizzle or no lemon drizzle, hope it works out for you!

Are you leaving the note that you mentioned originally? Oh dear, if so.

Don’t leave a note. The thing about the stroller seems very cringeworthy and forced. It will come across really odd as a note. You should wait to bump into him and then bring it up casually, ‘’oh, I’ve been meaning to say, I hope the stroller isn’t bothering you at the entrance?’’ Then hopefully strike a friendly conversation from there.

Failing that, the fact that one of you is leaving in three months is excuse enough for you to knock on his door to say goodbye to your neighbour, thank him for his kindness since you’ve known each other and hope things go from there. I see no need for a note.

Edit: I see you already did the note. Good luck 🤞🏻

Sending you thoughts & best wishes. If nothing happens, nothing lost. If you hadn't made the move it would always grate at the back of your mind. (Unfortunately, I've been there 🤯👎🏾). ❤️🙏❤️

Good for you OP!! 😁😁

What did you put in your note and has he contacted you?

add plenty of Brandy 😁

No i’m not a guy

I suppose that he wouldn’t in a hundred years think that this note was an invite for a closer connection. I’d find a different topic for a note. Something more direct. I’d ask him if he’d like a coffee sometime before he leaves

D. You’d know by now if he was interested in you.

I have asked out a lot of men. Especially in my 30s when my divorce was over, I'd healed, had a good job, and my son was older.

Never again. Without fail EVERY man I asked out assumed I just wanted sex, and that's how I was treated by them all. There was no real harm done, but a lot of disappointment. I didn't let them disrespect me, but I did make a lot of mistakes and put way too much stock into relationships which weren't going to happen.

I then joined a dating site in 2011 and that's where I met my current partner and we've been together almost 15 years now. He approached me, but before him, I again wasn't afraid to approach anyone I liked the look of on the site (but again, they assumed I just wanted sex).

And when I say I asked them out, there was nothing sleazy about it. I always kept it light hearted.

As long as you think you can keep it light hearted, I would knock on his door. You can do the cake thing (I never did anything like that) or just say a warm "hi! How are you?" and then carry on from there.

I also see nothing wrong with the note idea, and I have done this before with good results.

C or d

Do I understand this correctly…….you see your neighbour when you’re with your DC in the stroller????? Why can’t you then invite the neighbour over for coffee sometime? What is the harm in engaging in conversation when a child is there…….it’s not like you’re going to ask for a bunk up is it??

Neighbour knows you have a child so strike up a conversation when you’re with your child rather than just saying ‘ Hi’ and moving on. He might want to get to know you better but think you’re not interested. There’s no harm in inviting someone over for a coffee in front of a child is there??

I think write the note but add a PS: are you allergic to lemons?

sorry but if the feelings were mutual surely he would have done something by now also....so d

Just speak to him. You aren't teenagers but grown adults.

I'm going to go against the grain! Leave the note! It's non flirty, you can totally claim it was all about the pram if it ever gets mentioned and he's not interested AND it doesn't stop you from making any moves in future if he just doesn't get the hint. Life is too short! Go for it!

That note is fine! He’ll have your number then. 😉

A

I will now never not be able go think of an emotional support lemon drizzle…
might need a special collar with a label and everything.

I met my DP by texting his manager at work who I knew briefly from chatting in the shop he worked in, I had the managers phone number from making an enquiry and he’d text me back with the details a few months before.

I told him I fancied one of his staff and asked if he was single.
I worked round the corner and after work the manager was waiting for me with my confused DP who didn’t have a clue why he was there.

Luckily it worked out but 13 years on we don’t tell people how we met and just say it was at work.
Not surprisingly he doesn’t like the idea of people discovering he was delivered to me like a piece of meat and I’m not keen on my wanton ways being exposed in case people think I’m a forward hussy.

Oh and I found out later his manager was disappointed because he apparently fancied me and his texts about the business he ran were to lead to more conversation so people are correct when they say that this approach doesn’t work.

I didn’t have a push up bra but this was before I hit perimenopause and fell to pieces and became old and haggard, these days I’d have to rely on baked goods to reel in another man and I shall keep a steady supply of cake for DP now in case some temptress tries to woo him with her lemons!

I fear that unfortunately this is some men’s fantasy come true - except they are the one sitting in the stroller 🤢.

I like the note idea OP 🤷‍♀️😊

Definitely don’t knock on the door OP!

Some people find it really intrusive and so you’ll be starting off on the wrong foot.

Keep trying to talk to him when you see him.
I would definitely ask him about the stroller being in the way and perhaps have another question ready to ask him that relates to your building.

You can mention that you’re moving down the road too.

Then when you’re moving, then put the note through the door.

B

How old are your children?