AIBU to feel furious after my father ruined my new home?

Men’s piss - indeed any piss - will be removed by the machine. Calm down. Whether you want him around again is another matter. I’m astonished though. In many decades of enthusiastic drinking I’ve never wet myself.

Oh pack it in! There is not an epidemic of women murdering and abusing men out of hate, there is the other way around though. Many women have a very good reason to hate men, but seeing as they don't do anything about it but keep to themselves, I don't think men have anything to fear 🙄

Very telling that you have more concern about OP not liking men, than what the OP has endured at the hands of them though. Oh and by the way, if a man knows he has bladder issues, he shouldn't be getting drunk and sleeping on someones brand new sofa knowing full well hes likely to piss all over it. Just how low is your bar?

YANBU but binning throws etc seems like an overreaction? Would you bin all the bedding if your children wet themselves?

I’d have him pay up to fix/professionally clean the rest (such as the sofa) and never have him drink in my house again. Grim.

I got out of one too. You don’t get a medal and unreasonable is still unreasonable. And if I threw a tantrum and threw every thing out every time someone disappointed me I’d have nothing left.

So yeah, drama llama.

Mans piss running through my new washing machine. Are you serious. That’s what washing machines are for. To wash things. It’s, its job. You chuckled out perfectly good stuff. Ok I get your dad was out of order pissing himself and was probably far too embarrassed to admit it but your way over re acting. Plus there’s definitely a lot of man hate in your post

Yep - always a good idea to soak your toyboy in anti-bac fluid. You don't know where he's been!!😁🤣😂😅

From what OP has said, he's sufficiently compos mentis to at least apologize and clean up after himself - and it's pretty clear it was alcohol induced.

I think an adult needs to work hard to have a rational balance. I had an ex who was a twat and used to hit me but I left him for another man who im still with 23 years on and I never took up extreme levels of man hate! Screaming I hate all men and I I'm not having man piss in my washer is just not healthy and it's a not a healthy example to set to her kids. Daughter's will grow up treating men like shit because they are being taught that men must all be hated and not even allowed to put clothes in the washer. And if she has any sons how is she going to make them feel. She says her dad isn't an alcoholic, she hasn't said how much he had to drink. She's just explosively hateful to her children's grandfather when normal calm people would be concerned that their elderly father night be getting incontinent and need medical help! As for all the cretins on here calling the father a dirty pig? How do they know whether this guy is starting to have age or even cancer related bladder issues or not.

I can understand why you binned the items, OP. Yes, you could have washed them, and yes your washing machine would have been fine after a hot wash. But you've just come out of a relationship with an abusive man, and furnished your first home, and then another man has come in and pissed all over it - literally and figuratively. I can imagine how it would feel contaminated.

Well done for getting yourself to where you are now. Have a break from your dad and set some serious boundaries if you ever want to invite him in again. 💐

I can’t get how the ceiling stains could have happened

or just how drunk he was to piss his self

He sounds disgusting.

I’m so sorry OP. I comp understand why you were so angry and really hope this doesn’t mar your enjoyment of your new place. Keep being house proud - you deserve to be. Best of luck going forward.

That's a lot of wee. How on earth did he get it on the ceiling? Did he lose control of his hose?

This. Don't ever invite him back again. You can get upholstery cleaner that eliminated urine. Get the pet one.

And I’d bin the lot I wouldn’t want anything with a grown man’s wee all over it!

This!
I’m so sorry you’ve had this
make him replace everything definately

Oh, don’t be silly- the washing machine won’t be any the worse for washing that stuff!

Those marks on the ceiling looking like a leak from.what ever room is above, you'd struggle to get coffee/coke on a ceiling unless u deliberately chucked it up there, and even then it would be a line shape

Don’t denigrate someone who’s got out of a shitty abusive relationship - drama llama ffs. I would imagine she’s had enough name calling to last a lifetime. Are you normally this tone deaf?

Did you over react by binning something- possibly
could it be cleaned- very likely
would you look at the items and just be annoyed by the memory, think you could still smell the wee?- agree with binning

Again this 'just wash them, it's no different to a child/pet.'🤦 As it happens, my dog peed on the bathroom mat today (it's happened before) when she was on her own in the house. I just said, 'tch, bloody dog' and slung it in the washing machine and thought little more of it. It is totally UNLIKE some skanky drunken man pissing on something, which even if washed, would remind me of their horrible loutish act and annoy hell out of me every time I looked at it, and I don't have OP's history of trauma.

Are you a drama llama, nothings is ruined and everything can be cleaned / washed / wiped down. Just don't invite him to stay over again

I don’t totally agree with others saying it’s completely solvable, urine on a sofa is not easy to complete remove depending on the material and how far it’s sunk in.

I agree with others that throws could be washed, rug possibly washed, sofa he should pay to be professionally cleaned.
i wouldn’t have him stay again and he should pay for any cleaning round the house.
I assume this was totally new behaviour tho from your reaction so that must be a worry?

This is so sad , your dad who should have come round and been proud of you and done a bit of dad DiY , instead come around and drunk , pissed all over the place blames the dog and leaves without cleaning up

very disappointing behaviour

can you speak to him about it and would he recognise his behaviour is unacceptable ?

last but not least congratulations on your brave new life !